What would you do?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/25/2011 ( 26 moms have responded )

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Ok, so in high school, I had this guy who was a total prick to me...I mean real douche bag...he tortured me every chance he saw me....He popped up on my Facebook page as someone I may know....curiosity made me look at his page....he looks the same as my memory which made me see red just looking at his picture. I had a moment of anger where I almost wrote a nasty message to him telling him what a total ass he was throughout high school. Alas, my husband talked me out of it. What would you do if anything?

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Sara - posted on 02/25/2011

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I'd just leave it. He's a douche, hopefully he weighs 400lbs now and lives in a van down by the river, as karma would dictate. I know it's hard, but you have to just let go of shit like that. I know it makes you angry, but you are just letting him continue to torture you like you're still 16. Fuck that guy. I bet he has a small penis.

Joanna - posted on 02/25/2011

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Don't message him. And if he would message you, I'd be civil and polite. Don't ever let him know youve given him much thought.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/28/2011

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Deanna, he never "friended" me. He popped up as someone i may know.

If he ever does, which I doubt he will...I will totally give him a piece of my mind. I have a hard time letting bygones be bygones.

Stifler's - posted on 02/27/2011

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I have everyone from school on Facebook even people I seriously disliked.

Stifler's - posted on 02/27/2011

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Nothing lol. Or befriend him to laugh at his pictures and post his status' to Failbook.

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ignore him and move on. If he tries to friend you again ignore it and just send him a short message that due to his behavior in high school you do NOT wish to have contact now.

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I would leave it alone unless he contacted you.

I knew a couple of guys like that in high school but I got mine. They asked me out (on separate occasions) and I told them where they could go and how to get there. It felt good.

Jenn - posted on 02/27/2011

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I wouldn't waste my time on someone like that. What's the point? It would just give them the sick satisfaction that they can still get to you.

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Alright bitches (I say that with love ♥ ), I now have carpel tunnel syndrome from clicking 'funny' too many times!!!



If I were you, being that Ive also had this experience, I would add people who I knew was on his friends list then make posts of how wonderful and grand life is and rub it in his face. Post how you feel sorry for people who are inheritly miserable, who spread their misery to generations to come, and if you could share but one drop of your magical sunshine you would for the betterment of all man kind. ; )

Seriously though, hopefully he's grown up and by making yourself obvious he will see you and remember how awful he was and feel bad, triggering a heart felt apology. Here's to hoping he's evolved. : )

I do feel your pain, though. Childhood trauma and bullying is no joke.

Joanna - posted on 02/25/2011

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Hehe Laura, my mother taught that to me! But it works... The look on the " mean girls'" faces are proof.

Lady Heather - posted on 02/25/2011

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I had a guy like that in high school. I figured karma would take care of him one day. He died on the oil rigs when we were just two years out of high school. Now it's not like I wanted anything like that to happen at all, but well...you probably don't want to mess with karma. Best to just pity the people who are obviously so miserable they have to share it and move on. Hopefully buddy has learned from his mistakes. Some of the wenchiest girls I went to school with are now nice women. They were just misguided I think.

Sara - posted on 02/25/2011

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I have to agree. If he ever contacted you, tell him he can juggle your imaginary balls in his mouth. :)

Ez - posted on 02/25/2011

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I wouldn't contact him at all. It will only stir up past hurt for you. I have no experience being bullied or harrassed at school, but I imagine it does leave a lasting impression. I just think by going after him now you would be giving him power over you again. Ignore it. But if he contacts you, hand him his ass :D

Sara - posted on 02/25/2011

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There's one guy I knew in college that I hope contracted a horrible STD and his penis fell off. I'm friends with his brother on FB and I spied his page. His wife looks like she's about 50. Mwahahahaha...asshat.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/25/2011

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It is like in "Labrinth" I need to repeat "you have no power over me!"

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/25/2011

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BAHAHAHAHA!!!!! Sara, he is indeed a big boy, I am sure with little to show. His wife ( I spied of course) looks like she is an old hag. He looks the same....he was big in high school to.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/25/2011

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I don't know if any of you remember the "what were you like in high school" thread, but he was one of the guys. His friend was the one who asked me out and appologized. That is the one I got to laugh in his face.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/25/2011

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He is one of the kids in high school ( I was a vegetarian) and would come and literally slap me in the face with deli meat, and tell me some crude meat comment about his "sausage". Believe me, I fought back....oh did I fight back. I just saw him and got enraged! I have been out of high school for many years, and I know this should not bother me....but oh it did.

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People like that aren't worth your time. I say let it go and let him go on with his miserable self. Hopefully one day, he'll realize what an asshole he is and change.

Jodi - posted on 02/25/2011

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Oh yeah, that's a totally different thing altogether. If he contacts you, you have the perfect reason to tell him to stick it.

Jodi - posted on 02/25/2011

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Well, it's not high school any more, I'd just ignore him. Getting angry at him at this stage is pointless, so I'd just ignore him and move on. Writing to him and telling him would be a pointless exercise IMO. I mean, how far out of high school are you?

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I wouldn't send the guy anything at all.I think that: First, someone who acts that way is not worth your time. Second, this is an issue you have to deal with for yourself.

I would personally write down my feelings (or draw) and meditate to release that anger then move on. I do believe in Karma and even if I don't wish ill on anyone (try not to at least), I just pray for these people to learn better during their life. Holding on to anger is detrimental to you and what he did to you is unfair and unjustified but not worth hanging on to.

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