Goodbye Helicopter Moms

Katherine - posted on 01/10/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )




Can you hear that whirring noise? It's the helicopter parent taking off and heading back to the '90s and early '00s. The latest parenting philosophy taking hold across the nation is the focus on play, and not scheduled activities that require lots of time and energy on everyone's part. Now, let's sit back and enjoy some of that laissez-faire parenting our own parents did so well.

What? You don't think the previous generation did such a hot job? And furthermore, you want to expose your child to activities you never were exposed to when you were scaling the fence of that empty lot? Then grab onto the helicopter before it gets too far away; if you're like me, and you prefer a hybrid of the "free range" and "helicopter" style.

Let's see how we can make these two opposing methods work for parents of the '10s with these new rules of parenting (that you can take or leave, because, hey, you're not controlling that way.)

Make "Bored" a Dirty Word

When your child whines at you that she's bored, resist the urge to buy her another Polly Pocket. Instead, implement a rule that every time she says she's bored a shiny toy will be taken away. Or if you want to go full Betty Draper (not recommended), announce that only boring people are bored.

Take a Season Off

Try a spring without any organized classes. Watch how your weekend is magically transformed as you take back your family time. Heck, take the summer off too if it doesn't kill ya'.

Teach a Useful Skill

Instead of a toddler sign language or music class, find a potty training class (yes, they totally exist). Having your toddler learn a skill that also makes your life easier will help you get to the schoolhouse on time. For older kids try: cooking, manners, housekeeping.

Take Your Eyes Off of Them

Admittedly more difficult as we've been trained to be ever-vigilant, but try and do this one as you remember that child abductions are actually incredibly rare. If you can only manage to let them play in the backyard as you stay inside -- away from the windows -- that's a start.

Are you a helicopter parent, or a free-range-er?


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Kayleigh - posted on 02/21/2011




when I was a kid, if we said we were bored my mom would give us chores.. lol. ended that really quick.

Pia - posted on 02/18/2011




Free ranger. The only scheduled activity my son does is swimming lessons which, in my opinion (particularly in Australia) ALL children should do:) Other then that, we run amuck and do what we want!!

Tameka - posted on 01/14/2011




Haha! I'm a bit of both. Now that my eldest is 4 I don't panic every time she goes outside or worry about other children biting her at preschool. As for my 1 year old... lol! I think I will relax a bit when she can talk and express how she feels, so around 3. So until then I will hover over my my baby (I hate seeing my children get hurt) as she toddles around while throwing the occasional glance at my eldest. :D

Nicole - posted on 01/14/2011




I am living in a bad area but I am moving this month to a place where I will feel safe to get to know the neighbours and let the kids be free range! I am so excited!

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i would be free range if i lived in a better neighborhood. :( She cannot play outside because she would be playing in traffic. hopefully when shes older i have my own yard.

Charlie - posted on 01/12/2011




free range all the way baby !

I was always told there is no such word as bored .

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