when did touching get weird.....

Sal - posted on 08/21/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )

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last week when i was dropping off one of the girls when i ran back to the car to get her drink bottle,at the same time a dad was also going out the gate,he held the gate for me(nice manners) we breifly spoke and he put his hand on my back as i walked past.....and then quickly moved it and said sorry, firstly i wasn't offended or uncomfortable, but it made me think when did a casual interaction like this become socially akward???? and should he (or anyone) be made to feel uncomfortable enough by this that they apologise???

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Kate CP - posted on 08/21/2011

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A lot of women are nuts and would have taken that as a come-on or something. Some people just don't like being touched and find that to be an invasion of personal space.

Personally, if he had done that to ME I would have thought in my head "Why is he touching me?" and then shrugged it off. It wouldn't BOTHER me...but it would be an odd moment for me because it doesn't usually happen.

I dunno. People are weird. :P

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eh, he might have met me once and did that only to see me fly straight in the air with a yelp.

I hate being randomly touched, especially on my back. It sends muscle spasms through me. I'm just not a touchy person with the vast majority. I'm very affectionate with family but that's it.

Amie - posted on 08/21/2011

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It's not socially awkward, for some.



I have issues with personal space. I do not want people in mine, I do not want to be touched - big fuck off signals are sent out to anyone who is too close.



If it's a friend or family member, it doesn't bother me.

Sal - posted on 08/21/2011

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up about shoulder level, so not intimate at all, just the way you might to a child to usher them through the gate it really was nothing, it just struck me that firstly it was odd (even a little sad) that i did take a moment to think, "oh the touched me" i didn;t flinch or say anything it was really the breifest moment, it just crossed my mind and then that it is such and oddity that he apoligised, it is quiet sad really that people should be so stiff and impersonal all the time...human to human contact is nice

Dana - posted on 08/21/2011

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Wow, you scared me, Emma! lol

It would depend on where the man touched me on my back. If it were my lower back, I'd be a little geeked out, as I see that spot as an intimate spot. If it were up by my shoulder blades, I wouldn't have thought much of it.

Lacye - posted on 08/21/2011

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There really isn't anything wrong with it but personally, it would have bothered me. I don't like for people I don't really know to touch me. It's just how I am. Is it because it's socially inappropriate? No, not at all. I just don't like strangers touching me. lol

Charlie - posted on 08/21/2011

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Asn for th op I wouldnt have been uncomfortable but then I am the kind of person that would put my hand on someones back .

Charlie - posted on 08/21/2011

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I did work experience at a nursing home once and man some of the things they would say and do !!

Stifler's - posted on 08/21/2011

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I used to hahahaha every time you bend over someone smacks your butt or says something inappropriate

Stifler's - posted on 08/21/2011

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It wouldn't disturb me to be honest. I'm used to old people smacking my butt and asking to touch my breasts and then yelling abuse at me because I *stole their 10 dollars* LOL.

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