Wondering on ways to help out in the intimate stage while prego.

Katherine - posted on 06/17/2011 ( 17 moms have responded )

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Sry if the subject might had confused you I didn't want to type too much on the subject just in case it might offend lol not sure if it will but you never know. Anyhow I am prego with my 3rd/last child and is only 22 weeks .. I am trying to find out some different ways for me and my husband to get " closer or intimate " I am showing alot sooner then I did the other 2 times and already having extreme difficulties when we try to have our " quality time " together, depending on where Zeyden is moving or " resting " lol at that time sometimes it makes it really really hard for us to be intimate and it's funny b/c with my other 2 pregnancies I didn't have this problem til close to the end of my pregnancy but still didn't seem this hard to do lols, it's like a puzzle I can't figure out lols, we have tried me on top which works out sometimes .. but when he starts a moving and pushing downwards * which he seems to do what around that moment lol * I just can't sit like that, and we attempted sideways but for some reason it doesn't work out or when we mangage to make it work I am very uncomfortable with the feeling, and when I am able to we do it doggy but again it all depends on where he is lols, any suggestions that might help this go a little smoother? lols thanks a bunch if so and for some reason I feel very arkward asking this lol which never really happens. But anyhow thanks a bunch.

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Nicky - posted on 06/20/2011

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have you tried having him sit on a chair and you sit on top? you can then hold onto the back of the chair for support, and your legs can reach the ground too (depending on your height of course!)
i also found it good lazy styles, its sort of spooning but say you are lying side by side in bed, he is on his side facing you, and you are on your back with your legs either side of his, you might need pillow support to prop you up a bit later on in pregnancy, but its a nice position if you cant be bothered moving LOL

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/19/2011

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The easiest for us (I'm in the exact same boat by the way, ugh!) is to have him lay sideways and you lay on your back laying straight out away from him, if that makes sense? Not sure how to describe it... then one of your legs goes over his stomach area and the other between his legs.. His leg either rests on top of yours or on either side of your prego tummy :)

I know its hard. We've had sex once where almost nothing felt good. Have you tried on top of him and sideways? That's usually really easy too.

I'm also at the point now where we're just doing oral most of the time. Great learning experiance for both of us, to do something we don't normally spend so much time doing haha and it in no way hurts. Because some days we're both exhausted and it's easier. Very much less awkward. So if all else fails, tongue and finger :P and maybe some toys but I haven't been shopping yet lol

Mrs. - posted on 06/18/2011

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At the end, the position we went to was him standing on the side of the bed, me putting a series of cushions under me and him squatting a bit when we have sex. That way, he doesn't have to lay on top and you can still lay on your back like you are in missionary...which is comfy when you are pregnant.

Give it a try. It may not work if he's super, super tall, but my fiance is over 6 foot.

Chanda - posted on 06/18/2011

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I know they can be pricey sometimes, but have you tried a sex swing? They have ones that will hook onto a door and ones that have their own frame, I think they even have ones you can bolt into your ceiling and just unclip when not in use.. Takes the pressure off certain positions and changes the angles a bit...Good luck! =)

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Katherine - posted on 06/20/2011

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lol no at least I don't think soo haha, but who knows sometimes it does get a little heated lols, but anyhow the leg cramps I happen to just get in the middle of the night while I'm sleeping I tend to stretch my legs and what not and then I will have those pains blaahhss. But the cramping in my stomach isn't hurtful hurtful but def. noticed, I am going to ask the dr. if it is normal b/c like I said all this crap is happening with this pregnancy lol how funny. But normally the little cramps is just after I orgasim then goes away so not sure if the 2 have anything in common. But the oral we have done alot more often then what we were lols but it gets too heated and goes farther lol which I know my hubby is loving my sex drive being back b/c after we had our son, I wasn't too into it nor that often. But now being prego it's all coming back haha. It's soo funny how especially all 3 of these pregnancies are def. different. But thanks for the chats it's def. appreciated I don't get to talk to too many others about anything lols.

Nicky - posted on 06/20/2011

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not sure about the cramping, i do get leg cramps, which i have had for years, and is so so so completely bad timing and causes us to lurch around trying to get the cramp out in the heat of the moment and completely hilarious but not good timing!!!!!!!!!!
but back on topic, i guess I would be concerned about 'where' the cramps are, i'd defenitely mention it to your midwife or whoever you are dealing with through this pregnancy, just in case, are you being a bit too vigorous there love? he he

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I know a few weeks ago when I orgasimed it felt like a big knot forming in my back like all my nerves being tweaked and my boyfriend after he did he's like 'did you?' and I'm like 'well I'm not sure..' and a while later I said 'I feel good, so I think that's what that knot must have been' it sucked. Basically my back cramped on me? So I guess it can happen. Sounds to me like you are experiancing mini contractions (usually nothing big) but that sucks :(
I swear, start doing oral. It's so much easier lmao

Katherine - posted on 06/20/2011

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lol well tyvm some of these I haven't thought of lols, I am def. going to try the chair thing, and the advice about the sideways * which from your details I am guessing we'd look sorta like a y in a way if I understood you correctly .. so I will def. look into that, lately I have been ontop b/c for the most part it's the one that hurts less but I want to ask as well, have any of you had crampings after orgasim? I never did the first 2 times but this time I sometimes after orgasiming .. my tummy will tense and it will hurt for a couple minutes or so. Not sure if any one else has went through this. But anyhow lols ty I am def. going to to experiement.

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lmao my boyfriend tried that in a rocker........ it wasn't pretty

Katherine - posted on 06/19/2011

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Oo n about the swing no I never heard of that ty for the idea. Never even knew there was one lols.

Katherine - posted on 06/19/2011

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ty I might try that, no me and him are only an inch difference lol I"m 5'4 and he's 5'5 which is too funny but ty for all the wonderful advice. I will def. try it out and I have googled some but only came up with the ones I had mentioned * soo far lol * but I'm still browsing. Thanks again.

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Side by side(spoon position if i am correct)is best i think.No pressure on the tummy or your partner having to be so careful with your bump.

I found this way great personally because i could rest..i called it the lazy position lol.

Google sex positions when pregnant.You might find some useful information.Best of luck.Best wishes on the rest of the pregnancy and birth.:-)

Katherine - posted on 06/18/2011

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ty, I didn't think their was but just in case there was something I wasn't aware of I figured I would ask lols. No I haven't tried a pillow but I def. will attempt it, it's funny b/c my other 2 pregnancies like I said I had no problems lols I mean of course my belly was in the way a bit but each child didn't give us a hard time but our last one this time is like heck no get off me haha too funny but thanks a bunch I will keep trying at it so far it's just me being uncomfortable my husband don't care as long as it's happening in some way lols. But thank you very much I appreciate it.

Amie - posted on 06/18/2011

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I can't think of anything other than what you've been doing. Keep experimenting with positions, it's the only real way to find one that works for you both. Have you tried using a pillow to support your belly so (hopefully) baby doesn't move as much? Mine always moved less if they felt something supporting my belly. Going slowly always worked best for my husband and I. Wasn't that great for me always, I'm not a slow and gentle kind of person, but at least it helped keep the cranky mood at bay.

I'm not sure I'm much help. It wasn't all that bad for us though either. With our last (we have 4) we completely abstained for the last month of my pregnancy. My last month with her was also horrid. I swore my hips and back were going to break. lol

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