Yes im taking my child on my honeymoon!!! So What!

Michelle - posted on 05/14/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )




I'm getting married in 2 weeks. My daughter is 18 months old and were taking her with us on our honeymoon for the simple fact that i would not feel comfortable flying to another country and leaving her for 2 weeks, it would actually ruin my holiday. Everybody has had something to say on this matter and think i am crazy for taking her. I'm sick of hearing it.


Isobel - posted on 05/14/2010




well fine then...I'll be the one to say it...if you're sick of hearing opinions on the matter, a debating board is probably not the place to post it. Maybe try Mommy Chat? I know the ladies who have posted so far have agreed with you and been absolutely lovely, but that might not be the case for long.

I know I came pretty close to giving you my honest opinion.

Tah - posted on 05/14/2010




i personally would not have a problem leaving my 18 month old with my mother for 2 weeks. she raised 10 children and we are all here with all our fingers and parents have 14 grandchildren that you can't pull away from their house once they get there with a crowbar ages 3-22 and again all ok...but other people feel different. i think that people are just surprised to hear that because i had never heard of children on honeymoons before you posted this. to each it's own though, if you 2 want to take the baby and still feel you can relax and do all the things you want with her there then have a blast.....i would want to snorkle and drink and go on tours and drink...and be able to sleep in and stay out late and not to have to say stop, wait, come here, put that down, heres your sippy all day down, footloose, fancy free and all that...but to each it's wishes..

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Sarah - posted on 06/11/2010




I took my son on my 'honeymoon' and it wasnt what id always dreamt of. The only reason why i took him was because i didnt feel comfortable leaving him for a week, as i was very clingy with him because my mother in law wasnt too nice to me. My husband and i didnt get any time together, we just chose a nice hotel (there was nothing to do there, at all !) We didnt got abroad and we only went for 4 days. It was nice but im soooo desperate for a belated honeymoon.

My son is now 2 years old and my daughter is 13 weeks and im saving up for a belated honeymoon. I feel i could leave my children with my mum for a week, no longer though. Just so i can have the honeymoon ive always wanted. Id miss them like crazy, but us parents need some fun every now and then. It'll be a while though before we manage to go on our belated honeymoon, wouldnt be able to leave my daughter as shes so young at the moment.

Don't listen to what other people are telling you what you should/shouldnt do. It's your honeymoon and your child and if you dont feel comfortable leaving your daughter for 2 weeks then thats fine. But, i will be a family holiday, not a honeymoon as such. I wish you all the best and hope you enjoy your wedding and honeymoon :o)

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Congratulations on your upcoming marriage. I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving my son at such a young age either. It really doesn't matter what other people think. Providing the two of you are happy with it then I'm sure you will enjoy your holiday.

Michelle - posted on 05/16/2010




Thanks guys! We dont class it as a honeymoon, its a family holiday but because its after the wedding people assume its our honeymoon. We dont feel we are missing out as we have been all over the world together before we had our daughter and as a few of you have said we chose to have a baby before we were married and this is all part and parcel of it.

Lea - posted on 05/15/2010




I agree its a family vacation. My husband and I took our honeymoon on your first anniversary. Its ok to do a honeymoon (just you and your husband) later. Trust me, you will need a break from your baby at some point but I totally understand why you are taking her and I don't judge you at all. HAVE FUN!!!

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So this really is a family vacation and not a honeymoon. Whatever works for your family and your situation at that time. It's no one else's business then.

Terri - posted on 05/15/2010




There is no way I would leave any of my children for 2 weeks and my eldest is 8 years old!

Good on ya Michelle, stick to your guns. She is still a baby and needs you.

We took our 11 and a half month old with us on our 10 year anniversary overnight stay at a cottage. Once she was down to sleep it was still romantic. I wouldnt have enjoyed myself leaving her overnight. Hope it all goes well for you and congratulations! :)

Kylie - posted on 05/15/2010




i say good on ya!..i would do the same..i could not be separated from my kids for 2 weeks no matter the occasion. Hopefully your staying at a hotel that offers baby sitting service so you can have a few romantic dinners :)

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I would either take someone to babysit; take a shorter honeymoon and leave my child at home or nix the "honeymoon" all together because although I understand that a marriage is a melding of families and can be looked at as a family affair I would not want to include my children in on my wedding night or honeymoon which is generally an extension of the wedding night... so I suggest stop calling it a honeymoon and say you are having a family vacation!

Joanna - posted on 05/14/2010




I could never leave my child for 2 weeks, so I'd do the same thing! Plus it's fun to explore the world with your children!

I got married 3 days after my daughter turned 1, in Vegas (no we didn't elope, it was a well planned out gazebo wedding with our families). Our "honeymoon" was the night we got married, my parents kept my daughter in their hotel room for the night. And that was the only time she's been away from me, and even that seemed almost too long.

Some parents just can't bear to be away from their children that long, and some are lucky enough to have people to watch their children, and the ability to trust they are safe and happy, and be able to leave them. Everyone is different, so I don't know why people would give someone a hard time for a personal choice like that.

Rosie - posted on 05/14/2010




i think you're setting yourself up for a lovely family vacation, but you aren't going to get the honeymoon you've probably always dreamed of. i had a 3 year old when i got married and i got my honeymoon finally this past year after 6 years of marriage. it was wonderful!!
while i don't feel uncomfortable leaving my child for that long, don't get me wrong i would miss them, i can get why some wouldn't want to leave.
basically, ii guess what i'm trying to say, is that from my experience you aren't going to get what you dreamed of, and i think people are just concerned for you, and want you to be happy, and get what you've dreamed of.

C. - posted on 05/14/2010




Personally, I think that things like Honeymoons, Anniversaries, etc.. Things that are meant to to intimate to begin with.. Should be just that, intimate. Just you and your SO. Couples need their alone time. But, whatever floats your boat, I guess..

And, now that I read the entire post.. I wouldn't leave my child for 2 weeks either. If it was just a few days or something, I would.. But not 2 weeks. I don't think you're alone on this.

Kate CP - posted on 05/14/2010




Well, it's definitely not the norm's your life and vacation. *shrug* Do whatever.

Sarah - posted on 05/14/2010




Each to their own!
We went on Honeymoon without our daughter (who was 3 at the time) we went to Prague for 3 days and it was great! The rest of our holiday was spent back in England with our daughter visiting my Mum, so Cadence got a little holiday too!

I think if you WANT to take your child on Honeymoon, then that's cool and no-one should make a big deal out of it. I ALSO think that if you DON'T want to take your child on Honeymoon with you, then that's perfectly understandable and nothing to feel bad about! :)

Amie - posted on 05/14/2010




We postponed our honeymoon for that reason. A vacation for the family is one thing, which we did do with our kids after our wedding last summer. But a honeymoon is supposed to be romantic and kid free with lots of sex. So we decided to wait for a few years.

A lot of this decision was based on the fact that my parents took me on their honeymoon. It destroyed it for them. It really did. It ended up being more a family vacation, which was not what they were envisioning at all for their honeymoon. Most couples don't. So when I was 16 and working, I saved my money for months leading up to their anniversary and babysat my siblings (with grandma around the corner if something went wrong) and sent them on the honeymoon they deserved.

I understand a lot of people want to take their kid(s) but it pretty much defeats the purpose of what a honeymoon is supposed to be in my eyes. It's not written in stone either that it has to be right after your wedding.

Jess - posted on 05/14/2010




I am completely with you on this ! When I get married my daughter will be coming along on the honeymoon. I couldn't bear to be away from her, and why should she have to stay at home ? I guess thats one of the things you have to accept when you have your kids before your wedding ! Honeymoons are traditionally all about having loads of uninterrupted sex, and I think once you become parents together your relationship evolves to a deeper level and that includes your precious little carry on ! Congrats on your big day and I hope the 3 of you have a wonderful family holiday together !

Louise - posted on 05/14/2010




I agree with you. There is no way in high hell I would leave my daughter behind not even for a week end. I would rather not go.I don't see a problem with this it is not as if the child is 10 and going to want to be entertained all day and night. She is 18 months and is going to be quite happy playing with sand and going to bed early giving you and your new husband the evenings to yourselves. Tell all the other people to sod off and have the holiday of a life time! ENJOY!!!!!

ME - posted on 05/14/2010




Have fun and enjoy your trip! I don't see any reason to listen to the opinions of others on this!

Jessica - posted on 05/14/2010




I would be worried that these people would actually leave there 18month old kids for 2 weeks in the first place. I think you are right, I would never leave my son for that long, even with my family.

Dana - posted on 05/14/2010




I'm sure people think they're just saying what they think is best, except you're her mother, do what's best for you all and don't give it anymore thought.

Krista - posted on 05/14/2010




This is your business, not theirs, so don't worry about what they think. Your wedding is about you and your fiance coming together as a family, and that family includes your daughter. So if you want to celebrate that by taking her with you and having a family trip, go for it! Besides, you can always have a romantic getaway for the two of you on your 10th wedding anniversary. :)

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Good for you for taking your daughter! Dont take any notice what anyone else has to say about it. I wouldnt go abroad without my kids either no matter what reason.

Jodi - posted on 05/14/2010




Michelle, if it is any consolation, we had 3 children (age 5,6 and 11 at the time) in our suite with us at a Hyatt Hotel for our wedding night :) (yes, it was a large suite with separate rooms, but still). I wouldn't worry about what anyone says - it's your honeymoon, you do what feels right for you as a family and have a great time!!

Best of luck to you!!

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