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Keitha - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




Ok....who else is struggling to get dinner down? I refuse to fix what she asks for to eat...I want her to have a variety of foods and learn to eat what we eat. Tonight was a total struggle, but it was chicken pot pie (homemade). She loves chicken, rice, and bread, but wouldn't eat it! I made her stay at the table until she ate 3 bites and finally as I was washing the dishes she ate them, but only the three. This has been going on for a few weeks...I'm not sure what else to do. Am I doing the right thing?


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Corina - posted on 11/11/2009




Its a difficult one...
There are a variety of methods people use, and some work and some don't work. It all depends on your child really. My son tried this resistance a few times. Each time I didn't force him to eat the food, but left the food on the table and didn't allow him to eat anything else. Normally after about 30 mins he would start to feel hunger and go and eat the food without any prompting. A child will very rarely starve themself. I find that it is helpful to have a set routine re: meals throughout the day, most days. Also, sit down and eat together as a family as much a possible. Children like to emulate, and will want to eat the same as their mom and dad.

My son is a good eater, and will eat what he is given, except porridge! The only thing he won't drink much of is milk, which is annoying me at the moment, but it is because his baby sister drinks milk and he thinks he is too old for it! I'm trying to get him to drink it when possible and through having it with food i.e. cereal!

Brandi - posted on 11/07/2009




I agree with making her eat what I cook. I have the same problem with my daughter. My doctor said to give her what she'll eat. I do that sometimes like if I know she doesn't like what I'm making. But I also believe that they will eat when they are hungry. I try to get her to taste one bite of each thing on her plate. If she doesn't like it she doesn't have to eat it. But if she doesn't eat it then she doesn't get cookies or anything other treats either. There are many times she goes to bed without dinner. I don't worry about it too much because I know if she was really hungry she would eat something.

Maria - posted on 11/06/2009




It is so funny how are kids know how to stress daddy and mommy even at dinner.
My son is very picky too he started to lose his apetite. He likes to eat chicken fingers most of the time, he would not try veggies. and sometimes eat rice and tomatoes, yogurt, mozzarella cheese with bread and eggs sometimes. And i say with each sometimes because we never know what he is going to like.
I used to give him only what he liked. But realize that he started to say "NO" whatever we would offer
. So we changed our attitude instead of getting angry. We now say "OK" "NO TV UNLESS YOU FINISH ALL YOUR FOOD" that will make him say "yes but only 2 pieces" I would say OK SO TOMORROW YOU WILL WATCH TV. MY HUSBAND WOULD SAY EAT HALF AND I WILL LET U WATCH. IT. He will reach the point where there is no winning option and would choose the best one for him. It is funny to see him thinking about the 2 choices he gets and try to relax himself instead of crying. and then accepting a deal with daddy or mommy and at the end being happy that he did the best he can to please mommy and daddy. I don't know if I'm doing the right
thing by actually threatening him with not watching tv or doing what he likes but it has work for me now. He is very smart and i know that soon he would decide to accept the punishment without accepting any deal. So i try my best to explain him why is so important to eat and how it does affect his mood and growth when he does not eat. And then we just laugh about his attitude how bad he looked getting cranky for not wanting to eat.

Jessica - posted on 10/13/2009




I was having the same problem but knock on wood it is getting better and I agree

having them help prepare meals helps a lot! Also, the rule of you have to try it and leftovers, PBJ or hot dog if you dont like it

Also, remember at that age everything is about looks so make it look tasty or fun. So arranging things in shapes or smiley faces, etc helps to

Hang in there it will get better over time!

Chris - posted on 10/12/2009




We had that problem with our daughter. We came up with a rule that everyone has to try everything on their plate (even the adults). They don't have to eat it, but they do have to try it. If she doesn't like it once she's tried it, she can choose something else, but it has to be leftovers. Mommies not going to fix something new. So far this has worked.

Also, try getting her to help plan the meals and prepare them. If she's helping, she will most likely be willing to eat it. Try to plan meals at least a few times a week with foods that she will eat.

We put cheese, sauce, or gravy on just about everything she eats (usually), it depends on what we are having. She also likes to dip her food in things, try ketchup, or BBQ sauce for meats. Try Ranch dressing for veggies, or pizza sauce for meats. Whatever works to get her to eat.

Also, try ignoring her while you are eating, we found that our daughter was using this to get attention. If she chooses not to eat her food, don't make a big deal about it. In fact ignore her all together, keep on eating; tell her that you would like her to eat one time and then ignore her. After a while once she realizes that family is eating and talking together, she will most likely join you.

Make sure you have at least one thing on her plate that you know she will eat, then you can build on from there.

I think peer pressure plays a big part in the foods they eat, my daughter went through a very picky eating phase. But thankfully it didn't last. But she also doesn't see the children that are extremely picky eaters as much as before, and this seemed to help as well. Now she eats just about everything that's put in front of her, the trick is to find different ways of fixing foods. My daughter won't eat bread, but she will eat tortilla shells. So maybe you can try different techniques.

I hope this helps. God bless and good luck.

Allexys - posted on 10/07/2009




hi im lexi im in the same boat as you..

my son blake is so fussy now its so hard to get him to eat anything other than sausages and potato..but the only advice ive been give is that to try greating a lot of veggies and any thing you want them to eat coz i was told if some times they cant see

it they will eat it..its worked a few time 4 me..maybe its worth a shot..good luck.. :-)

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