Woman marries herself

Becky - posted on 10/22/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )




This was in the sidebar of the article Dana posted.


TAIPEI - Chen Wei-yih has posed for a set of photos in a flowing white dress, enlisted a wedding planner and rented a banquet hall for a marriage celebration with 30 friends.

But there is no groom. Chen will marry herself.

Uninspired by the men she’s met but facing social pressure to get married, the 30-year-old Taipei office worker will hold the reception next month in honour of just one person.

“Age thirty is a prime period for me. My work and experience are in good shape, but I haven’t found a partner, so what can I do?” Chen said.

“It’s not that I’m anti-marriage. I just hope that I can express a different idea within the bounds of a tradition.”

Her T$50,000 ($5,675) wedding comes after online publicity that has netted 1,800 largely sympathetic comments.

“I think there will be more and more girls like this,” said “divagirl,” who did not elaborate.

Taiwanese women are marrying later and less often as their economic status advances, fuelling government concerns about a drop in the birth rate and its impact on productivity.

Only 40 percent of women surveyed earlier this year by the education ministry said they imagined married people could live better than singles, local media said.

“I was just hoping that more people would love themselves,” said Chen, who will go on a solo honeymoon to Australia.

Chen said her mother had insisted on a groom at first but later jumped aboard the solo marriage plan.

But as Chen cannot officially register a marriage to herself, if she finds a man later she will wed again.

“If I had a steady boyfriend, I wouldn’t do this,” Chen said. “it would be offensive to him, anyway.”

That's just weird! Thoughts?


Dana - posted on 10/23/2010




Why doesn't she just throw a big party and go on vacation. Sounds pretty pathetic to me.

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Ya know if i wasn't married and didn't look like it would ever happen by the time i was 45 i'd sure as hell mrry myself. I do the whole thing, the dress, the cake, the guests and the honeymoon! It would probably be better than egtting married and inviting people you don't want there. It would only be what YOU wanted none of this compromising bullshit!
LOL i LOVE my hubby more than anything but still some of his family piss me right off!

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Hahaha I love this! Kudos to her, seriously. Her friends and family wanted her to get married, so why not?

Oh, you want me to get married? Okay! Let me just run off and go through all that fun stuff with courting and MAYBE I'll find a guy I'll like who'll let me be me and have my job and won't try to pull me down if he's less successful than I am. Oh wait, I'm already thirty and you want me to do it now? Huh, bummer.

Sounds great to me. Basically she's treating herself to all the pleasures of a wedding without having to worry about a mate she can't live with. I mean, come on, what woman wouldn't love a beautiful dress, a great party, and a wonderful vacation all to herself in another country? I know I would if I had the money.

Besides, she ISN'T actually married to herself, and she's willing to marry a man if she finds one, so what's the harm in it? She was happy the way she was, but her friends and family apparently weren't, so she compromised.

Sounds awesome to me. Congrats to her!

Charlie - posted on 10/23/2010




Good on her , how much she spends and how she celebrates is her perogative , she is promising to love herself forever something more peopke should do IMO , maybe not as dramatically but hey if thats what she wants ALL THE POWER TO YOU LADY !

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I don't know much about Taiwanese culture regarding women and marriage but it seems to me (just going on the article) that they are a lot like other eastern countries in that women are just now starting to emerge and be "allowed" to be strong and independent. I think what she's doing is kinda cool. A little extravagant? Definitely. But to make a point? I get it. Hopefully a lot of other women in her country will get it too and not feel so obligated to follow ancient traditions just because they are told to do so. I think it's pretty neat :)

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Bizarre! I'd go for the 'honeymoon' cuz I would love a vacation, but $5,000 for a dress?! What's going to happen when she wants a divorce. ;) gqtm.....

Jodi - posted on 10/23/2010




Wow, I celebrate myself and my life and my accomplishments on my birthday...but, if you really feel the need to make damn sure everyone knows how awesome you are (not being snotty, it's okay to be awesome! I think I'm pretty awesome most of the time!) With this big of a celebration...more power to ya. I guess I'm just comfortable celebrating myself on a slightly less expensive, smaller scale...

Julie - posted on 10/23/2010




"There are other ways to celebrate yourself w/o making a big to-do about it."

-- Maybe so, but a big party is more fun;-)

Jenn - posted on 10/23/2010




Yeah, weird. It's one thing to be proud of who you are and to love yourself, but to spend so much money and have a "wedding" for it? Seems to me like maybe it was because she wanted to experience a wedding but didn't have a man yet. I know a LOT of people get caught up in the whole wedding thing and have dreams about their own wedding since childhood. My Mum is even like that - she's getting remarried this December is going all out for it because she felt like her first marriage to my Dad wasn't the way she wanted it. I guess it's her day to do what she wants and it's her money to spend, but I question whether she wants the marriage or the wedding. :(

C. - posted on 10/23/2010




I think we all know it's not legal. You cannot legally marry oneself. It just seems a bit odd. There are other ways to celebrate yourself w/o making a big to-do about it.

Julie - posted on 10/23/2010




She's not actually marrying herself, just having a wedding celebration (and honeymoon) in honor of herself. No legal anything, just a party and a trip.

I wish more women were strong enough and comfortable enough to celebrate just being themselves.

Unless this were done out of arrogance, which she doesn't seem to be the case, I send this woman a virtual high-five with a "You go, girl!".

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 10/22/2010




To each there own…………………………………………….

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