Birthdays and In-laws

Christine - posted on 06/11/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




My 2 year old daughter birthday was the other day. All the in-laws came she recieved no cards, no present, nothing. My husband says I am stressing about it because I don't like his family and I am materlistic. These people aren't by any standards more and my family brought presents who make at miniunim a thrid what his family makes. I just want anyone else's opinion on that. My husband invited a co-worker who didn't even know my kid and they brought a present. The other grandkids and nieces and nephews get birthday presents, some even more that that. I feel like, why even come if you aren't going to bring a child that young a present? What should I do? Am I overreacting?


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Lizabethsmomma - posted on 01/03/2012




well that is messed up but u have to realize some people dont celebrate like others . my in laws hardly do anything and shop at the 99 cent store for my kid and exspensive places for her other grandkids but instead of me gettn mad like i use to i shop for her ass at the 99 cents store for occasions lol but i hear ya on that. ! good luck

Carrie - posted on 03/15/2011




I have the type of inlaws that never have anything to do with my daughter accept holidays. They will make a point to come to her birthday parties and bring all the gifts they can to make everyone think they are the greatest. Then after that we don't see them again til another holiday. (We live 2 minutes away from these ppl). It just makes them look stupid to everyone else at the party. If I were you I would just not invite them to the next party. If they ask why I'd tell them it hurts your daughter that they don't even give her a birthday card, or that you don't want them coming if they aren't going to participate in ALL of the birthday celebrations. I wouldn't worry about them at all. Unless they are just too poor to buy anything they must be complete IDIOTS!

Nadia - posted on 11/02/2010




That is so rude!!Even a card would have been a nice way to say happy birthday.Sometimes people are mean spirited and do things to prove a point, especially at social gatherings.. U r not over reacting.Its a hard thing to accept.Just remember though, that there r actually people out there who DO care about you and your little girl, nd their lack of respect will one day come back to bite them.

Pushpa - posted on 08/26/2010




@ Christy

Lucky u atleast they bothered to show up for ur daughter's b'day i have 3 gals aged 3 and a half and 1 and a half for any of my daughter's birthday they never cared to show their faces or inthe case call them to wish they dont consider the babies as their grand child as i have gals and not guys like the rest the truth is my gals are the only female in their family for the 4th generation

these foolish ILS care only of them and not if the kids and my daughters call them as "ANDREWS GRANDMA" and not as their grand parents they deserve it i think so

i'm sorry i'm mad on them and wanted to vent

Kristina - posted on 06/22/2010




I dont think you're overreacting at ALL!!! Omg, that is absurd!!! A child, a CHILD!! That's what birthdays are about then, and you would think that they would want to give something to their grandchild so they would think of them when she plays with it! Gees, what jerks! Ugh, I would have had to say something... idk :( I'm sorry girl, I hate that!

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