Video Games

Christy - posted on 06/02/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




I am having a hard time with my husband and his use of time. He will wake up in the morning and play his video games for 1 -3 hours. Then again at night for a couple of hours. He does ask me at night if he can play for a little bit.

He says that it is a good way for him to vent and relax after work. It gives him some time to himself. I agree that it is okay that he needs some time to himself. The problem is that I get frustrated because I feel like he just plays games all the time and could all day if I didn't get upset or bug him to help me with something. I try to be easy to work with but I get so frustrated.

So does anyone have any ideas on how you can get you husband motivated to help around the house more? Does anyone else have problem getting a balance of spouse playing games and helping around the house? Do they grow out of video game mode?

If you have any suggestions or ideas on what you have done I would love to hear about it.


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Angela - posted on 10/12/2011




When we got married I hated video games, then I found a few that I was interested in, and he and I started playing together while he was home between underway deployments. Now 6 years later and I am just as much a gamer as he is, and we have a 5 year old who likes to play with us. If he is playing a game that I am not really into, I tend to just help him out. He likes and NEEDS the "shoulder time" (you just being in the same room, with out trying to engage him in a conversation) I found that he does relax a lot better after work if he plays a first person shooter, and he isn't so critical about what I did during the day. He is also more receptive to helping out and spending "cuddle time" (doing what I want may it be just cuddling watching a movie, or getting playful in bed) with me. It is a balance, and a delicate one, and I know its hard, but patience and a little understanding that they have a tough job (what ever job it is). If all else fails, you can always ask him to compromise, not play in the morning, in return you can give him 1-2 uninterrupted game time when he gets home from work, and 2-3 hours after the kids go to bed. Good luck and I hope all goes well.

Samantha - posted on 02/26/2011




My husband is the same way! And I am a full time collage studen with a Special needs 3 year old and a 6 month old baby boy so to put a end to that crrap I stopped doing everything or him I stopped doing his laugry his dishes and cooking for him. I would only take care of just me and the ids stuff and that was it. Well he still did not catch on so I got a bit dramatic and I kidnapped his XBOX360 and left in its place a ransome note/chore list. Well needless to say that caught his attention, he now helps me cook, clean and do laudery!

Brooke - posted on 11/20/2009




They do not grow out of it.. Sorry.. But atleast they are at home and you where they are and what they are doing..

Charley - posted on 08/30/2009




I know it sounds childish but I told mine that if he chooses the game before babygirl and myself....Then I would have to get rid of this "HOE". I told him I would sell it on Craigslist for $20.00 HaHaHa it's a XBOX360 and we paid $380.00 for it. He stopped that shit real quit! I hope you won't have to resolve to this and you have found a way to fix this already. Good Luck Mama! Oh and a backup plan.....Start showing interest in the games too, and be on there before he gets home...HeHeHe. Good Luck!

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