What would you think would be said....?

Desiree - posted on 02/05/2011 ( 23 moms have responded )

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......at your funeral? This may be a weird topic for a conversation but its something I have thought about many times. I sing at many funerals and while listening to the service and the eulogies I wonder what people would say at my funeral and whether they would be honest? Some how I don't think so?
I also wish that I could be a fly on the wall that day just so I could hear what people say about me.

I would like them to say hey she was a great person that wonderful, but better yet I would prefer them to say, Yes she was my best Friend but you know she was a bit of a cow when she wanted to be.. She drove me insane when she got it into her head, and boy did she have a temper on her.

I have sat through so many that they have said "She never Complained"
I have truely wondered did she really never complain. I know I do and often.

So what would you like to hear from the grave.

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I want people to say I was perfect despite all my faults because the people who love me have to love me for me faults and all so to them I am perfect ;-)

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I only have a minute to post, so I thought I'd throw ths one out there... When my dad dies he wants to be cremated and he wants us to spread his ashes where he and his dad used to go hunting when he was a kid. He also wants us to play "Another One Bites the Dust" by Queen at both the memorial and when we spread his ashes :) I love my daddy and his wonderufl sense of humor :D

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Honestly have you ever heard anyone say something bad about anyone at their funeral? I doubt that those people that have nothing nice to say about the person would even go. :) So IMO I think that those people that attend my funeral must see my good qualities or at least see something good about me to be there.

Petra - posted on 02/06/2011

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I would like my besties to show up, cheers their coffees/martinis over my urn, smoke a ciggie, and maybe crack some jokes about my little quirks. A few happy tears and a few laughs would suffice. I wouldn't want a u-goo-galy (ha-ha) where I was put on some pedestal and made out to be a saint, because I'm not. So some nostalgia and hugs would make me more than happy.

Please somebody get the Zoolander reference. In fact, feel free to use it at my funeral :-)

Stifler's - posted on 02/06/2011

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I want to hear my favourite songs played and my favourite foods get eaten while people cry about how much they miss me even though I was an asshole. BAHAHA.

Jess - posted on 02/06/2011

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This may sound selfish but I want people to be completely stricken with grief. I'm currently single, but on the off chance my situation changes I want my parentner to vow never to move on. No step mothers for my baby !!! I also want to be buried and have that song "another one bites the dust" playing ! Morbid I know.

But I expect my grave to be well tended and fresh flowers frequently. Christmas day visits and B'day celebrations grave side !

Sal - posted on 02/06/2011

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as long as they don't play "ding dong the witch is dead" i'll be happy (i am planning to use that for mil's-lol)

Amanda - posted on 02/05/2011

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Sorry Krista, David Beckham's too busy stranded on a deserted island with me

Sharon - posted on 02/05/2011

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I've only been to two funerals. Both had divided families. I heard both types of remembrances. He's an angel. He was an ass but I loved him.

I can well imagine what people would say if they were honest at my funeral. I hope they would tell the truth and smile while they said it.

Tara - posted on 02/05/2011

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There will be no funeral, just a party where my friends and family can talk about me and celebrate my life, my ups and downs, my good points and my not so good points. How stubborn I am, but how that has helped me to achieve a lot and how smart I am, and how that has been passed down to my children, how I was an excellent mother to all my children.
I want them to celebrate ME, not mourn me. I want them to dance and sing and play music, because I do this every day.
I want them to look at pictures of me having fun with my kids, with my dogs, with my hubby.
I want them to get up and tell stories about me, things that are special to them...
I want them to remember my life, not focus on my passing.
And I want to have the song "Imagine" by John Lennon playing.

Krista - posted on 02/05/2011

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I just want David Beckham and Hugh Jackman to show up and say that they once saw me from afar, fell immediately head-over-heels in love with me, but never had the courage to approach me, and now it's too late and they will regret it for the rest of their lives, while making do with their "second choices."

I don't think that's too much to ask, do you?

Amanda - posted on 02/05/2011

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this might be awful, but i really don't care! i don't care what people say about me now when i am alive, i sure as hell don't give a damn what they say about me when i am dead!

Sarah - posted on 02/05/2011

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I want everyone to be too damn upset and CRYING to even be able to speak!!!!
I want everyone in black and properly mourning! I'm going to be there (in ghost form obviously) poking people with sticks that aren't showing enough grief!!!!!!!!

In all honesty tho, I'd just like them to say that they miss me and that I was fun and a good person. (Whilst crying hysterically of course!!)

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I won't be having a funeral. I want my friends and loved ones to have a party in my honor. And if anyone says anything about me, I want them to be honest. I'd like for them to talk about more good than bad, but I don't want the bad totally left out because it's part of who I am, what makes me ME. I'd like to hear them talk about how funny I am (because I really am funny lol), how passionately I love my family and friends, I want to hear them say I'm a good mother, good wife, good friend. And if they talk about what a bad temper I have or how I've always been my own worst enemy or any of my other faults, that's ok too. As long as it's real and as long as somebody plays the song, "Wish You Were Here" in my honor then it's all good :)



Edit: Oh, and there had better be marguritas at my party. I want a picture of me holding one sitting right next to a fresh one, on a table somewhere at my party lol

Jocelyn - posted on 02/05/2011

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I want someone to sing the reprise of I'll Cover You from Rent.

Nicole - posted on 02/05/2011

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I think I would like them to say, "she haunts us still". I plan to be one of those annoying ghosts that pops up randomly and bugs my loved ones well after my death.

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I will write my own eulogy and leave where they can find so they know what to read at my funeral! lol jk.

I would imagine that they would say i was quite a character and full of life. My personality is what was the most beautiful thing about me. I was very stubborn at times but also very passionate. Intelligent and sometimes a know it all but always wanted to learn more cuz i know i dont know it all. A wonderful mother and wife and although i was fighter i also was a lover. Always put my family first my brothers meant the world to me. And although i was a terrible teenager and made tons of mistakes till my death bed i still ended up being a wonderful well rounded woman and made my parents proud.

Idk something like that haha

Desiree - posted on 02/05/2011

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True but interesting to hear other people points or view and it may be a little morbid but its still interesting..

Katherine - posted on 02/05/2011

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I have heard people be honest like that at funerals. I think it's awesome because NO ONE is perfect, let's face it.
I would want to hear how difficult and stubborn I was, and selfish at times. I would want the truth told, and then I would want the softer caring, loving compassionate side told.
Geez this sounds gooey.

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