What's worse, giving birth or the first 3 months of having a newborn?

Elfrieda - posted on 09/10/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




Am I the only one who dreads the baby more than the labour? I'm due in 7 weeks, and am totally freaking out. Every time I think or talk about breastfeeding, crying babies, sleep deprivation, or anything that reminds me of when my son was really young, I start tearing up and breathing really fast and getting kind of dizzy. Those were very dark days for me, and I don't want to go back there. (the birth was actually pretty great, I had him at home and it hurt but not like they show on movies, it was quite bearable and I felt like I could do anything, fly, leap tall buildings, etc, for days afterwards.)

I'm trying to get excited about the baby, so I'm pulling out the onesies and getting everything ready pretty early. My sister in law just had a baby and I've been purposefully spending some time with her and holding the baby just to see how sweet the little creature actually is. It's working a little bit, but I'm still worried that I'll have trouble with giving birth if I can't get past my fear of having the baby actually on the outside! Any ideas on other things I could try?


Firebird - posted on 09/10/2012




Honestly, my daughter's birth was pretty decent. Healing from it while taking care of a newborn was definitely worse. My daughter slept through the night (talking 8 hours straight) at just 5 weeks, so I wasn't sleep deprived too long. But the pain of healing and trying to nurse (that didn't go very well at all!), is something I would not look forward to again. Remember when your new baby comes, that all of them are different. You could have a really good sleeper this time. Good luck and congrats on your upcoming bundle of joy. If your worried about your labour, bring some music and headphones, it may help take your mind off of the anxiety.

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