When you die, what should happen to your pets?

Michele - posted on 04/05/2012 ( 22 moms have responded )




Bank goes to court to save cat from being euthanized

From msn.com

​For months, Boots, an 11-year-old cat from a suburb of Chicago, had been on "kitty death row." Her owner died last December, and a 20-year-old will stipulated any cats the woman owned at the time of her death be euthanized. But trust officers at Fifth Third Bank in charge of, um, executing the will, couldn't bring themselves to carry out the request. So they went to court. The bank asked a judge to set aside the provision, arguing that killing Boots "would violate public policy to euthanize a healthy housecat where an appropriate shelter has been identified." The judge agreed, and the bank was able to place her at a no-kill shelter.

I don't like the idea of killing your pets when you die. And then there are the other people who leave all their wealth to their pets. Neither extreme works for me...


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Both of my mother's cats were euthanized after she died. It broke my heart, but it was my Dad's decision. We tried to find new homes for them but no one wanted them. My brother, sister's husband and I are all alllergic so we couldn't take them.

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the only problem there is that many kill shelters euthanize healthy animals that have just been there too long. in fact, (not sure if it's been fixed or not) in NY there's supposed to be some new bill saying that if an animal comes into the shelter and seems psychologically unstable (aka scared of people or anything of the like) they can be euthanized on the spot or within the week (not sure which). so there's plenty of what could be healthy animals right there, getting killed just for being scared of what's going on.

my dog was scheduled to be put down and she was plenty healthy and less than a year old! but we adopted her before her time ran out. nobody wanted her because she looked like a pit bull. ugh...

if we died, though, i have no idea what would happen to our animals. my parents don't like my dog and my in-laws are terrified of animals ("latent rabies" and all that) so our dog would have to go to our kids or whoever would get our kids, because I'm not putting her back in a shelter to sit there and rot because no one wants a pit bull-looking dog (even though she can't possibly have more than an eighth of it, if she even has pit blood). she's too skittish around new people to make any kind of impression on anyone other than she's scared and might lash out (which she has never done, she is such a sweet girl).

of course, i don't think my husband or i would care too much what happens once we're dead, but the people who'd be there after us would so it'd be on them more than us.

Jodi - posted on 04/09/2012




We have a stipulation in our will that anyh pets we own would go to whomever was willing to claim them, if no one in the family (or friends) wants them, they go to shelters. I don't think it's right to euthanize healthy animals, especially if they're adoptable.

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i think the animal should go to next of kin or to someone who will definitely try to find a good home for it. i don't think it should be euthanized if it is healthy and still has plenty of time for luvvins before it passes away too.

Jennifer - posted on 04/08/2012




My breeder would take my Cresteds, even the one that did not come from her, and place them. My Dobie would be taken by a friend, and my pitty would be taken by another friend. My dad would take two of my cats, and the cousin who will get my children will take the other two. A reptile rescue will take my turtles and my snake(if my son doesn't) and rehome them in a non-breeding home(my only pets that are not fixed!) This is in a letter attached to my will, not actually written in it. If it were IN my will, it would be too hard to change if it needed to be. This way, I decide who is in charge of each animal, but if they do have a change of heart, it will not be a problem for someone else to step in and handle it. It is written that if any animal is too old(two dogs are entering the double-digits next year, and two cats are already there.....) infirm, or are not adjusting(my cats have felv and could become sick at any moment, especially if stressed, and can not be housed with cats that are not sick) they will be humanely euthanized.

Julie - posted on 04/07/2012




There can always be a very lonely person found to adopt a pet to keep them company ...

Mary - posted on 04/06/2012




I haven't mentioned my pets in my will, but if my husband and I both died tomorrow....hmmmm.

Everyone I know would be fighting over my one dog, Charlie. He's just that sweet and easy-going, and could fit into pretty much any environment. I'm guessing that he would end up at my sister's with my daughter.

My Sam is another story. He's a bit "quirky" with others. He's an almost 10 y/o pit mix (a bit arthritic) who has a past history of abuse. He is a friendly, loving and loyal dog within his immediate family, but he can get a bit anxious around people he doesn't know well. Not aggressive in the least, but he really doesn't like to be touched by strangers (although he simply loves when my daughter or I smother him with kisses and hugs). He growls if a newcomer tries to touch him before he's "ready".

My sister would never take him - she's very prejudiced against his breed. Even if she wasn't, she would never take on two dogs. Most likely, he would live out his days with my dad. Although my widowed, 69 y/o father has sworn that his pet-owning days are over, he has a huge soft spot for animals that he tries desperately to hide. And - Sammy simply adores him. My dad would never agree to this ahead of time, but I also know that he simply would not be able to bear the though of Sammy not being in happy loving home.

I would tell my dad this - but I also know that the shelter that I got Sam from (and where I'm an active volunteer) would happily take him back and let him live out his natural life-span there. With his age, it's highly improbable that he would get adopted. I'm sure he would miss the comforts of sleeping in a soft bed with me at night, and the constant "love" and attention that my 3 y/o lavishes upon him (although perhaps not the wearing of fairy costumes, lol!), but he would be happy enough there, and not prematurely euthanized.

Stifler's - posted on 04/05/2012




I think yes you should have to say what will happen to your pets it would be irresponsible not to. If I just died and Damo was still alive he'd keep the pets. But if we both died I'd want them to go to our kids and if they didn't want them then sell them or give them away.

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You know, I have never thought about this before! I would imagine that if we both died right now, our two cats would probably go to a shelter and end up euthanized because in this area all of the no-kill shelters have crazy long wait lists and no one I know will take them. Hm. Something to think about though. We did our wills last year and never even thought of the cats....and now I feel bad :(

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I thought about this the other day, I have three horses and none of my family are horsey so I would really have to make arrangements in my will for what should happen to them. Not sure who would take my dogs either, they are Jack Russells and are not suited to suburban life (this is how we got to have them as they were not coping too well with living in the 'burbs so we rescued them and brought them to live on a 5 acre property). I think that we need to make sure the pets are "provided for" just as we would with our children, even if it's simply a request for them to be sold (the pets, not the children LOL).

Michele - posted on 04/05/2012




They also sent slaves into the tomb to serve the pharaohs in the afterlife. No thanks! ;)

Lady Heather - posted on 04/05/2012




That is soooo weird. Our pets would go to various family members. Why would you want your pet to die? Join you in the afterlife? Ha.

Johnny - posted on 04/05/2012




My parents would take our cats and we'd take their dog. I don't think anyone in our extended family would balk at taking on someone's cats or dogs in case of death.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 04/05/2012




My in-laws would take ours. They absolutely LOVE animals, especially our dog. ;) They even buy her gifts at Christmas. lol

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/05/2012




My family would take them, and if not i would find a no kill shelter that would take them. LOL, I know where the pets will go, but still have the debate with hubby who gets the kids?

Krista - posted on 04/05/2012




Yes, I think that when you get a pet, you add care for that pet into your will. Most people don't think of that -- they only think of who gets their possessions. Frankly, if I had a dog, I'd be more concerned about where he wound up, than where my "stuff" wound up.

We actually wound up getting a dog once because of a death. My husband's aunt passed away suddenly of a heart attack at age 57. She was going to run errands, and the dog was in the car, the car was running, and she decided to dash back in the house to grab something. She dropped dead in the house. The dog was stuck in the car for over 24 hours before my worried MIL drove over to her sister's house to find out why she hadn't answered her phone. Nobody could take the dog, and we knew darned well that a cantankerous, geriatric, half-toothless Lhasa Apso mix would not be a hot commodity at a shelter. So we took him in, got him $800 worth of dental work, which gave him a totally new lease on life, and wound up having 2 fantastic years with him, before he died of kidney failure. It made us feel really good to know that we were honouring my husband's aunt's memory, by providing her best friend with lots of road trips, snuggles and treats during his twilight years.

Michele - posted on 04/05/2012




I am happy that a **bank** of all places actually went to court on this one.

Elfrieda - posted on 04/05/2012




Wow, that's crazy! Was she also hoping for a few servants to be killed to serve her in the afterlife?

Ideally, you should make some sort of arrangement for your pets. But it probably wouldn't be too hard to find a home for them from your friends and family if you weren't completely isolated. I can totally see someone taking a dog or cat to remind themselves of the former owner. I would do that.

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