Would you have said something?

Kayle - posted on 09/14/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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The other day we went to "Incredible Pizza" a family fun center with games and what not. So of course there is tons of children of all ages running around. One of the workers was wearing a braclet that said " Fuck Cancer" in big bold letters. You know I would say that to cancer has taken way to many of my friends and family. But when it comes to being a family place where children are every where, I think that is inappropriate. I polietly asked for him to put it in his pocket. He ignored me. I said it again and he ignored me again. Then he went over to a co-worker and was pointing at us at talking to her. I wanted to go to his manager but figured it might be a soft spot for him. But still I think it's still inappropriate for a place with so many children.

Was I wrong to have asked him to put it in his pocket?
Should I have go to his manager?

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Cyndel - posted on 09/14/2010

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After asking politely twice I would have talked to the manager. Any work place something with a curse word on it like that is inappropriate while on duty, any of my managers at any of my jobs would have pitched a fit and told me never to wear it at work.
I would probably laugh seeing it in passing in Walmart if he was another customer, but as a worker anywhere it is inappropriate on the job.

Nikki - posted on 09/14/2010

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It's inappropriate and unprofessional, personally swearing doesn't bother me but I don't think it is not appropriate for people in the customer service industry to wear items such as this which others might find offensive. Regardless of whether or not he had a close personal experience with cancer, there is a time and a place, the workplace is not the place. I would have called the manager, but I am a stickler for professionalism and standards! Can't help myself!

Sara - posted on 09/15/2010

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Definitely innapropriate! He could've even turn it around.. just to be respectful.

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While I agree with the sentiment on the bracelet (I lost my mentor to cancer in 2003, as well as a few other people near and dear to my heart), I feel that there is another bracelet the emplyee could have chosen that got the same message across without the word "fuck." I know my daughter would have read it and asked either myself or the employee what it said and what it means.



I would have gone to the manager and asked that the employee remove the bracelet while at work and maybe suggest the employee be urged to find an alternative way of getting his message out while at work.

C. - posted on 09/15/2010

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That's just inappropriate and YES, you should have gone to the manager!!! Working in a family oriented environment, you shouldn't be wearing things with profanity, whether it be a bracelet, necklace or clothing.

I would have gone to the manager about it. And especially when he was talking to a coworker and pointing at you, I would have mentioned to the manager how unprofessional that was as well.

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I agree w/you & applaud you for standing up for your kids. It's too bad young people have no limits anymore.

Riana - posted on 09/15/2010

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It is obviously a soft spot, definately would have let it go. I see no ofense in it.

Petra - posted on 09/15/2010

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I think wearing a swear word to your place of work is inappropriate, but is it really worth getting bent about?

Tracey - posted on 09/15/2010

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It is a swear word and inappropriate to wear around children. If it was one of those plastic wristbands that are common for all causes I would be concerned at how clean it was with the man around food all day.
I would have complained to the manager and to the head office. I lost my dad to cancer but I wouldn't wear this bracelet to work when I was a teaching assistant at the time.

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Half the kids wouldnt even notice that..many wouldnt of been able to read it.I think you cant really tell someone to do that personally.. the have the right to wear it.It did offend you but not everyone there and its just one person among many, so your at a loss.

Stifler's - posted on 09/14/2010

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He probably makes like $5 an hour. I agree with the bracelet and if my kid asked I would have explained what it meant. Ignoring you was extremely rude though, probably rude enough that I would have told the manager about that.

Jessica - posted on 09/14/2010

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I would have to say I'd let it go. Like Lyndsay said- I doubt kids are going to be paying enough attention to notice. And like you said- it may be a soft spot for him, maybe he lost a loved one to cancer and that's his way of expressing it. If it were something really obvious then I might be offended since he works in a place clearly for children... but as its just a bracelet, I wouldn't make such a big issue of it.

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After speaking to him once I think you should've gone to the manager. I wouldn't have said anything, but that's just how extremely nonconfrontational I am. Of course, my girls probably would've noticed and asked him about it....

Kate CP - posted on 09/14/2010

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No, you SHOULD have gone to the manager. It is HIGHLY inappropriate and probably against his dress code, too.

Lyndsay - posted on 09/14/2010

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Personally, I wouldn't really have cared. I doubt the children in a family fun centre are really going to stop everything to read this guy's bracelet.

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