wives vs strippers...

Tah - posted on 10/31/2010 ( 51 moms have responded )

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So i was watching a comedy show...Chris rock to be exact..he is funny..anywho...he said this.."a strippers job is to entertain a married man..his wife will take care of him, but she won't entertain him..if he brings a pair of clear heels in the house, she will say, "get that hoe scrap out my house"..lol..sorry..it was funny...

My question to you is, is that true???....do you entertain your husband as well as take care of him????...

Do you feel that the taking care of him includes entertaining him?....

I will go first..i absolutely think entertaining my husband and showing him attention is vital...as a matter of fact...he didn't have to bring the clear heels..they were already in my closet...lol...

What do you consider entertaining him..just run of the mill sex..or dress up...out of the blue..sex acts???? what is your (or his) version of being entertained..so you need to have a pole installed..i know someone already does...lol

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Johnny - posted on 11/02/2010

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We were together for 6 years before we had our daughter & we did all that pole kinda stuff back then. Since our daughter was born, my clear soled boots have been on the top shelf of my closet. It's just so exciting to have sex now that we don't bother with all the assorted accoutrements, lol. Truth is, I think we were both getting a bit bored with all that and we've moved on to different things. It used to be more about me entertaining him, and we both enjoyed that. But somehow now, our relationship has changed so that sexual fantasy is more about an adventure together.

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Jane - posted on 11/03/2010

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I absolutely agree that you need to entertain as well as take care of your husband. I will do anything (as long as it doesn't hurt or is illegal) for my husband. We role play, have a major "toy" collection, dress up, pretend blind dates, etc. It's fun and it keeps the romance and mystery alive and kickin'! :)

Johnny - posted on 11/03/2010

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I think my husband was more afraid of me hurting him if he didn't do it than him hurting me or the baby if we did.

Dana - posted on 11/03/2010

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OMG Kate, I would have been ripping Matt's clothes off while he wasn't looking. Not having sex while pregnant was not even an option. Unfortunately, if I got pregnant again, I'm sure they'd tell me no sex, I'll most likely be on bed rest too! What a crock, what else are you supposed to do if you're confined to a bed??!!

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During our last pregnancy my husband didn't want to do the deed either. So what I did was during an appt he actually made with me I asked the doctor if it was safe to have sexual intercourse at that stage in pregnancy, where the Dr. of course assured us it was pefectly fine...this did not completely take care of it...so when his friends, who've been in said position, would come to visit I would complain that Kendall, my husband, couldn't bring himself to induce labor :) by this time we were in our last trimester...and ALL of his coworkers and friends made fun of him to where he came home on lunch and took care of business, this of course did NOT induce labor, but it was spontaneous and fun, plus it eased his mind that we could have sex w/out the end result being a trip to the hospital :) Good luck Kate! Its rough when they don't help!!! I think I probably got emotional a time or 2 and said he just didn't want to see me naked, trying to lay on the guilt :)

Kate CP - posted on 11/03/2010

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Yes, it doth sucketh much. I feel too fat and bulbous to feel sexy and he's afraid of hurting the baby or me. Yes, I've explained that he can't hurt the baby and if it hurts me we'll stop but it's not a whole lot of fun when every third or fourth thrust he's stopping to ask "Are you okay?" *sigh*

Kate CP - posted on 11/03/2010

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*sigh* I haven't had sex since I was 8 weeks pregnant. I miss penis. :(

Krista - posted on 11/03/2010

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Bah-ha-ha-ha! Goddamn, you'd be finding undigested broccoli from 1987 up there! SO not sexy!

Anyhoodle, I'm not much of an "entertainer", but we still keep things fresh and passionate. Like most other couples, the passion ebbs and flows depending on what else is going on in our lives. But when we DO have sex, whether it's twice a day, twice a week, or twice a month, it's always good, and that's what matters.

Kate CP - posted on 11/03/2010

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You have rendered me speechless. Anal fisting...I have no retort for that. :P

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We did all this stuff before we had kids...the last 4 yrs have been more about getting the job done then entertaining...I can totally feel ya Kati about the saggy belly :( I'm sitting in that boat as well! I don't think I would mind soo much if I had a pole, I like dancing and heels are sexy, but I feel stupid w/a chair or table... I tried it once and maybe I just haven't seen enough of the professionals do it? He sure wasn't helpful on what to do either...but that was YRS ago! I want a pole!!! We currently do not have enough room :( When we ever get enough $ to move and hopefully have a bigger place a pole is DEF on my shopping list :) What a wonderful bedroom accent I think ;) a swing would be pretty nice too :)

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Ooops, Kati - that was supposed to end up somewhere else. WTF just happened! Thanks for the link is what I was trying to say...

Rosie - posted on 11/01/2010

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i don't care about the cellulite cause i don't have any, i care about the stretch marks that look like a river winding it's way through the grandcanyon ALL over my belly. my belly sags so low from my belly growing so big so fast that i havn't seen my crotch in 6 years. my weight really isn't the problem, i could stand to lose a few, but i understand that happens when i gained 60 + lbs with each of my 3 children. i need to lose about 25 lbs, but like i said, that's not my problem, my problem is the nasty sagging skin on my stomach. i talked to a plastic surgeon, i will not be able to lose it without surgery. unfortunately since my stomach muscles seperated during pregnancy, he would have to rip my skin up all the way up my abdomen instead of just to my belly button, causing way more recovery time, and more pain. can't afford to take that much time off, and while i could get over it and just accept the fact i'll be this way forever, i don't want to accept that. my husband says he loves me and the way i look, but I don't. there is a huge difference to me, and i can't just get over it.

but that said, that isn't really the issue. the issue is WE don't get into that stuff (stripping, role playing), we like to just get on with it, lol!

Lyndsay - posted on 11/01/2010

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I used to be really uncomfortable with how I looked without clothes on, but I got over it. I mean, I have stretch marks on my thighs and cellulite on my ass.. but HE doesn't notice those things, so why dwell on it?

Rosie - posted on 11/01/2010

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i have done it before. i broke out the toni braxton, and did a little strip tease. we also have a little video collection, lol! it just seemed like i was putting him on the spot when i was doing it, and it made him uncomfortable. he didn't say it did, but i could tell. i just know he likes to get right down to the touching part rather than sit around looking at me. plus, i'm not comfy with my body anymore so him looking at me trying to look sexy, when i don't feel sexy just doesn't really work for me. i get self conscious. i don't feel that way when we're just having sex. i'll try whatever position he wants, or try new things that i want, but to just do a little role playing, or strip tease isnt our thing, that's all. :)

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I entertain my husband and have know problem keeping things fresh. I have drawn the line on a few things, porn is a turn off for me because I'm not comfortable knowing the visual is turning him on and its not me and if he step foot in a strip club he better plan on sleeping on the couch for a while. He also knew all this before he married me so I must be doing my job just fine:)

September - posted on 11/01/2010

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I like to take care of my husband and entertain him as well :) I've been with my husband for 15 years so there's not much we haven't tried...and I will leave it at that :)

Jocelyn - posted on 11/01/2010

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"your father must be a plumber because preacher's don't have girls like you".
Lmao Tah that's awesome ;)

Tah - posted on 11/01/2010

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@ Kati,even though he doesn't ask...do you ever do it just to surprise him, or add a little spice?....



@ jocelyn, my husband is really frank like that also..lol..He has never once called me baby..lol...but the names he does call me,..they aren't fit to print...

I often tease him and say "you know what my father is, i'm a good girl"...he will tell me.."your father must be a plumber because preacher's don't have girls like you"...lol

Jocelyn - posted on 11/01/2010

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I'm up for anything. I do feel a little silly "performing", but if I know ahead of time I'm going to be dancing then I'll have a drink (yay liquid courage! But not too much, I still gotta be able to walk in my 6inch heels...)
Jordan is pretty blunt about if he want's something; "Since it's our anniversary, I think you should dress up really slutty"

Rosie - posted on 11/01/2010

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if he asked for it i would do it, but that stuff doesn't interest me. i tried it, felt like an idiot dancing around. i prefer to get right down to the nitty gritty. don't get me wrong, i'll try anything he wants me to, he just doesn't ask for high heels and lingerie-which i am glad for that, lol!!

Jenn - posted on 11/01/2010

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I'm all for trying out new things and he certainly has no complaints. Also, he's NEVER been to the strip club since we've been together - over 3 years now! :)

Tracey - posted on 11/01/2010

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Before I answer that how secure are these posts? I'll just say my husband is very happy with all aspects of our life.

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@ Tah: even if they do game (my man does) it's definitely a testament to the woman if she can pry him away with the crook of a finger. Makes me feel empowered haha

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I think it's important to keep each others interest. As Ebony said pretty much ANYTHING goes at least once in my house. Give it a try if one of us is uncomfortable with it or didn't like it we don't do it again, it is all about exploration.

Desiree - posted on 11/01/2010

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I personally believe in the saying " Lady in Public, Slut in the bedroom". Entertaining is part of all the fun. I will watch porn with him if I need to, I will go with him to the adult shops, sometimes I will pop in and get something to surprise him with. Don't need the pole, a chair or table will do just fine. Every year for our anniversary I go out and buy something pretty (no mean feat considering we have been married almost fourteen years, running out of ideas) sweetie pies and chocolates go down a treat, so does Karma Sutra and blind folds. Showers and baths together and sneaking those stolen moments. Hmmm now look what you've done going to have to go play tonight.

Eliz - posted on 10/31/2010

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It's important to entertain each other and take care of each other's "needs". If I didn't then surely he would have to find it else where and I'm the jealous type and so is he so we keep each other very entertained....hehe Though everone's needs are different it's important to keep the home fires burning if you know what I mean.

Tah - posted on 10/31/2010

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@R..for those women who don't think so, they can't complain when he is online, playing games, or hanging out all night..lol

Tah - posted on 10/31/2010

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of course we have to entertain each other..i know we want to be VERY specific..but i was talking about us doing it for them since this is circles of moms and he specifically said wives and strippers..he talked about men also...i have to figure out a way to post that without my mom popping me in my mouth...lol

JuLeah - posted on 10/31/2010

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Each person is different (If I wore heels, I'd land on my butt) but yes. Entertain EACH other, works both ways ....

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Some women don't think "entertainment" comes with being a wife, but I definitely entertain my man. I have asked him what he likes, and he's asked me, and we're constantly trying new things and surprising each other.

~Jennifer - posted on 10/31/2010

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Put me in the 'ex-stripper / clear heels in closet' category.....and make your own assumptions from there.
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Tah - posted on 10/31/2010

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we have taken pictures and made movies..i know shameful for the preacher's daughter right??lol..i better not run for office...i came in after working overnight the other night...showered, put on my stockings(he loves those) and a black nightie..he came in the room and said."whoa what's going on here"...as he was getting undressed..lol...

Lyndsay - posted on 10/31/2010

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Honestly, I would love to get a pole installed. I love to prance around in my sexy lingerie, I like to let my husband take naughty pictures of me in my sexy lingerie... I think it would be great fun to be his own personal stripper.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 10/31/2010

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Every man is different…and so I feel that “Anything” goes as long as its not physically hurting you or him…I will repeat “ANYTHING”

I have worn the heels with nothing on, been spontaneous, and even asked him point blank what can we do to keep things lively, what do you want me to do? I’ll do anything (because I love him enough to subject myself in that way, and him the same)

Sometimes women are afraid to ask their husband point blank what do you REALLY like, what do you want to do…ect
There is a saying… “What you wont do another women will” and vise versa for men “What you wont do another man will” and like I said above, unless its truly physically hurting you or him, then go for it, put the embarrassing feelings aside…

To me sex is a essential part of the relationship.
At the end of the day I can be both…..the absolute best thing about it is (only one “Pole” goes in this “Hole”
LOL

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