whats the most insulting swear word to you

Sally - posted on 02/22/2012 ( 64 moms have responded )

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I ask this because there are so many women in different countries with different rules. I do understand that we do have different meanings for different things . I.E fanny means one thing in the usa and another in the uk. There are some that are justs wrong. For me and most of my friends ( male/female ) its c**t. Im not even comfortable writing it. I can say i honestly don't know why. So what do think is exceptable ( not that any is) but if you did. I also want to make this clear, im not talking about when the kids are their but when its just two having a dingdong.



Im just interested in the differences between cultures.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/22/2012

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I am not really insulted by curse words, but am extremely insulted by racial slurs, gay bashing, or religious slurs. It is worse than any curse word to me. Using the *N* word, calling a male homosexual a *faggot*, or female homosexual a *dyke*, and there are so many religious one...like *camel jockey* and really that is all I am gonna write, cause I don't even like seeing it written, let alone spoken.

Jodi - posted on 07/05/2012

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LOL, Kristi, that's the way these debating forums work sometimes. We might disagree vehemently with someone in one debate, but be totally on the same page in another. That's why I never take it personally :) There are some ladies here I am great friends with and have been for a long while, but I will debate them on some issues until I am blue in the face....and we are still friends. It's when people take it personally that they get into trouble ;D

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The words cunt, bitch, slut actually do not bother me. The only insult that really cuts me to the quick is being called stupid. I know it's bizarre but the other words are used on all women who are uppity but having my intelligence questioned...nothing hurts me more.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 02/23/2012

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I have used every word I can think of. No problem here with being called or calling someome a cunt, bitch, fuck face (I like that one) and the list goes on. They are only words to me. I do however, reserve the word cunt for someone that has truly put me over the edge. ;)



I am with Krista. I do have an issue if someone questions my character or integrity by insinuating I am a liar, theif or terrible person. I am none of those and I hold my character and integrity very close to my heart. I am a very straight forward person, I would never just blurt these things out to anyone unless I had proof.

Erica - posted on 02/23/2012

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the "C" word makes me cringe.... but i think that's the only one that really gets me

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Kristi - posted on 07/05/2012

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MeMe--I cannot believe this! I was reading this page (1) from the bottom up (oldest to newest). I start reading this post and I'm like, "Right on, this is soooo me!" Low and behold...it was your post! I'm almost fell off my couch. LOL That will teach me for judging a book by it's title. (To Spank or Not to Spank). Guys used to get embarrassed by my potty mouth. I have cut WAY back since the various in-flux of kiddos though. And I don't do much of it public, around my parents or in the company of others that don't know me too well, anymore. But you should hear me talkin to you when I'm typing in my comments on the spanking debate! No, I am just kidding about that but I still do have my fits and heaven help you if you have sensitive ears and you don't have ear plugs! My friend's son taught us a "neat" little way to say "cunt" without actually saying it, like if children are present or it's your boss, you just say "See you next Tuesday!" or
"C U Next Tuesday!" I mutter that a lot when I'm driving. Anyhow, just had to post after I read this! Who knows....this could be a sign of things to come! HAHAHAHA

Gina - posted on 02/25/2012

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I'm in Australia and fanny means virgina. I hate the word fanny and cunt.

I don't know why but I hate fanny the most.

I grew up been called lots of racial things and been told over and over to go back to 'my' country,um I was Born here!

So that's a peeve of mine, oh and when a guy gets called poofter I Hate that word.

**Jackie** - posted on 02/25/2012

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I thought this was interesting so I figured I'd share it with you since Sally's objective is to find the difference in cultures as far as meanings, rules and offensive language :)



My sister came over yesterday to hang out with my daughter and I and her best friend called her phone. She talked to her and then before she hung up she said "love ya bitch"



I was like huh? So I asked her and she said they just call each other that and a lot of people use that too.



Just a quick note, my sister is a 27 year old manager/hair dresser of a very posh salon in a resort town. Although, her behavior yesterday sounded like a high schooler lol she is very educated

Jodi - posted on 02/24/2012

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Just this morning, I dropped my bowl of cereal as I carried to the table...this would be a typical "GODDAMIT!" moment for me, but I really do try not to. So I jsut mumbled and turned around. My nearly 3 year old pipes up "It's ok Mama, you can say goddamit! I won't say it!" lol Made me lol for real!

Mrs. - posted on 02/24/2012

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Oh both her father and I try our best to keep the laughter down, I don't want her to keep doing just because she thinks it's funny.



I do swear in front of her, but she tends not to use it. She has said "shit" before, but at least it was in context, after she hit her head. I just tell her to say "shoot" instead.



I'm sure they'll be many conversations about where to use the swear words and where it isn't to be done. My father swears a lot and we did have a colourful catalog to choose from as kids. However, we talked a lot about not using them at school, a church, in front of other people's parents, etc.

Kate CP - posted on 02/24/2012

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HAH! When I was 2 years old my dad got the car stuck in a snow bank and out of the back seat came "Oh, shit."



My daughter knows that there are certain words that may hurt other people's feelings or aren't appropriate for little kids to say and she does her best to avoid them.

**Jackie** - posted on 02/24/2012

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Rebecca, I love that! How do you not crack up? I can't wait til my daughter starts saying more crazy stuff. About a week ago she said "Geeeezus" lol I almost lost it

Mrs. - posted on 02/24/2012

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I'm not easily offended by the usual suspects.



My daughter is really into Winnie the Pooh lately. She has all the names right except, Eeyore, who she calls "He-Whore". I always get a picture in my head of a transgendered woman who sells herself.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 02/24/2012

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Wow Laura that's pretty good....



I was maybe 8 by the time I was swearing. LOL All the kids were swearing by the time I was in Junior High School, around age 12.

Merry - posted on 02/24/2012

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I never heard either of my parents swear. To this day.

First time I ever learned the F word I was 13.

And that was just so I knew what it was.

I was about 18 before I ever heard someone say the F word in context

**Jackie** - posted on 02/24/2012

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I think that if your daughter swore like a sailor outside of your house, that she would slip up at home too. You're right, she probably doesn't.



My mom and I once had a discussion on the F word. What makes it so bad? It's just a word that someone made up (as far as we are concerned) and someone said it was derogatory. I'll agree that it does sound dirty but I can't help it. Sometimes when I am saying something that I am really passionate about, I add it just to give my statement a bit of umpfh lol

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 02/23/2012

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Jackie, I am a sailor at heart I think. I am full of curse words. Almost all the music I listen to has to have a swear or more in them....LOL I often forget and start ranting about something and every second word is fuck, then I realize, ah shit, my 13.5 year old is with me! I say, "oops I shouldn't have said that", she says "Ah Mom, I hear it all the time from you!" LOL



I am lucky though and have taught her well, she has never ever swore in front of me, never even a slip up. She knows you must earn that right as an adult. I haven't even heard her swear when I hear her talking to her friends (when they sleep over and are downstairs or she is on the phone in her room). Maybe I do it enough for ALL of us... bahahaa If she does it outside the home, well I will own that! I think they are more likely to swear if their parents don't then if they do. It is a normal occurrence for my daughter, that it isn't something she cares about doing, I guess... ;)



However, I am trying to control it while my boy is learning to talk. That's the last thing we need is him walking into Daycare saying "Fuck Me!" (My FAV line)... hahaha



I do however, know how to turn it off when in certain company or at work. Odd how that works!

Sally - posted on 02/23/2012

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jackie, just been reading back over posts and saw i missed your post asking about lady garden. Its for me and some in the uk a nice way to discribe a womens private bits. I.E im having the hedges trimmed on my lady garden before i go on the beach in a swimsuit. Heard it a few years ago and loved it.

**Jackie** - posted on 02/23/2012

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I have to admit, and yes I am ashamed of it...I have a mouth like a trucker. I use the F word more than a woman should. I have gotten better because my daughter is 15 months and she is going to repeat it (yikes). So I have been doing a lot of "ffffffffffffffffffffffffffudge" to cover it up lol

Sally - posted on 02/23/2012

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@jackie. I think i might try that. I know it would leave my other half speechless cos his used to me letting of a f word here and there when im really angry. If his speechless ,i win .lol.

Sally - posted on 02/23/2012

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Reading these posts has shown me one thing,we really don't have a very good idea about what happens in different cultures. I can remember going to dinner at a friends house and when we were all sat around the table , the shouting and arm waving started. I was horrified ,thought i was stuck in the middle of a family row. I wasn't that was just their way. That was their culture. Think we could do with a book covering all but it would end up huge. We are all so different but also the same. I think its fantastic. I love learning about people etc.

**Jackie** - posted on 02/23/2012

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I once called my husband an ass hat. Didn't quite have that verbal punch that I was looking for but it made us both laugh and eased the tension. I'm going to say that I also won that fight lol

Sally - posted on 02/23/2012

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@jane. Thats a really good point. I have noticed that what part of the country you live in can effect what is exceptable. It can lead to so many mis-understandings.

Merry - posted on 02/23/2012

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I've never heard that goof is a bad word. We call the kids goof balls all the time.



I've never head anyone say nigger in a derogatory way, only from stand up comedians.



I think fuck is the worst one to me that I hear often. I hate hearing it and I hate even more when I say it. Sounds so dirty.

Merry - posted on 02/23/2012

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I've actually never heard someone use the C word so I couldn't say about that but I think the most offensive word to me would be one that is said at me.

Online once a mom called me a butch and it was very hurtful because I've never been called that before. We have since gotten over it and she apologized but it's still ther.

The F word really bothers me to hear in movies.if a movie has it said a lot I won't watch it.

More common phrases like what the hell and damn it don't bother me as much as I've been desensitized to them.

Mostly anything said to hurt someone else bothers me, and also swear words dropped in normal talk bother me.

For emphasis here and there I let it go.

Amanda - posted on 02/22/2012

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I don't care for curse words, i get irritated with myself for using them - i constantly strive to not use them.



Living in a diverse town, racial slurs and slurs against sexual orientation are often used by those who should be offended....so while these are words i do not use, they don't bother me so much based on the context of which i hear them.



Back to actual swear words...i worked at a truck terminal fresh out of high school and was shocked at the time to just how many swear words there are! The ones that I will not use are c**t and sna**h juice. they both sound so disgusting and make me want to vomit! I get instantly p*ssed off if i hear them no matter who they are being said to.

Sally - posted on 02/22/2012

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jodi, im pagan as well . One of my closes friends is a wicca witch. Your family sounds lovely and s much fun. X

Sally - posted on 02/22/2012

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*faggot can be used as a insult in the uk but you would find most people would say mc bains. Its a kinda of meatball on gravy. Its also whats used to describe kindling to light a fire. Dingdong means an arguement not a row. Fag as been said is a ciggie. Fanny is womens bits. Goes to show how things can be taken wrong.



Hope . While i respect your view and agree theres lots of words we could use that are not swearing. I have to be honest and say that when im really p.. Off there is no better feeling than letting a mouthful go.

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This isn't a curse word,.but the most offensive thing anyone ever called me was a "dumb broad". It's just so loaded with 1950s-sexism that it literally took my breath away. Plus, the level of contempt with which it was delivered was stunning. Other that that, I honestly don't care.



However, I grew up in Dearborn (which has the largest Arabic population in the US), and the most offensive thing I ever heard someone else called was a "sand" n-word. That also took my breath away.

Stifler's - posted on 02/22/2012

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None of it offends me. Call me a slut... big deal I know I am not one. I do not *like* being called names at all but I don't seriously get offended about it. I don't go around calling other people names or making racial or homophobic slurs either. I do find those offensive.

Hope - posted on 02/22/2012

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I find most swear words offensive. In my home when I was growing up my mum didn't like us using the crap or bloody. I think swear words are inappropriate and unnecessary. We have a mountain words out there to describe of feelings and thoughts. I see no need for them.

It even upsets me when my husband says "slash" when he is drinking and needs to go pee.

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A *fag* is a cigarette in the UK.



Racial slurs, gay slurs...yea, those are horrible and I don't tolerate them at all.

Jenni - posted on 02/22/2012

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Slurs make my skin crawl as well as derogatory terms for women; slut, whore etc. Really, I'm not easily offended by any other swears.



Fanny here in Canada usually refers to the "buttocks" it's actually a softer word for it. Although not commonly used. It can also be a woman's name, although rare.



Faggot is a very offensive word here, and one that makes my list of words that make my skin crawl.



The N word, I don't even feel comfortable spelling, let alone speaking.



Dingdong- can mean someone's an idiot, or can refer to the male anatomy, although rarely used.



Goof- is a very offensive word if someone has been in jail, and could probably get you beat up if you call the wrong person it. Better to blacklist the word.

September - posted on 02/22/2012

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I agree with Krista and Little Miss Can't Be Wrong. Don't question my character nor slander someone for their sexual choices, religious choices or anything having to do with race or culture. That’s when I get hot!

Jodi - posted on 02/22/2012

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Sally, a lot of it for me was my upbringing. I have a very open, tolerant and diverse family. I have known since a young age that I was bi-sexual (although I never knew it had a name until jr high! lol), I have 2 gay aunts and a gay male cousin, my sister is a lesbian, I have several black family members through adoption and even more now since they've married have little babies of their own now. I have one cousin who has down syndrome (although she lives out on the west coast, so I never see her) another who is autistic and one with cerebal palsy. I come from jewish descent on my father's side, I was raised catholic, but now I am Pagan as a few of my aunts and uncles are. I was raised to say sir and ma'am to anyone older than me and that tolerance is what makes a good person above all else.



It's my upbringing, it's my personality, it's definately not my location. being gay is NOT ok in my community, while I dont' see many straight up racist people in my community, we are certainly not used to other cultures or ethnicities, so there are a lot of stereotypes that people actually believe to be real.

**Jackie** - posted on 02/22/2012

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fuc* seems to be apart of the average person's every day vernacular. Just out of curiosity, isn't a f*ggot a cigarette in the UK?

Lady Heather - posted on 02/22/2012

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Oh, racial and gay slurs are a definite no for me. I don't say them and I don't want to hear them. I am also trying to not say "retarded" in a derogatory manner anymore because I've come to realize that is comparable to a racial slur. It's hard because it's such a habit for me but worth the effort I think.

Lady Heather - posted on 02/22/2012

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Yeah, the c bomb is the most severe to me. I try to keep the fucks to a minimum in mixed company (kids/my granny). Any of the other standards are meh. I say shitty a lot. I just don't see how it's any different from saying poopy. Fuck has more offensive connotations. But it's more fun to say.

Sally - posted on 02/22/2012

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@jodi. Thats what im trying to discover here. Is it where you live,your upbringing etc that decides whats exceptable or your own choice. I know for a fact c..t is because it was hated when i was a teen but there is a word, minge i hate. Its not in use now but it makes my skin crawl.

Jodi - posted on 02/22/2012

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racial slurs, especially the n word, any slurs referring to ones sexual orientation (being bi-sexual in a VERY catholic town has made it a touchy subject for me), swear words not so much. I swear sometimes, I try not to, but it slips out. My brother in law has started using the n word because he thinks it's cool, granted, when I was in school, there were 2 black kids in school, adopted by white families. Now I think there's 3 or 4, so we don't have the diversity, here we don't hear it get used negatively, only in the movies where it's "cool" to say it. 2 years ago, he went on a faggot kick, I reamed him a new one for that.

Tam - posted on 02/22/2012

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Sally, I worked in Aviation but I'm open to any questions he might have. He can email me at azakias@gmail.com if he wants an overview of things - it's a culture shock, believe me.



But it's awesome. The biggest thing is that he's going to have to grow a thick skin, really fast. As good as I am with an ass-chewing, the old bubblehead salts make me look like a kitten.

Sally - posted on 02/22/2012

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@Tam, my son is going in to the navy in may. Subs . He prob could do with a mentor like you. Dread him being in a bean can under the sea.lol.

Sally - posted on 02/22/2012

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@ jennifer. Your post has left me with goosebumps. I have had to deal with this sort of thing dated aboy when i was young. He was called a wog and i was told that i couldn't be part of the family while i saw him but no hurt to him.

Im learning so much about different people and different views about whats bad words.

Tam - posted on 02/22/2012

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I'm with Jennifer. Racial slurs of any order are offensive to me and I'll not keep my mouth shut about it. Eight and a half years in the Navy pretty much enured me to swearing. In fact, I can reduce someone to tears if I get on a roll during an ass-chewing. Being in the Navy has refined my ability to hold my own in verbal confrontation down to an art.



I actually find myself having to tone down my normal inclinations of speech around other people and children. I don't talk like a sailor at home, for instance, but every now and then one of the 'lesser' words will slip, like shit, damn, or fuck. After a slip, I always apologize and increase my hold on my language though.

Jennifer - posted on 02/22/2012

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I can handle about any cussing. I was in the military, after all. Worked with many more men than women, although have heard worse from women. What I can't take is the 'N' word.



I grew up in a very racist community. They bragged that the last 'N' to stay the night there was murdered. The tree they hung him from was like a landmark. Sick shit, people, very sick! I don't think many people realize that there are bigots like that left in the world. I know my black friends are totally in the dark. They have teased people I grew up with, and never realized that if I hadn't been there they would be dead. My house was shot through because of it, and my 4 yr old and 1 yr old were in there! Scariest to me- two of the worst men I know now hold public office at the state level, and one is running for a house seat.



To me, the 'N' word is about pure hate. Murderous, scary, anadultered HATE. I've never heard a word used the same way. Not any other racist slang, no words for homosexuals, and not slang for women. That word makes the hair on my neck stand up. For many, it is 'ancient past' and become common place, I can see that it means little to them. To me, it is a big oak tree with a rope still on the branch, and a man who died for the color of his skin.

~Jennifer - posted on 02/22/2012

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I don't really give a flying fuck what anyone says....they'll probably learn newer words themselves from my reply.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/22/2012

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I am rarely speechless. You throw me an insult, i am gonna throw one twice as bad back at you.

Sally - posted on 02/22/2012

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where i come from women are as bad. Mens bits are called beef baynot or pork sword. So i consider that a short of term thats harmless. I want to know what insults you because we all have different terms. Is there something that men / women use at the last post in a row that is the beyond the limit and you cannot even answer cos it leaves you speechless.

Krista - posted on 02/22/2012

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I don't care about curse words. If someone wants to call me a bitch or a cunt or whatever, that's their problem.



The most insulting thing to me is if someone questions my character or my integrity.So if someone called me a cheater or a thief, I'd be seriously pissed off.

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The most insulting thing i could be called is a whore. You call me that...protect your throat area...lol

**Jackie** - posted on 02/22/2012

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what's a ladie garden?



men call vaginas "meat wallets" where I live. That's just foul

Sally - posted on 02/22/2012

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@kate , i have never heard axe wound in my op thats up there with c..t . Id so want to slap someone who said this.



@ tracey, fanny is their butt and as you know its our ladie garden. This is why im interested in different views from other cultures.

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