Women Who Force Their Husbands to Cheat

Charlie - posted on 06/16/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )




Hiromi Fukuda, 26, meets her married prey in the Tokyo district of Shinjuku in the late afternoon. Her uniform is "anything short and shiny," to show off her long legs, and a large heart-shaped hairpin that holds back her glossy bangs — and doubles as a tiny camera she operates with a remote in her pocket, snapping photos of her target as he takes her to a seedy hotel. Two more agents hiding nearby click away with telephoto lenses.

Fukuda is a wakaresaseya, a professional "breakup artist." Working for a Tokyo-based detective agency called Secret Shadow, she is hired by wives who want to entrap their husbands and ensure a better divorce settlement. Women initiate 75 percent of Japanese divorces — 27 percent of marriages end in one, a rate that has doubled in the past 15 years — but unless they have hard proof of infidelity or some other wrongdoing, they risk being awarded pitiful payouts by the courts. "Women have had enough of being treated badly," says Fukuda, a psych major who took the seducer job for "the excitement" and the $200,000- a-year salary. "It's the norm in Japan for husbands to cheat, so I don't feel bad about tricking them on behalf of their wives." For $2,500 a week per client, she engineers an innocent first encounter with the husband — sitting next to him in a noodle joint or asking for directions — and then follows through with a second "coincidental" meeting in the street. "I tell them I'm thrilled to see them again, and then suggest we go to a bar," explains the glamorous Fukuda. "They rarely refuse."

The entrapment business is booming. "Ten years ago, there were about 10 wakaresaseya agencies in Tokyo, but now there are too many to count," says Secret Shadow's gruff-voiced owner, Michio Hasegawa. The industry recently made international headlines when a male agent went to prison for killing his mark, a young Tokyo mother with whom he'd fallen in love and begun an affair in earnest. When she found out who he was and tried to leave, he strangled her with a piece of household twine.

Fukuda claims she never allows herself to get emotionally involved with her clients, but admits she has sex with them when necessary. "It's just part of the job," she says. Still, despite the great pay, she wishes her work were a bit more challenging. "You don't need brains to be a professional seducer," she laments. "All you need is for the man's brains to be in his pants, and nine times out of 10 they are."


La - posted on 06/17/2010




Here's the thing about entrapment: you aren't forcing or tricking someone into doing something wrong. You are only presenting the opportunity and allowing THEM to make the choice. If he was going to cheat it, he was going to do it whether this fake fling presented itself or not.

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Hannah - posted on 06/18/2010




I find forcing a funny way to describe men who willingly cheat on their wives. As the saying goes... "you can't force the willing." Nobody is twisting these mens arms.

Tracey - posted on 06/18/2010




A man (or woman) who is happy at home isn't going to cheat, both parties should work harder to make their marriage work rather than paying for sex workers to sleep with their spouses. Maybe they should spend the $2500 on a holiday for the two of them.

Tah - posted on 06/18/2010




doesn't sound like he's being pushed into it, he's probably already doing it and she knows and is tired of the crap..if he goes and does it o well, thats on him...

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I don't agree with the wives who hire her to trap their husbands, but I don't feel sorry for the men either. This lady didn't force the husbands to cheat at gunpoint, they made their own decision and they are responsible for their own actions.

*Lisa* - posted on 06/17/2010




I lived in Japan for a while and can see why the women would hire this kind of service. It is pretty common practice for husbands to have prostitutes and for wives to stay at home looking after the house and kids and turn a blind eye. I agree with Sara H too.
And yes it is pronounced foo-koo-da haha.

Rosie - posted on 06/17/2010




yeah, agree with sara h on this one. not to sure i agree with what she's doing, but if the men are asshole enough to go for it, take the money and run.

LaCi - posted on 06/17/2010




It still makes me think of little lupe's interview on howard stern. vaginapoosay?woohoo! I don't think this is any worse than "Cheaters" really, or the talk shows that set up the boyfriends suspected of cheating... I just think it's a pretty low move to get a bigger settlement. Kind of gross really. I mean, they weren't cheating before necessarily, you're marriage has gone to shit to the point you're about to divorce or are in the process of divorcing and some hot broad throws herself at them, what's stopping them? They aren't happily married, still cheating, but the whole set up is gross to me.

Sharon - posted on 06/17/2010




And Laci - I believe entrapment is only illegal when used by government officials to convict someone of a crime.

But I haven't looked it up.

And.. Fukuda - is most likely pronounced Foo-koo-dah not fuck-u-duh

Krista - posted on 06/17/2010




I agree completely with Laura. People need to be responsible for their own behaviour. A woman can dance around naked and shake her ta-tas in front of a married man, but at the end of the day, he is still making the CHOICE as to whether or not to be unfaithful.

LaCi - posted on 06/17/2010




Isn't entrapment illegal?

Ah just realized it's not US. K then, have at it fukuda. What a funny last name. And so fitting ;x

C. - posted on 06/16/2010




I have to agree with Sara H and Sharon Grey.

(Sara) "While I don't agree with what she is doing, I do have to say that if a man falls for it, he deserves what he gets."

(Sharon) "its not forcing him to cheat. he's been doing it. probably why the wife wants a divorce in the first place. now she just has hard proof and is better off."

If a man was cheating, then he won't be 'falling for it'.. But if a man is thinking of it, he will easily fall into the trap. Cheaters deserve having to pay the other spouse in the event of a divorce, IMO.

Becky - posted on 06/16/2010




Wow! That's crazy that there is even such a service! But, I agree, they're not forcing them to cheat. And if they go ahead and cheat with her, then they are scuzbags to begin with and no wonder their wives are divorcing them!

Shelley - posted on 06/16/2010




Wow who thinks of this kind of stuff. it does make you wonder what our partners would do though?

Sharon - posted on 06/16/2010




its not forcing him to cheat. he's been doing it. probably why the wife wants a divorce in the first place. now she just has hard proof and is better off.

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While I don't agree with what she is doing, I do have to say that if a man falls for it, he deserves what he gets.

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