What term would you use for the opposite of a "Tiger Mom"?

Mary Renee - posted on 08/04/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Aloha,

I am curious, what would people call a parent that is the opposite of a "Tiger Mom" or "Kyoiku Mama"? For those that might not know, "Tiger Mom" was a book written by Amy Chua about raising her American children in a very traditional Chinese fashion, which including forcing them to do extracurricular they might not have wanted to do, or making them practice a piano piece with no breaks, not even for water, until the piece was perfect.

This is often boiled down to "Demanding Eastern-Style Parenting" vs. "Permissive Western-Syle Parenting" but I was looking for an actual term to describe the later.

I wouldn't call Attachment Parenting the opposite of "Tiger Moms" or "Kyoiku Mamas" because both sets are very involved in their children's development. You know what I mean? The attachment parenting might be more permissive, but they are still super involved. I think the opposite of a Tiger Mom would be one that lets their kids chose their own activities, quit if they don't want to do it, be who ever they want to be and the only goal is that their child is happy.

What do you guys think? I know it's not exactly juicy and I'm saying one is better than the other, I was just curious what terms, if any, people had for the later.

Mahalos!

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My reason for pussy mum comes from two places. Soft "pussy cat" as opposed to ferocious tiger or "pussy" as in too damn wimpy to push your kids to do anything at all.

Stifler's - posted on 08/06/2012

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I didn't even think of AP in relation to the opposite of tiger mum.

Stifler's - posted on 08/06/2012

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It's wrong when you've propped your 2 month olds bottle up on a pillow instead of feeding them and you're outside having one not even watching them. Twisties are those puffed things with orange coating.. like Cheetos.

Cherish - posted on 08/06/2012

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@ stifler-what is a twistie?Tho I have not done the other things you mentioned but what is wrong w/ a parent having a pepsi and a cigarette for breakfast?lol

@Corinne-I can not think of anything else either than the sea turtle now that I got Nemo in my head..lol Actually come to think of it,Nemo's dad was super over protective ,and the turtle was the opposite...Are tiger moms over protective?

What is the opposite of a tiger?Maybe a dolphin?lol

Stifler's - posted on 08/06/2012

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Cheezel Mum. The kind of mum whose kid throws a tantrum in Coles, so they yell at them to get off the floor and give them a spanking. The kind of mum who cracks a can of Coke at 8am, (or red bull) and hands the kids a packet of twisties for breakfast (age 2). The kind of mum who buys alcohol for their 14 year old and friends to be the cool mum and doesn't inform the other parents that their kid is hungover, they don't in fact have food poisoning. The kind of mum who mocks university education, women with careers and encourages wagging and being disrespectful of school rules. I could go on. But we all know what kind of mum I'm talking about.

Corinne - posted on 08/05/2012

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I like that one Elfrieda! "let's see what lil squirt does, flying solo" . I can't think of one now I've got that in my head.

Elfrieda - posted on 08/04/2012

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Sea Turtle Mom? (from my extensive knowledge of sea turtles gleaned from "Finding Nemo")

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