Would you let your teenager read 50 Shades of Grey?

Tracey - posted on 08/27/2012 ( 28 moms have responded )

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I haven't read the book so I can't comment (and due to lack of vampires my daughter has no interest) but this is being discussed on the radio so I wondered what others thought?

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Lady Heather - posted on 08/27/2012

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I think I would try to direct them towards some more well written erotica without all the weird abusiveness. I'm less worried about the sex and more worried about the shitty writing and bad relationship advice.

Isobel - posted on 08/31/2012

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I'll try to steer her away from them the same way I try to steer her away from Twilight...I think though, if you think you have control over what your teenager reads you are kidding yourself.

Jodi - posted on 08/27/2012

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I haven't read them (and don't really have an interest to), but once they reach 16 or 17, I don't see that it is really something I'd put a stop to. I was reading whatever I wanted at that age, and I don't see the harm.

Kathy - posted on 09/01/2012

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I wouldn't buy them the book - nor get it from the library for them.



If they want it, they will have to get it on their own.



I have 2 teens, and thankfully, I do not think it is their cup of tea. If I found one of them reading it, I would probably rant and rave about how controlling and a$$hole-ish he is, and how annoying she is. Really, it reminds me of a pornographic Twilight….

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Liv - posted on 01/15/2015

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I wouldnt but i have to say i have nieces that are young teens and its unbelievable the stories they come home telling my sister or what she hears them discussing with their friends...its unfortunate but kids arent kids for as long as we were. We like to think they know nothing about this stuff but thats being very close minded.

Anonymous.. - posted on 12/29/2014

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Your teen will surely read anything behind your back. FYI: I'm a teenager and reading even just a simple, innocent romance is something I keep secret from mom (teenagers can be very secretive). So if I were to read 50 Shades of Grey I WOULD MOST DEFINITELY NOT TELL MOM. But, mind you, I have no interest in reading this book. But if you think you're going to stop your teenager, you're wrong! Plus, in addition to that thought, I think it would be an alright book for 16 - and up, in my opinion, though I've never read it, but in regards of what I've heard. Better yet, don't let them read it until they're moved out of your house -- LOL. Also, as stated previously... I think it should also depend on the maturity of your teenager. =)

Shanetta - posted on 09/30/2012

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No I would not let my children read this book. Too much adult content for them.

Sylvia - posted on 09/28/2012

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I definitely don't recall too much "nurturing sex" in the VC Andrews books I read o_O I do recall a lot of incest and a metric buttload of Serious Psychological Issues. I recall thinking that you'd have to lock *me* in an attic with *my* 3 siblings for a LOT longer than that before I started wanting to have sex with any of them LOL. But no, I don't remember them being particularly graphic. Then again maybe those bits just went over my head ...

Janice - posted on 09/28/2012

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I just read the book and it definitely is not something I would let my young teen read. The sex "scenes" are just to graphic. Of course once my daughter is 17 I dont think I will have much say over what she reads. The book is mediocre and so I'm sure the hype will die down over the next 14 years and I wont have to worry about it. Sadly I hate not knowing how things end. I have been known to continue watching a show (1episode) just to see the end even though its not that good and I wouldn't watch the series. So I do feel compelled to read the other books.

Karla - posted on 09/28/2012

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The VC Andrews book I read (by the real VC Andrews) had a teenage girl having sex with her brother. I wouldn't call that "nurturing sex." I would say the the Andrews books weren't near as graphic as the 50 Shades books. I would not want an under 17 y.o. daughter to read "50 Shades of Grey."



Having said that, I'm pretty sure I was reading things just as shocking when I was 14, so whatever.



I honestly would rather my teen read "My Secret Garden" by Nancy Friday, than "50 Shades of Grey." I say that because 1 - the writing is so much better, 2 - it talks about individual preferences and a variety of preferences, 3 - it affirms that fantasy is normal and isn't necessarily reflected in real life.

Johnny - posted on 09/27/2012

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I'm not sure which VC Andrews books you read, but the one I recall the most had a teenage girl having sex with her stepdad. I REALLY hope that's not the kind of nurturing we are talking about.

Mischa - posted on 09/26/2012

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No!! You have a couple of issues going on here. Admittingly, I had my fair share of VC Andrews collection when I was a teenager. Hypocritical, right? But, let's talk about the differences of these authors. One is S&M sex and one is nurturing sex. So, I'm concerned that upon reading this book, of the possibility that it could influence a way of intimacy without a good foundation and understanding of all the things involved in sex. Fetisism is not a common preference. I disagree with the arguements that there are 'all levels' of S&M' on the rationale that manypeople enjoy a little spanking and owns a pair of handcuffs. True S&M is about being turned on by the sensation of pain. Their needs and desires are centered around on that. If this distinction is not clear, then hand a large spatula over to your partner and very roughly, slap you with it. See if the same people would feel the same sensation of someone licking the backside of thier neck, along with, not calling 'uncle' after at least 10 times of spanking with that thing. Fetishism is not bad, it's just about preferences!! This leads me to my next point, I don't think that this book should be an introduction to the sexually inexperienced, and to people who are not in a place developementally (youth) to explore this area yet. The biggest flaw in this plot is that fetishism was introduced to a virgin. This was profoundly wrong to me because she was inexperienced and influenced by the needs of Christain, and not her own initially. If it was not for her maintenance of boundaries and standards, than this book would be outright distrubing and croos upon a moral line. Lastly, this book is about 70% in sexual scenes...that being said, it is tantamount to...well...porn. I'm sure many parents do not allow teens to surf porn....so this should be also added to the list of no-no's. This is not a 'Young Adult" book. There are also ratings on books! this was not intended for young adults- less than age 18.

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nope. i haven't read it either but from all the crap i've heard about it, heck no. i was allowed to read some pretty gruesome and explicit stuff when i was a teen and i wouldn't put that kind of screwed-up thinking into my baby girl's head. if she even wants to read that shit, she can do so when she's eighteen.



oh hey, someone else has read the Earth Children series! go us, lol.

Jodi - posted on 09/26/2012

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Can I say.....my 20 year old step daughter just bought it for me for my birthday....so who am I to comment, right? I had absolutely no intention of reading it, and now I kind of feel I have to.....

Hope - posted on 09/26/2012

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Eh, something about reading basically a porno.....is just not enticing to me. Call me crazy, but I'd rather watch the real thing. Not meaning to upset any of the other moms who have read this...I just don't see it being much of a page-turner. LOL

Sylvia - posted on 08/31/2012

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I think though, if you think you have control over what your teenager reads you are kidding yourself.



Oh, for sure. I don't even have control over what my 10yo reads -- but I do try do keep an eye out and supply, for lack of a better term, non-crap so that at least she has it available.



I don't believe in censorship. But I edit and write for a living, and I confess that some of the reading material out there really makes my teeth hurt :P

Johnny - posted on 08/31/2012

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LOL @ Flowers in the Attic. I'd forgotten about all those. If I turned out arguably well-adjusted having read Heaven when I was about 14, I'm sure my kid would survive 50 Shades of Grey. Both poor writing, but as far as I know 50 Shades isn't full of incest. Nonetheless, I'd still try to steer her towards something better quality. Although I've noticed that teens often prefer crap. How else can you explain the popularity of Fun Dip and Jersey Shore?

Sylvia - posted on 08/31/2012

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^Exactly.



Of course teenagers are going to read about sex, if they possibly can. Some of what they read is going to be absurdly romanticized and/or unrealistic in other ways. (I read Flowers in the Attic, OMFG.) But I don't think parents should encourage their kids to read books that glamorize abusive relationships.

Stifler's - posted on 08/30/2012

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Probably not. Due to the shitful writing style. I read books like that as a teenager with sex in it. But they weren't so fucking delusional like 50 Shades is that you come your first time and that you can change a person who has serious control issues.

Sylvia - posted on 08/30/2012

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I think I would try to direct them towards some more well written erotica without all the weird abusiveness. I'm less worried about the sex and more worried about the shitty writing and bad relationship advice.



Yes, this.



Which is also pretty much how I feel about the Twilight books.



There are so many awesome books in the world, why spend your time reading crappy ones?

Rosie - posted on 08/28/2012

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i have read them and no way would i let my underage child read them. MAYBE 17, but i doubt it. i also doubt my 3 boys would want to read them, lol. thank the FSM!!

Chelsey - posted on 08/27/2012

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If my kids want to read the books when they are older they can go right ahead. The only reason I would dissuade them is because they aren't a very good read in my opinion. I read Jean Auels Earths Children series when I was 12 and its got its fair share of sex in it as well.

Johnny - posted on 08/27/2012

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I haven't read them, so I'm not sure. Unlikely up to age 14/15 and it would depend after that, both on my daughter's maturity and on the books. I'd have to read them first to make a real decision, so I would really try to dissuade her because I don't want to read them. We do have some erotic literature on our bookshelves which I have read. If she'd old enough to reach them, she's old enough to read them. But then I've read them so I can offer a proper assessment.

Momma (MeMe) - posted on 08/27/2012

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I have read all 3 books and there is no way on this planet, that I would allow my almost 14 year old, to read any of it. She knows it is not meant for her age group and has not shown even a remote interest. She is not interested in sex, therefore she would not want to read it anyhow.



She did tell me that there was a big hype in the media for Mom's reading it and she knows I read it but that is about it. I did tell her what it was about in general and she walked away not wanting to have any further knowledge. ;)



Now, if she was 17 or older, sure. That is her choice, I could not stop her, then.

S. - posted on 08/27/2012

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I have read the books and I have a 13 year old, No I most defenatly would be not letting her read them. She has told me a few of her friends have read them thou.

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