Why Celibacy is worth it!

Nicole - posted on 01/31/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )




I used to have such a high sex drive but after my second child, that fizzled down to nothing. As I pulled back, detached and stop getting involved in romantic relationships I realized a few things:

It is easier to be rational and make good decisions with a clear head. Sex and romance do not lead to a clear mind space.

It is worth it to be rational and clear headed when choosing a partner.

When deciding to stay single and be celibate I found that people were attracted to me. I got asked out way more than I normally would be. One friend explained it, as, “when women are single, they seem sane and together No one realizes that goes out the window when someone enters a relationship”.

I don’t think that should go out the window and it won’t, if you wait for the right person and use your brain. The best dating advice I’ve heard, “never lower your standards.

I have been sex free for two years, and despite the many temptations I have decided to stay that way, until I find the right person.

Also, I might be completely full of shit, lol


Johnny - posted on 01/31/2011




NOT this girl. LOL. Not in this lifetime at least. I like sex, I never needed a relationship for it. When I fell in love with my husband, it wasn't because I had lost my brain in some sex-crazed lunacy, it was because we were a good match. I definitely have had my celibate periods. But looking back, I was not any more rational or clear thinking. I was probably just depressed.


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Becky - posted on 01/31/2011




I think staying celebate until you find the right person is a great idea!

Nicole - posted on 01/31/2011




I used to practice reiki, which is energy manipulation for the purpose of healing self and others.

I am redirecting sexual energy up to my crown (the top of my head) for the sake of using my drive for connection to connect to the universe rather than a sexual partner

The root chakra is a physical chakra, the crown chakra is a spiritual chakra, I am changing my focus from physical to spiritual

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You'll have to explain that meditating technique...I didn't understand a word of it. =)

And I'll admit, I was a virgin when I got married. My husband too. No regrets. We enjoy it now. A LOT! It will be wonderful with that special person.

Meghan - posted on 01/31/2011




I did it for a year after my separation...started dating someone and now that has ended badly. Going to go back. Figure myself out and be there for my son. Thats the plan anyway lol

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I've been sex free for 3 years. I don't know if you're right or not, but I'll join your celibate camp. lol!

Nicole - posted on 01/31/2011




I should also mention that I have another motivator. I am doing a meditation technique that involves redirecting energy from my root chakra to my crown chakra. It's very cool and very much worth for me for several reasons

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