What would you do? Gay PDA

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 08/20/2010 ( 27 moms have responded )




If you seen the same sex man/man or woman/woman kissing in public and you are with your kids…who notice as well??

Most of us teach our kids about differences (some when the need arises) but there is a difference between talking about it and seeing it.

Would you avert the question in your childs eyes, go up to them and cuss them out…what would you do??

~This by the way is a t.v. show on ABC~


?? - posted on 08/20/2010




I'm not big on PDA's either... but a kiss or holding hands... I give my man kisses in public randomly and my gay friends give their partners kisses in public too. Doesn't make it inappropriate.

Making out and groping on the other hand, I'd be explaining that there's a time & place too.

Jessica - posted on 08/21/2010




I can't speak for others, but I have no problem with people showing affection in public! Provided its "mild" like a hug or kiss, cuddling, etc. I get annoyed when I see groping, fondling, like Sharon said- a half step away from having sex in public. And that has nothing to do with race or sexual preference- everything to do with simple public decency lol. Why not go somewhere more private where you can go at it freely?

Nikki - posted on 08/20/2010




It wouldn't bother me that they are gay, I will teach my daughter about different types of couples, her aunty is gay, so she will be aware of different types of couples.

Personally I am not a big fan of public display's of affection, for any couple, homosexual or heterosexual, so I will most likely teach her that there is a time and a place for any couple to be overly affectionate with each other.

?? - posted on 08/20/2010




I'd keep walking, the same as I would if it were a man/woman kissing. It's none of my business. If my son asked what they're doing, I'd tell him they're kissing. If he said anything about it being two girls or two men, I'd say "yes, and?" see what he has to say about it and go from there.

If he says something negative, I'll ask him why? And then I'll continue to ask him questions until I find out why he thinks it's negative. And then explain to him why it's no different than a man/woman kissing. If he says something positive or apathetic then I will ask him why he feels that way and continue the conversation in that manner.

There's nothing "to do" in this circumstance, IMO. If anyone goes up to a couple showing affection in public - no matter the sex of either participants they deserve whatever comes at them.

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I would just explain the the kids that couples are not necessarily heterosexual. Love is love and it has nothing to do with gender. I am not a big fan of PDA... Kisses fine, holding hands fine, smack on the bum sure but the "get a room" behavior... not so much. No need to lick each others tonsils in public... That grosses me out no matter if the couple is homosexual or heterosexual.

Krista - posted on 08/23/2010




I agree with most of the others here. As long as it's not crossing the line into foreplay, I don't give a hoot.

I've never, ever, ever understood some people who are against gays kissing or holding hands in public, who say, "I don't want to have to explain that to my kids." Isn't it a parent's JOB to explain stuff to your kids that they don't understand? What is so damn earth-shatteringly difficult about saying "They're in love."?

Danielle - posted on 08/23/2010




You know I think PDA is gross either way...gay or straight...I don't want to see anybody making out in the street and I don't want my kids to be subjected to that either. Holding hands, a kiss here in there...that's all fine and I don't feel that's offensive. I just think that those couples who stand around mid-sidewalk sucking the lips off each other need to grow up a bit.

Barbara - posted on 08/21/2010




I found that episode on Youtube, and the only disturbing couple on there was the straight one! Man, they were really going for it! The gay couples were fine, very mild and appropriate pda, IMO.

Thejordan_family - posted on 08/21/2010




Its a PDA thing for me too. As stated above they dont need to be diving into each others pants/parts. Hand holding is great, kissing is fine, I'm even up for a good bum squeeze. Gay or not, young or old any more than that and it grosses me out.
My daughter is 4 and right now we are playing a game where her disney characters get married but not to the correct people ie: Belle and Gaston, Wicked Step Mother and Prince Charming, Prince Eric and Sebation... etc etc. the other day I said Gaston and the Beast got married. She said "They can't marry, they are two boys." I said that they could and that if they loved each other that it would be a good thing and a happy event. She had a hard time wrapping her mind around it. I would like to think that I am an "open" parent but from my daughters reaction I realize I need to introduce her to different lifestyles and talk about it more.

Lacrecia - posted on 08/21/2010




omg just watched the the vid and i can't beleive people acted this way calling the police turning around. REALLY!!! my take on gay relationships is hey do what ever makes you happy because where only here for a short while. as for PDA it does not bother me at all as long as theres no hummping and clothes burning im good and i would tell my daughter people who are truly in love show their feeling buy kissing and holding hands. these people who are calling the cops and screwing up their faces need to get a new f***ing hobby.

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Its a part of life and my oldest knows there's different couples in this world and shes seen gay couples holding hands a few times and never batted an eyelid..one day she said aww mommy there in love and off she went as normal.Shes never seen kissing other than straight couple obviously but i dont think she would care.Again its a part of life.No need to make a big deal of it unless in any case with any couple there actions were very inappropriate.

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It's the PDA thing, not the 'who is doing it'. Holding hands, hugs, signs of affection is not PDA. Swaping spit, fondling, groping, hands up & down pants....save it for private. I teach Freshman this year so when I reviewed the student code of conduct I hope I embarrased them enough with the school policy of PDA, no matter WHO is doing it. No, I wouldn't approach anyone, but if my child should ask, I will let him know that they need to go kiss somewhere else.

Iris - posted on 08/21/2010




Why shouldn't people show affection in public? A kiss, a hug, just a bit of appreciation? My husband and I get the same stare because I'm white and he's black. And I don't care what your opinion is, we all have the right to show affection to the one we love in public as long as you keep your top and your pants on.

Sharon - posted on 08/21/2010




HAHAHAHAHA!!! I'd do the same as if I'd seen a straight couple kissing. Provided they aren't full on groping, 1/2 a step away from having sex in public, I'd say nothing & do nothing. If they've got their hands down each others pants and had spit running down their faces, I'd cry public indecency and kick ass.

My kids most likely won't ask questions about it. They say "gross" because currently to them, all kissing is disgusting.

Jessica - posted on 08/21/2010




"I'd keep walking, the same as I would if it were a man/woman kissing. It's none of my business. If my son asked what they're doing, I'd tell him they're kissing. If he said anything about it being two girls or two men, I'd say "yes, and?" see what he has to say about it and go from there. "

^^ I would do this too. I might briefly explain that sometimes two men/women feel that way about each other just like men and women do... I'd basically treat it as normal and not make a big issue of it either way.

Amber-Dawn - posted on 08/21/2010




Wouldn't care. Unless, like most of the posters above, they were practically having sex in public. That bugs me, homo or hetero. It's unnecessary, and kinda gross.

Amie - posted on 08/21/2010




I wouldn't need to do anything. The only one who wouldn't truly understand what was going on is also our youngest. She's still too young to start explaining it too but our oldest 3 have had explanations.

None of them have a problem with it and neither do my husband or I, within reason of course. (Which has nothing to do with a couple's sexual orientation.)

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 08/21/2010




its called What would you do...its on ABC look it up on youtube and a bunch of show topics should pop up.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 08/20/2010




on the show you had people calling the police on the couples...wanting to press charges....

Johnny - posted on 08/20/2010




I agree with what the previous posters have said. It's unimportant whether the couple doing the PDA is gay or straight, I'd only be bothered by either getting all gropy or tonguey or fondly. We see gay couple holding hands or pecking all the time, so I doubt my daughter would mention or notice it at all. And if she did, and had negative issues about it, I'd want to get to the bottom of where she got those ideas from.

If I went up to them and cussed them out, I'd probably be criminally charged, and I'd deserve it.

Jodi - posted on 08/20/2010




It wouldn't be an issue. My kids have understood that two men or two women can have a relationship just like a man and a woman. I have a gay brother, so it is something that just is!

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