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Worlds Heaviest mom

Katherine - posted on 09/03/2011 ( 14 moms have responded )




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Six-hundred pounds is pretty freakin' heavy. That's like the size of a large horse or a cow. And that was how much the World's Heaviest Mother, Donna Simpson, weighed at her record-breaking peak.

A few months ago, we wrote about how the 42-year-old New Jersey woman was on a (deadly) mission to become severely obese and reach her goal weight of 900 pounds by eating 12,000 calories of fatty foods a day.

The worst part? She was making money by endangering her life. Donna charged twisted gawkers $20 to subscribe to her personal website, where they could watch live-streamed video of her eating. Last year, she made about $90,000 from subscriptions alone.

Thankfully for both her well-being and her two children, she's finally come to her senses and is now pledging to lose weight (and see a psychologist). It's just sad that it wasn't until her breakup with her fiance that she decided to get healthier.

Here's some background: Donna's fiance classified himself as a "belly man" and encouraged her poor eating. As long as she had him, there was someone to take care of Donna and her children. Since the split, the obese mom has realized that she needs to be that caretaker. As a result, she's already lost 60 pounds with the help of better eating and exercise, and aims to get down to her new goal weight of 370 pounds.

Loving someone is about wanting what's best for them. I just can't understand how you can love another person and still support such life-threatening habits like extreme obesity. And it's hard to believe Donna was really as happy as she claims at her heaviest. Being loved is one of the greatest feelings, but her love wasn't a good love. It could have been fatal.

When I first met my boyfriend, I was in the process of losing 60 pounds. Since then, I've dropped another 15 or so and am finally at my goal weight. I love that he keeps me motivated to stay fit. Morning gym trips together help. He wants what's best for me, meaning he wants me to be healthy.

Now that Donna's out of her relationship, she'll learn to really love herself. As a mother, she'll be able to devote her affection to her children instead of to a man who didn't believe in her and, in her words, had a "fetish" about her weight. This breakup could turn out to be the healthiest move she's ever made.

Do you think encouraging a healthy lifestyle is critical for a relationship?

Wow and to think she did this for attention? I think that if your partner is concerned about your weight, then yes it's important to have a healthy lifestyle. I don't think it's critical. This woman's case is rare.


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370 is probably a short term goal that will serve as a stepping stone on the way to an actual healthy weight. A lot of weight loss professionals find that setting short term goals keeps people on track and promotes a healthier diet, rather than a crash diet, which can be fatal in morbidly obese people.

As for the fiance. He is disgusting. While I don't think it is essential to promote a healthy lifestyle in a relationship, I do think it is essential NOT to promote unhealthy habits. It doesn't hurt to push your partner to go to the gym every evening, but it can be seriously harmful if you are pushing your partner to down a bag of chips every evening.

I do think the woman did it for attention, thus the blog. I think she recognizes that she (and he) had some issues, and I think she is doing the best she can to address this situation from all sides by including therapy in her weightloss plan.


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Brittany - posted on 10/17/2011




I can not believe a "man" that "loved" her would encourage this lifestyle. He is not the one that has to deal with the risks of gaining all the weight and then the issues with losing the weight. It is very dangerous to gain weight like that.

There are plenty of things I would do for my husband but, putting on 800 pounds is not one of them. After having my children I gained a lot of weight. I was not "obese" but, I was not a healthy weight for my hieght. My husband told me he loved me the way I was becuase, he does not want skin and bones. I have since lost a lot of weight even though my husband told me I was perfect. I did it because, I needed to and I wanted to.

I hope this lady can get the help she needs and she can get to a healthy weight.

Elise - posted on 10/16/2011




In my experience with losing weight I did better having short goals. When I would reach one I would "reward" myself. Maybe go see a movie or buy a new outfit. I hope that is what she is doing.

Becky - posted on 09/06/2011




It is her choice, but the problem is that she has children too. By not doing everything in her power to be the healthiest she can be, she is ultimately cheating them. She is cheating them out of having a healthy mother who can be fully involved in their lives, because even at 370 lbs, her energy and her ability to be involved in some activities is going to be limited. She is potentially cheating them out of having a mother for the rest of their childhood. And she is cheating them by teaching them unhealthy lifestyle habits and that relationships are more important than respect for yourself and your wellbeing. In my opinion, that is child abuse. I'm glad she is making changes, but I think she still has a ways to go. Hopefully seeing a psychologist will help her to see that.
And her ex is just effed-up! Who encourages someone they supposedly love to essentially try to kill themselves???

Katherine - posted on 09/04/2011




Right. It is. I totally agree with you. And you're right nothing CAN be done, it's her choice.

Katherine - posted on 09/04/2011




That is true Sherri. I still think it's unappealing and unhealthy. She has made so much money off of this I can't even believe it.

Katherine - posted on 09/04/2011




At least 370 isn't 600 lol. That is still very unhealthy. I'm sure she will try to lose more weight at some point.....I hope.

Sal - posted on 09/04/2011




no promoing a healthy lifestyle isn't essential, however incouraging an unhealthy one is not a good realationship building block

Stifler's - posted on 09/04/2011




being too fat is detrimental to your sex life and emotional and physical health. if you can't be happy within yourself you won't be happy with your partner. her partner also sounds like he needs some help. i'm not against fetishes but ffs, when it's encouraging an extremely unhealthy lifestyle i think he's thinking more of himself than of her.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 09/03/2011




370 is still too much, I hope when she gets to that goal she will see to be at her best she needs to lose more weight, but at least she came to her senses…its better late then never.

Kate CP - posted on 09/03/2011




Her GOAL weight is 370 lbs?! That's not a normal weight for ANY one. Unless you're like 8 frickin' feet tall!

JuLeah - posted on 09/03/2011




If you love someone you want them to be the best they can be ... I am glad you posted this however. I went shopping today for dress slacks and this puts things into perspective

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