Young kids at adult concerts

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/16/2011 ( 81 moms have responded )

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Ok, so I saw a kick ass Social Distortion show last night, and the whole time I kept telling my husband I want to bring my 5 year old son the next time they are in town (chances are he will be 6 by then). This was my 6th Social D show, well anyone that knows Mike Ness, he went on a solo tour.....so 1-2 of those shows were solo shows...anyway, I have seen kids of all age ranges from 2 up at these concerts. I think Rancid i was the most surprised about. How do you feel about kids at adult shows like this???



Mind you, it is an 18 and up show without parents. Plenty of swearing, and punk rock clothing and personality. Good or bad thing??? I am for it, my husband is not so sure he wants to bring him.





*****Edited to add******* my child (like many others that I have seen at concerts) would have ear protection in his ear. I would not compromise my child's hearing to go to a concert.

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Jenny - posted on 05/16/2011

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It's Rock and Roll baby. Our daughter has been to a few concerts. When I was at AC/DC there was a 5 year old sitting beside me rocking out. Life is not sanitary and there are certain places where we can truly be free. Concerts are near a religious experience for me and I've been brought to tears a few times too. I think it's great for them to be a part of it too.

Jocelyn, my kids love BLS. I would have brought my daughter when I saw them in Vancouver but it was at a bar (Commodore Ballroom) so no minors.

Dana - posted on 05/17/2011

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It really would depend on the concert for me. My husband is a musician so my son has gone to his shows that are outdoors. But, would I want him to go to a hard core show - no.

There's too much fighting, drinking, drugs, etc...going on. I was at a Suicidal Tendencies, Danzig, Metallica concert once where big fires were started with blankets, all over the lawn. The venue was on a down hill slope and once the fires were put out, it caused the whole area to be covered in thick smoke, no one could breathe, there was a stampede, down hill, up hill. It was not good. So you just never know what could happen. Not to mention that mosh pits move. You could be standing perfectly safe at one point and the mosh pit just moves into your area. Not a place for a kid in my opinion.

Amanda - posted on 05/16/2011

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All of my kids have been going to outdoor adult band concerts since they were in the womb HAHA. As long as the child has ear protection and they arent in the mosh pit, no biggy at all. Only outdoor concerts because I am to cheap to buy tickets for myself much less my 3 kids.



Seriously questions about clothing and learning swear words? Kids learn swear words the day they enter school, or daycare. As for the clothing I see people wear worse things walking down the street then at a concert.

Jocelyn - posted on 05/16/2011

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DH wants to take our son (currently 4 yrs old) to the next Black Label Society show :P

As long as you're not tossing your child into the middle of the mosh pit, go for it LOL

Charlie - posted on 05/18/2011

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TOOL were the most mind blowing thing live I have ever seen , heard or felt .

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Melanie - posted on 05/19/2011

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when my oldest was 4 we took him to an all day out doors show where he saw everything from jewel to metallica. and my daughter saw my chemical romance and alkoline trio and we used ear plugs too. they seem to enjoy it but dont really remember now that they are older

Merry - posted on 05/19/2011

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I've only said fuck once out loud. That was when I tried some alcoholic drink....idk what it was, vodka I think. My son could be a teen before he hears swears :) I was

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LOL In Australia you can have an entire sentence using JUST the word fuck! It has so many meanings it's silly. :-) I do agree with you, Cynthia, that they are just words... which is why I don't have a problem with my kids hearing it. Not like I have a huge choice with a former farmer and current civil construction worker husband. lol

I don't actually swear much either, because my father (a Navy man who could swear a blue streak!) always told me that I was ignorant if I couldn't think of better, more colourful ways to say things other than swearing. Go figure.

Cynthia - posted on 05/18/2011

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if you're attempting to place emphasis on a particular point. i can maybe understand to an extent but I don't make a practice of it because there are so many other words to choose from. But they're only words and they're just as much a part of the English language as any other.

Cynthia - posted on 05/18/2011

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LOL what is one constructive way to use the word fuck?? all i can come up with is fuck yeah vs fuck you. but that is actually an example of keeping it respectful. i hate the word fuck most of all. if my son said that word i would wash his mouth out with soap.

Charlie - posted on 05/18/2011

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I actually think words like FUCK have a time and a place and can be used in a constructive way .

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My ex-husband took his 9 yr old step son to a Kiss concert and he loved it! My ex is a musician and works managing Guitar Center stores (and has done for 16 years now), so he gets kick ass tickets to anything and everything for free usually. That was probably one of the things I missed the most when we divorced.

You know, people who are saying they wouldn't want a kid to hear foul language... Do you realise that a lot of kids already hear that kind of language from home, at school or from tv/movies? What's the big deal about the language? All you do is say that they are words for adults, not kids. My 4 yr old gets it and doesn't use "adult words"... mind you, if someone (kid or adult) says the word "stupid" Seth gets right up them with "That's NAUGHTY! You don't use that word!" I'd rather they not use negative words than swear words.

Sarah - posted on 05/18/2011

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I would!! and have, just keep the little one away from the mosh pit and have a blast

Jenn - posted on 05/18/2011

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Also, I much prefer to go to something like a stage show or the opera and I would LOVE to take my kids to those kinds of shows! :)

Jenn - posted on 05/18/2011

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That's what I think too Veronica - if it's an "adult concert" it would be for ME to enjoy. If I want my kids to go to a concert we would go to a family-type show.

The concerts I've been to are: Spin Doctors (don't laugh, it was at Canada's Wonderland when I was 15 LOL), Kenny Rogers, Woodstock 99 (WAY too many bands to remember or name), Buckcherry, and I know there's a couple more but I can't think right now - beer brain.

Veronica - posted on 05/18/2011

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I agree with Jenn M. I wouldnt want my children around the drinking, smoking, fights, and nudity - and whatever else may go on.
I have, however, taken my kids to concerts for the State Fair - but its a great setting, everyone is seated and enjoying the music.
Ive been to concerts where some people were doing drugs right on the grounds - nothing like the sweet aroma of weed ;) lol So, unless its a PG band, or controlled decently like the sit-down ones for the Fair - I wouldnt bring my kids. Besides - it would be something I would take advantage of getting away from the kids! Id like to be an adult some time, and do stuff without my kids - so id rather go to a concert for adult time anyways.

Merry - posted on 05/18/2011

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Yay! I've heard of these groups! " Motley Crue, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Beastie Boys, Nine Inch Nails. AC/DC, Metallica "
I feel better now :)

Jenny - posted on 05/18/2011

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I've seen them 3 times. The One Hot Minute tour with Dave Navarro on guitar, the co-headlining tour with Foo Fighters (Dave Grohl went right out in the crowd on the floor singing with no security, it was sweet) and the Californication tour. They were all pretty awesome.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/18/2011

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I am Jealous about Red Hot Chilli Peppers....man they would have been fucking AWESOME to see back in the day!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/18/2011

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Yup...now I am gonna try to think of a bunch of mine...Black crows, Lalapalooza 2 times, warp tour 1 time, Pearl Jam, Aerosmith (not by choice lol), Rancid, Social Distortion, PJ Harvey, Tori Amos, Ani Difranco 4 times, Smashing Pumkinsm, Natalie Merchant, Bratmobile, and soooooo many small venue shows it is ridiculous. I am just naming the ones people may know.....I know there is more....Dammit the mommy memory is leaking my brains out!

Jenny - posted on 05/18/2011

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Me too Marina. I've probably been to at least 30 big name shows. Tool, Pearl Jam, Queens of the Stone Age, System of a Down, Foo Fighters, Motley Crue, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Beastie Boys, Silverchair, The Tragically Hip, Black Label Society, Nine Inch Nails. Alice in Chains, Deftones, AC/DC, Metallica and on and on. I live for live music.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/18/2011

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Sorry that you have not had good experiences Jenn. I don't know what I would have done with myself for years if my life didn't revolve around concerts.

Jenn - posted on 05/18/2011

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I think part of my reasoning for not taking my kids to a concert is that a) I have no clue who the fuck Social D is and b) I've only been to a few concerts and they were all bad experiences. I'd much rather listen to my music at home or while I'm driving. The only concert I went to that I actually enjoyed was Kenny Rogers at the Strawberry Festival in Florida.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/18/2011

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Corena, I am curious why you would not take your child to a Social D show. I have seen them once in Chicago, 3 times in St. Louis, 1 time in Boston, and this past Sunday 1 time in Rhode Island. They are pretty tame, and even for a punk scene, so is the crowd. Total I have seen them 6 times over the past 10 years, different cities, and all were fantastic shows. Just curious.

Natalie - posted on 05/18/2011

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I'd not take my child to an adult concert.Not only because of the noise levels,ear protection or not,but because they quite often have swearing and alcohol at these events. And I'm not quite ready to explain to my kids why I felt the need to expose them to some guy shouting f**k or boll**ks at the top of his voice!
Besides,concerts like this are called 'adult entertainment' for a reason. I'd happily let my kids listen to the bands c.d's at home(edited versions tho!).

Merry - posted on 05/18/2011

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I don't recognize ANY of these groups you all speak of! Do I live under a rock or something? Sheesh

Krista - posted on 05/18/2011

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Soundgarden AND Queens of the Stone Age? I am so freaking jealous. Can you please kidnap Dave Grohl and Chris Cornell for me? I'll even let you borrow them once in awhile...

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Loureen, I want to go to Soundwave Revolution too! So miffed I can't go... and will be the epitome of the green eyed monster if you go! Hopefully if you do, you'll share photos.

Mel - posted on 05/17/2011

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yeah Im definately for it kids have a blast at concerts, Ive often thought of taking my three year old to one when I know she likes the music. I go to alot of concerts so I think next time I might =)

Jenny - posted on 05/17/2011

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I always get seats. My last floor experience was at Beastie Boys on their last tour. We wormed our way up to the fourth row and got right squished. It was the last time I ever got floor seats although I did jump the boards and get up front row at a Queens of the Stone Age show a couple of years ago. Now I like to have a bit of space to groove and be able to put my beer down. First balcony, 1 or 2 sections from the stage is my sweet spot now.



I'm going to see Soundgarden, Queens of the Stone Age (for the 5th time) and Meat Puppets at the end of July. No kids are coming though, I don't want them to see my face melt off from the awesomeness.



Loureen, I'm SO jealous about Danzig. We almost went to Vegas to see them and I hate Vegas.

Charlie - posted on 05/17/2011

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Better start saving for a plane ticket to the U.S LOL .

We have a big festival coming up Van halen , Alice Cooper , Danzig , Hole , steel panther ,sisters of mercy and a few others ......it is bit exciting !

Medic - posted on 05/17/2011

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Oh yea Loureen....his favorite band is Less than Jake...he can play some of their songs on the guitar.

Medic - posted on 05/17/2011

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I went to them every year as a teen.....I LOVED them and my son has amazing pics to remember because he was little.....hell he still is little....now we go to local Texas Country shows...I realize I am an oxymoron I love both punk and country.

Medic - posted on 05/17/2011

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My 4.5 yo has been to two of the warped tours in his lifetime and had a blast. I would do it if its a good venue and decent music.

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I say go for it! It sounds like he knows the music (because you would have been playing it) and you've got ear protection down... and you've been to a Social D concert before so you'd know what to expect. It sounds as perfect a situation as it could get. If you are always afraid of what could happen, sheesh, you'd never leave your house! As long as you're not drinking and get seats, you'll be good to go if anything does happen.

I think I know what kind of venue you're talking about. A smaller concert hall or a club-like place. I saw the Sex Pistols (it was like a reunion tour in '94 or '95) in a club in LA. Pretty much SRO except for a few places at the very back near the bar. If I were to take a youngster to a place like that, I would have stood back nearer the bar area, because there was a lot more room as well as a few seats. Of course there's potential danger, but if you have your wits about you and keep hold of the kid, I think it's okay.

My 4 yr old loves Twisted Sister (don't ask) and AC/DC. I'd take him to an AC/DC concert in a heartbeat!

Language: meh, he hears it at home and knows "adult words" are not for him; nudity: meh, he sees it at home; tattoos: meh, he sees that at home too; drinking: meh, stay away from the drunks. Bases covered.

BTW, I went to see Santana at the Hollywood Bowl (outdoor venue for those that don't know). We were way up the hill, very laid back crowd (it's Santana, can't get much more laid back!), but I wouldn't take a kid. Why? I got the biggest contact high from all the pot smoke! The Hollywood Bowl was like a pipe bowl with everyone blazing up!

Katie - posted on 05/17/2011

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What an awesome way to encourage a love of music in your kids. I live in RURUAL bc so there isn't much going on up here, but if my husband and I were to have the opportunity to see a band that we both enjoy I can't see ay reason not to take my little guy (hes 1 1/2) and in the future his little brother (7 months pregnant.) I went to a White Stripes concert a few years ago, it was an outdoor venue with a super relaxed crowd, I only wish that Otto had been born so I could have taken him.
There are obviously concerts I would be less stoked about taking a little kid too...When I was 15 I went to a giant show in Vancouver (A perfect circle, deftones, foo fighters and tons of others) although it was a pretty huge venue and smoking was prohibited there was still a cloud of pot smoke circling the ceiling. I don't think I would take my kid to something like that but if you are comfortable with the crowd then I say that it's a great experience for a kid!

Jocelyn - posted on 05/17/2011

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I took both my LO's to a concert without ear protection...but it was the Wiggles... :P lol

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I wouldn't for these reasons only:
smoking/drug use/drinking
mosh pit/shoving/crowded/stuff being thrown off stage so anything where they might get hurt
hearing problems/ disturbing imagery/vulgar language

Now when you consider protective ear wear, its a no-smoking, reasonably spaced/ otherwise safe environment then I don't think it matters what kind of concert it is or who's playing. My son loves rock and roll so as long as I can ensure his safety and that it would be a positive experience for him than why not? As for what people wear pfft I'd be a bit of a hypocrit I have tattoos so I wouldn't care about him seeing others with them.

It all depends on you and your kids, mom knows best in this kind of situation and just basic common sense so as long as you know you can keep your kids safe then I think sure go ahead!

Corena - posted on 05/17/2011

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My husband is a musician so my kids have been to many, many concerts over the years. We have NEVER taken them to any concert that we knew would have lots of swearing or nudity or other "innapropriate for children" behaviour. We would not take a 6 year old to a Social Distortion show.

Candice - posted on 05/17/2011

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And yes earplugs are a must. Even for my babe who curled up to sleep in front of a drum set.

Candice - posted on 05/17/2011

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Sure why not? Kiddos need to know how to rock out. I would disapprove of ICP or other pond scum,but punk is quality stuff.
I take my kidlet everywhere. I wore her on my front/back while playing several noise shows. She digs it and has been rocking out since the womb.

Charlie - posted on 05/17/2011

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I think there are plenty of safe choices in arenas too , I sat in chairs and watched Iron maiden , there was no fighting or shoving , I was mainly surrounded by older people in their 50's / 60's who didnt want to mosh I would have happily taken my 7-8 year old ( i chose that age because the kid over the fence is that age and loves Maiden )

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/17/2011

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Erin, you are talking about huge venues...in fact most of you are. I am talking about smaller venues. Not huge arenas or places like that.

Charlie - posted on 05/17/2011

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Ive been to quiet a few heavy metal concerts and yes if you are in the mosh pit you will get slammed but why not get seated tickets or stand off to the sides , most gigs I have been to have a few sections some for those who dont want to get into the action and the heavier side of the fence for moshing also concerts that are for both underage and 18+ generally have a drinking section that is restricted , as for nudity well I have no issue with the human body although the only nudity Ive seen is a handful of girls flashing their boobs *shrug * language ? well like I said music is telling a story and expressing an emotion I wont be restricting that if that is what they feel they need to listen to .

"pushing and shoving, drinking, drugs, fights, etc."

I have never been to a concert or festival where there wasn't a way or area that was safe away from the mosh so I think any responsible parent can avoid those things .

And I agree Marina children should have ear protection .

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I wouldn't. I agree with Dana. I've been to lots of rock shows (Pearl Jam, Red Hot Chilli Peppers, Soundgarden, Silverchair etc), and they can get out of control in an instant (and they're not even as hardcore as what I imagine a punk show to be). I also saw heaps of kids at a Pink show a couple of years ago (Funhouse tour). I'm sorry, but seeing her writhing on a couch singing 'I Touch Myself' is not something I deem appropriate for my child.

I just wouldn't risk it personally, but it's got to be your call.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/17/2011

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Ok, here's my take: Does he like to listen to the CDs? If he's into the music, then go for it. YOu know what your crowd is like, and what the concerts are generally like. It's no different from people taking their kids to the stock car races, or any other public venue, as far as safety concerns. I'm fairly certain you're not going to take him and drop him off on his own...LOL :)

When ours were that age, we took them with us almost everywhere. We had ear protection for the race nights, which also came in handy for fireworks, and teaching them to shoot. They’ve always liked “our” music, so when we have a chance we take them (If I’m not too cheap to pay for seats, that is). I think the only concert I’d have had 2nd thoughts about at all would have been a Prince concert back in “the day”, but then again, Prince was his own little world…LOL

So, throw the ear protection on, and have a great night!

Bonnie - posted on 05/17/2011

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Marina, in the end you have to do what is most comfortable for you. You know the group and the type of people who usually attend this specific group. I'm sure you would do your best not to put your children in jeopardy.

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P.S. i would never take a child thats not a teen without ear protection...extremely irresponsible...and i said it was fine if the parents were responsible about it. and my daughter would prbly not be on the ground most of the time, but on mine or daddy's shoulders...and we go to outdoor concert events...where multiple bands play so they start at like 10 in the morning. i know my daughter wouldnt be scared :) its where i first heard 5fdp and before anyone else i knew knew who they were...it was rockin!!!

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