Women still considered sluts!

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 07/28/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Why is it that if a woman has sex with a lot of men (does the so-called "slut thing"), she's considered a whore? but when a man has sex with a lot of women (also does the so-called "slut thing"), he's considered a god, cool, suave with the ladies because he can get laid by a whole bunch of "chicks"?
Why is that stigma still goin strong in the 21st century? Its 2010 are they not ‘sluts” as well??
Why aren't women and men treated just as equally in that respect?

P.S. I toned it down :-)

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I think things have change quite a bit in the last decade....men ARE being exposed for the whores that they are. I think it's being less and less tolerated.

I also agree with Loureen that we're our own worst enemy. We're the ones still labelling each other whores and sluts.

Charlie - posted on 07/28/2010

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Haha i noticed only one ! LOL.

I think for the most part women are their worst enemy , ive found its the girls who tend to gossip and bitch about other women labeling them sluts and i feel its purely out of competition and jealousy over attention sure some men call them sluts too but i really think this is exaggerated by women and their constant need to bitch and compare .

Personally i feel if a woman chooses to sleep with multiple men for her own satisfaction then she is sexually liberated , good for her .

On the issue of men sleeping around they do tend to get the "ledgend' tag but i feel they are also subjected to the "slut " tag and are often not taken seriously later in life .

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Jenni - posted on 08/03/2010

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I watched a documentary last week called "Sexy Inc." on the hypersexualization of our society by the media and it's affect on children. It talks about how the media controls social norms. "Sex sells" yada yada... Basically advertising geared towards young women is how to look sexy to attract boys. (to sell clothing, bratz dolls, Pussycat Doll's music for example). In order to sell their junk. I mean have you ever seen a Bratz movie??? all they do is shop and drool over boys while dressed ever so skankily. I'm sure i could think of tons of examples where girls are taught to be sexy for boys if i took the time.
maybe it was a bit different with our generation but the girl's today are really falling behind in the woman's lib movement. That's why the word "slut" is still degrading for women.

Stifler's - posted on 08/02/2010

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Most men I know are like "nice outfit... it'd look good on the floor".

Charlie - posted on 08/02/2010

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I would say women check out other women more than men too not in a sexual way but again comparing , checking out outfits ect .

Stifler's - posted on 08/02/2010

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I think you're right, except that it's also girl power to shop and look sexy for ourselves if we want to. They say women dress up and look good to compete with other women, not for men.

Jenni - posted on 08/02/2010

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Unfortunately after the "girl power" movement in the 70's things have gone downhill. Now the media which teaches us social norms have turned women back in to mall zombies who's idea of power is the power to look sexy for your man.
Not a shock considering we still live in a society that still protrays women as objects of sex or acessories to men in the media that we are also kept in line by being called sluts if we enjoy sex as any man would. I mean look at any rap video where the guy is acessorized by scantly-clad women as he is acessorized with BLING.
Who says we live in a time of equal rights??? pretty sure it's a man lol not that im a man-hater heheh
"Girl Power" used to be an expression of liberation. Now "Girl Power" is the power to shop and look sexy for your man.
We've taken a back seat again ladies!
I guess we have to take back the word "Slut"! We should all start calling eachother "Slut". As in "Hey Slut, how'd it do?"
Let's just not care or not use it against each other. Then we're just as bad as them and only keeping ourselves down.

Stifler's - posted on 08/01/2010

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I have a point to make. It's mostly women who call each other sluts and look down on each other for doing this. Not all men are disrespectful to women. We are just as sexist as men in that we dislike men who have slept with a lot of women and call them sexist pigs for whistling at us yet we can yell out car windows to take it off and no one cares. Men applaud each other for getting laid because they are happy for each other, we are jealous that other women get more attention from men than we do. It's apparently more socially acceptable for women to go to male stripper shows and be obnoxious and slap their arses but that is totally not allowed at gentlemens club and women think those men are disgusting for setting foot in there. We can say that all men are idiots and pigs and completely generalise and it's okay but when a select few men say something like all women should be in the kitchen it's completely sexist and they were raised wrong. I hate this way of thinking and it makes women look stupid and like total hypocrites.

Sharon - posted on 07/28/2010

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I think things are changing. Especially outside of highschool.

Its the immature crowd perpetuating this "slut vs. legend" thing.

I certainly don't look at my single peers and think "WHORE!" when I hear about them sleeping with someone. Unless she tells me she made money at it.

The only single guys I know are my really young, barely out of highschool, coworkers. LOL they're hormone driven and terrible gossips and probably lying braggarts. After hearing some bragging suggestions I've suggested they start a savings fund for there STD meds and AIDS treatments, lol. This hushed them up a bit.

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I kind of agree with Loureen for the most part.

I think that yes as women WE are our own worst enemies - we judge women for daring to have sex with multiple men, we bitch and gossip about them and raise our eyebrows because we perceive what they are doing as wrong! What we forget is it is not actually wrong and as long as they re being safe (using barrier contraception such as condoms to protect against infections) we should not judge them because they are simply having fun and living life. I don't neccessarily think that other women are jealous though judt that they don't understand that some women do not want to be in love they just want to be physically satisfied.

Men on the other hand are called sluts (I know many make sluts) BUT they do not take the label seriously - it is a joke for them (women are really offended when you call them a slut). IMO though the fact it is more accepted for men to have multiple partners goes back to days where mortality rates for both mother and baby were high - in order for the species to survive it was the mans job to 'spread the seed' and because many women died in pregnancy and child birth he needed several partners in order to this. We are still wired how we were in cave man days (which is why men LOVE fire).

I do agree that these 'studs' are definately taken less seriously later on in life - in both personal and business settings.

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