!!!Workplace Bullying!!!

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 07/22/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




Has this ever happend to you??? Do you agree with this??

There are some very important things they don't tell you on career day. Chief among them is that there is a good chance that at some point during your working adult life you will have an abusive boss - the kind who uses his or her authority to torment subordinates. Bullying bosses scream, often with the goal of humiliating. They write up false evaluations to put good workers' jobs at risk. Some are serial bullies, targeting one worker and, when he or she is gone, moving on to their next victim.

Bosses may abuse because they have impossibly high standards, are insecure or have not been properly socialized. But some simply enjoy it. Recent brain-scan research has shown that bullies are wired differently. When they see a victim in pain, it triggers parts of their brain associated with pleasure. (See 10 ways your job will change.)

Worker abuse is a widespread problem - in a 2007 Zogby poll, 37% of American adults said they had been bullied at work - and most of it is perfectly legal. Workers who are abused based on their membership in a protected class - race, nationality or religion, among others - can sue under civil rights laws. But the law generally does not protect against plain old viciousness.

That may be about to change. Workers' rights advocates have been campaigning for years to get states to enact laws against workplace bullying, and in May they scored their biggest victory. The New York state senate passed a bill that would let workers sue for physical, psychological or economic harm due to abusive treatment on the job. If New York's Healthy Workplace Bill becomes law, workers who can show that they were subjected to hostile conduct - including verbal abuse, threats or work sabotage - could be awarded lost wages, medical expenses, compensation for emotional distress and punitive damages.

Not surprisingly, many employers oppose the bill. They argue that it would lead to frivolous lawsuits and put them at risk for nothing more than running a tight ship and expecting a lot from their workers. But supporters of the law point out that it is crafted to cover only the most offensive and deliberate abuse. The bill requires that wrongful conduct be done with "malice," and in most cases that it has to be repeated. It also provides affirmative defenses for companies that investigate promptly and address the problem in good faith.



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Sharon - posted on 07/22/2010




I had a lesbian boss who was a complete & utter bitch. She used to harass me and nag me and come on to me - she said she could "change my mind". It was incredibly annoying. I was a junior in highschool.

That was sexual harassment but she used bullying as a way to try and get me to react to shit she would say or do. Complaint after complaint and I never saw anyone or heard from anyone.

Same with the boss who grabbed my breasts and stuck his nasty old man tongue in my ear. UGH. All I heard back was "its your word against his, there is nothing to be done."

It will be hard as hell to prove this bullying.

Same for the other boss who used me as his personal assistant rather than the corporation secretary & receptionist. I was asked to pick his kid from daycare, science camp etc, pick up non driving workers for the job, take his dry cleaning in, pick up his dry cleaning, etc etc etc. My pay never went up, he didn't chip in for my cell phone bill or my truck insurance or my gas.

I could have refused to do any of it, but then he destroys your time card and claims you were late 3 times and now he has grounds to fire you. I filed complaints against him too. What I heard back was "you appear to have several complaints on file...." wtf?

Suck it up princess. Mean assholes abound.

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It's a good thing BUT

I think the bill could be easily abused. Some employers want only the best, and someone who is not up to par may claim they were bullied when in reality they weren't performing up to the standards expected.

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