woman wants to have baby with her dead husband....

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Kimberly - posted on 10/17/2010

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Um, suicide and a continuing legacy somewhat contradict each other. But, I can see where she might want to have his child. Grief does strange things to people sometimes.

Dana - posted on 10/17/2010

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Like I said in my first post, I wouldn't personally choose to have a child with a man who committed suicide but, it's not up to me to tell someone else what to choose.

Dana - posted on 10/17/2010

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Plenty of people don't even know, themselves, that they are contemplating suicide. Plenty of people DO know that their spouse has or is currently contemplated/contemplating suicide. Many people have different mental afflictions, that doesn't mean that they don't share a desire with their spouse to have children together.

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No one can say what event heir own husbands would be happy with when they're dead after commiting suicide. Perhaps they would have changed their minds, decided they didn't want children, who knows.

Dana - posted on 10/17/2010

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Well, obviously that's up to courts to decide.



I personally have no issue with it. Matt really wanted children, he never put it in writing, if he had died all of a sudden I would have been crushed that we didn't have children together yet. I KNOW he would have been fine with me harvesting his sperm to have a child.



I think it's up to each individual and how they feel.

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IMO it would be wrong to use his sperm. He's dead so he has no say in the matter now, so therefore his wife shouldn't be abllowed to use the sperm whether she's his next of kin or not.

Petra - posted on 10/17/2010

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I think harvesting sperm goes a wee bit past organ donation - not necessary and not life saving and while organ donation would require consent on the part of the deceased prior to becoming deceased, apparently sperm harvesting does not. I don't see any justification for harvesting a dead man's sperm when, at this point, he has no rights and can not provide consent.

I have to say that I come down on the creeped out side of things and "continuing his legacy" sounds more like creating an heir to inherit his shit, to me.

Dana - posted on 10/17/2010

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Well, the "no desire to reproduce" is just someone's comment at the end of the article...

One person who posted a comment on the New York Daily News website said that it was understandable that Chege should want to have Kamau's child, but "creepy, gross and insane" to get pregnant with a dead man's sperm.

Another questioned Kamau's desire to have children.

"If he wanted a family, he wouldn't kill himself," the poster wrote. "Having kids was not part of his plan."

The wife actually states that he wanted children.

"It was the intent of George Kamau to conceive a child prior to his untimely death," Chege( the wife) wrote in papers filed in Manhattan Supreme Court, according to The New York Daily News. "[He] expressed his desire to have children so that his legacy may continue."

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That's sad..i see why she wants to do that..i dont think it really matters if he wanted it or not whist alive.Hes dead now so leave him alone..unfortunately thats the way it gos i wouldnt even think of doing that.Even if i never had kids, i think its wrong..I dont think i could have a child knowing there not going to ever know there daddy..it would add more to the pain for me personally.Had heartache to that child when there older.

Sharon - posted on 10/16/2010

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His body is hers to do what she wants. His ass is DEAD, he no longer cares.

Dana - posted on 10/16/2010

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I think it's a valid question but, with deeper thought into the matter, no one really knows. Someone who commits suicide might not even know they're going to do so in a matter of hours.

Tah - posted on 10/16/2010

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i know noone can really know..but when i read through it and then it asked that in the post, i thought it a valid question, since it doesn't say why he really committed siucide...you wouldn't really know.....

Dana - posted on 10/16/2010

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As far as "did he really want this if he committed suicide" question. I don't see why not, who's to say what the hell he wanted.

Dana - posted on 10/16/2010

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Well, to each their own. I see nothing wrong with wanting to harvest your husband's sperm if he happened to die BUT, I personally wouldn't want to pass those genes onto my child if my husband committed suicide.

Bonnie - posted on 10/16/2010

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I think it is very well possible that he and his wife could have discussed this in the past, but who really knows. We don't know how long they had been married. It could have been awhile and if so, if he wanted to continue his legacy that badly, than why didn't they already have a child. It could also be because they had not been married all that long. On the other hand, she could just be saying this because she wants a baby.

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