When do you stop going nude?

Mrs. - posted on 11/13/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My almost 16 month old makes a daily practice of watching me and her dad taking turns in the shower. She likes to throw things in like toys and washcloths. Neither of us has a problem with it since she's so young.

However, just the other day, my fiance got out of the shower while she was standing in the bathroom. She said, "Dada", then looked up at his junk for awhile, then went for the ole grab the banana off the tree move. My fiance quickly covered up and ran into the other room to tell me about it.

So, I'm just wondering, is that a sign that he should not allow her to watch him in the shower anymore? Is there a right time to stop being nude in front of your kid? If so, does it apply to both parents? Cause my mom and I still try on clothes together in the same change room at the mall or get undressed in front of each other no prob, I assume most people think this is status quo (or are we just freaks)?

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Jenny - posted on 11/14/2010

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Ha ha ha, I'm with Carol. We were just at the pool yesterday and the four us all changed together in the family room. It's not really a big deal unless you make it one.

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I see so many people asking this same question and every time I say it's up to when the child/adult no longer feels comfortable with it. My parents were always very open with nakedness and I have no problem watching my mam dress still. To me it's not a big thing, it's totally normal.

Johnny - posted on 11/14/2010

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I suppose when the children run screaming from the room, "my eyes, my eyes, I'm blind!!".

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You mean you're supposed to cover up?!
Nudity, or partial nudity is not a big issue in my home. Even now as adults, my sister & I have no problem with nudity aroudn my mom, especially since we use her simming pool. My son & younger nephew (age 5 1/2 & 6) just love being "nakie butts". The 8 1/2 year old has recently become more modest. But in the privacy of our home, we at least have on undies.

Eliz - posted on 11/14/2010

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Every family is different. And each child is different. If you are all comfortable nude together than that's fine just educate your children and explain times when they shouldn't be nude or be around certain people while they are nude. But far as the imediate family it all depends on everyone's comfort level.

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I don't think there'll ever be a problem with my hubby wandering around naked - nobody pays any attention to him, but I have to say when my son turned about 6 he started to look at me very intently when I was in in the shower. So I realised it was time to cover up in front of him. But I feel fine with my daughters.

Ez - posted on 11/14/2010

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Kelly that story is so cute, and definitely one for his 21st :-p

I only have a girl, so I don't see me being uncomfortable in front of her at any point. So until she either doesn't want to see me or is starting to get self-conscious herself I will continue to change/shower with her. Nudity isn't damaging, as long as boundaries are in place (no touching). Like Loureen, I would take this as an opportunity to teach her that it is Daddy's and only he is allowed to touch it.

Nikki - posted on 11/14/2010

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I think it's a very personal thing. I don't have a problem with nudity, and I don't want my children growing up feeling as if their bodies are something they should be ashamed of. Each to their own, but I think it's pretty normal for her to try and touch it, toddlers just love to explore! As long as your partner is comfortable then just teach her that it is not appropriate to touch daddy there!

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My daughter did that to my hubby around the same age. He still bathed with her until she was around 3. He is uncomfortable with it now she is 4. He will probably shower with the boys for ages as they are the same!

I will bath with the kids as long as they will take it. I have no set time as i don't want prudish kids. Nothing against those that don't feel comfortable thats just the way i feel.

Joanna - posted on 11/13/2010

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I think nudity should stop when either party feels uncomfortable.

Our 3 year old girl sees both me and my husband nude (he'd toss her in theshower with him when I was too pregnant to bathe her). She was curious about the different body parts but once she learned about the differences she was fine, acted like nothing was out of the ordinary.

Kate CP - posted on 11/13/2010

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Kelly: Oh, my god. That is *hilarious*. My husband got a giggle out of it, too. XD

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Here's a cute story for you. I had the worst sinus infection ever, I had lost my voice, and all I wanted to do was take a long, hot bath in my favorite salt. My son was 2 yrs old, and I asked his dad to watch him for an hour or so while I relaxed. Dad got distracted :P 10 minutes into my "long, relaxing" bath, my little one wanders in and peers into the tub. He could see it all b/c I use salt instead of bubbles. My throat was too sore to call for my husband, so I asked my son to leave.
"Whasat, mommy?" (What is that, mommy?) was his response to my plea. I was unprepared and my head was clogged, so before I came up with a good response, he continued "Is at your peepee?"
That worked for me, so I said "yes" and hoped it would get him out of the bathroom.
It didn't.
The poor little guy's face was instantly consumed with worry. "You lost your peepee?" he exclaimed.
"Well....." I began to formulate my girls and boys are different lesson for a 2 year old, but before I could, he came up with a solution of his own.
"No worry, Mommy! I help you find it!" and he spent the next 10 minutes searching my bathroom all over for a unattached peepee until my husband FINALLY came to get him out.

He is six now, it never bothered me until recently, I figured it was good for him to know what a girl looked like so he would be less curious later. Not sure why, but recently, I have become uncomfortable and prefer to have at least a panty and bra on in his presence, so I guess this is that time for us. I assume it is different for everyone.

Kate CP - posted on 11/13/2010

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My daughter is four and I still walk around nekkid in front of her. My husband has gotten a little shy but I think that's because she's pointed and laughed at his penis. Let's face it...they DO look funny. :P

Mrs. - posted on 11/13/2010

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Naw, we don't have a problem with it, its just as first time parents we wanna make sure we aren't scaring her or anything.

I was actually curious to hear what other people thought about the issue.

In my family it was always like at a certain age, you cut of that whole naked thing with the parent of the opposite sex. I just wasn't sure if there was a "right" age.

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It's no big deal IMO until someone in the scenerio begins to feel uncomfortable about it. We still shower with our son (he's 3). He points and asks questions. We answer them. If you or your boyfriend are uncomfortable with it, then maybe you should stop. I see nothing wrong at all with changing in front of your mom. I do the same with my girlfriends and the women in my family. Some families are comfortable with it, some aren't.

Bonnie - posted on 11/13/2010

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She is probably at the age where she is starting to wonder what those parts are especially because it looks different than hers in that area. I would say that no one should outright change or take a shower right in front of her, but if it so happens she comes in the room while you are just finishing up changing or showering it's not a big deal. This is what I do with my kids. Other than that, she will learn about those body parts eventually and it's normal for her to be curious.

Charlie - posted on 11/13/2010

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Nope i chat to my mum while she is getting dressed , i wouldnt with my dad because he would be uncomfortable .
I think its about comfort , personally i would explain that is daddies and it is not for anyone to touch and that boys have a penis and girls have a vagina , No biggie in my books but if he isnt comfortable then let him cover up , Im sure your child doesnt thinnk anything of it .

Lacye - posted on 11/13/2010

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I think it is the perfect sign that daddy needs to have clothes on in front of her. LOL that's just too funny though! I can just see a man running through the house holding on to his junk with that panic look in his eye! LOL

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