Potty training a boy

Jamie - posted on 12/19/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have 3 girls that I potty trained with no problems. Now my son, 2yrs old, seems to be giving me way more problems than they did. My mom says its normal, but its stressing me. Any ideas?


Cathy - posted on 01/03/2010




With my son, I used a sticker potty chart. I started by letting him run around the house naked (I have tile floors) so that if he started to pee, he could see what was going on. Then within the day, he started to tell me he had to pee pee. So, then I moved to pull ups. Lots of moms say it doesn't work but it did great for me. Everytime he made it to the bathroom with a clean pull up, he got to pick out a sticker and put it on the chart. It hangs in front of the toilet on the wall. I made sure I got a variety of stickers I knew he would like. There are many motivators for children, you just have to find the one that works best for you.


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Lisa - posted on 01/02/2010




I am so frustrated. Jordan knows how to do it, and in fact uses the toilet just fine with very few accidents at Kindy two days a week. He just doesn't want to try at home. Now that he has a sister (8 months old ) it is so hard to clean up accidents, clean clothes etc - not to mention the waiting around while they try, re-dress themselves and flush and wash hands. I am needed elsewhere. I have been waiting for him to WANT to lose the nappy, but now he is almost three. I keep telling him it is very un-cool to be three witha nappy. Am I letting things go too long? Is it related to wanting to be a baby now that his sister is here?

We made a big effort this Christmas holidays. He was great for two days. Used a sticker chart. Five stickers gets a reward. Day one got 4 stickers Day two and he got his reward ( a music CD for his new CD player. He). Day three, he used the potty twice and then just quit. Going on the floor. No effort made at all. He still doesn't have his second part of the 2 CD set.

What does one do?

Maria - posted on 01/02/2010




Boys are a lot harder than girls, but they just take more work and it's not impossible. Mine was just under 2 1/2 yrs when he was FULLY potty trained. I started little things young though. He watched mom and dad use the potty, he started sitting on his own potty anytime mom or dad went potty. I told him about what we were doing and what was expected. Any time I changed a diaper I told him the what the contents were and related that to where mommy and daddy's "contents" go.

Then at his 2 year birthday I bought him some underwear and about 15-20 matchbox cars. For my son, the world revolves around cars! And they are cheap enough to make a pretty decent motivator. Each child has their own thing they love, but in my experience, cars are pretty universal. LOL! So I showed him the underwear (Lightning McQueen of course!) and talked about how big boys get to wear those. Then I put 3-4 of the matchbox cars on top of the mirror in the bathroom and nonchalantly mentioned them one time. After that, every time we went in the bathroom, he begged and pleaded for those cars. I kept my story the same, "When you go pee-pee on the potty, you can have a car." he progressed from just crying and whining to actually sitting on the potty thinking that would get him a car. It didn't of course, I didn't reward for sitting on the potty, that means they don't have to actually try.

One day we got home past his bed time and he announced that he needed to poop. I was not thrilled about standing around in the bathroom for 15 minutes while he pretended to go potty as a ploy to try to get a car, but I repressed by laziness knowing that consistency was in his best interest, even if it meant going to bed late than I wanted. So I took him and he went!!! he got 2 cars immediately (one for each deed he did) and we made a huge to do about it, jumping around the house, calling daddy and nana and papa and anyone else we could think of, etc. The next morning I put him in underwear first thing and explained to him why he was wearing them and what was expected. We went the next 7 days with only 5 accidents (no more than one each day he had one). He's been in underwear ever since and that includes through the night.

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