Any suggestions on Tantrums?


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you'll prob have to try a few different ways to see what works, when my son throws a tantrum i just say "let me know when your done" and i walk away. He actually doesnt do them around us anymore. My in-laws on the other hand cant handle seeing him upset so they try to distract him (usually with a treat!) and surprise surprise he still throws tantrums around them. My way may have involved a few more tears but at least i was able to nip it in the bud already :-)

Stephanie - posted on 03/14/2010




When my daughter starts to have a meltdown, I tell her "this is not how a big girl acts", this sometimes works. But if it doesn't I ask her to tell me "in words" what she wants, if she can't she normally continues with her fit. I normally just try and distract her by talking about something that we did that day or something that she likes, if she is throwing a tantrum b/c she wants a cookie I will ask her "would you like a piece of an apple" or something like that(this always works). This best thing to do is to just ignore them as long as your child is in a safe place where he/she can't get hurt.


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Susan - posted on 05/09/2010




I use to do time outs, spankings, and threats, treats and everything else. Then I found a book called 'How to raise a Happy Child'. And basically, it says to let them get out their frustrations, and to just 'listen' to them. Their words or cries. And just hold them if they are putting them self or anything else in danger (my son bangs his head when he tantrums or gets destructive). After the tantrums get less and less until they only do it every so often. It really works! It goes against everything I thought, but this is the only method so far that is working. Don't tell them not to cry, but instead to cry it on out, and that you will be there for them when they are done. Good Luck.

Carla - posted on 05/05/2010




I have had to deal with really really bad bad temper tantrums since she turned 2 and at first I ignored but she just got louder and louder so the ignoring option did not work. I got desperate and would cover my face like hidding with peek a boo and said something like mommy is upset and will not talk to you this way. This would work some times but other times she would get so out of control I had to take her to the shower and give her a bath and that would chage her a little. After the shower she would always said what she wanted. To this day I just keep a daily routine and it has changed her attitude completely. She is a positive kid when I keep her on a tight schedule. I have a time to do crafts, another to play, another to snack, another to eat, another to sleep nap time, another to go outside and do bubbles. I do accept that blowing bubbles and ballons are my too favorite things when it comes to a bad temper day! Good luck! Hope this helps a lot! :)

Jamie - posted on 04/25/2010




I just let her go and cry if she isnt trying to bang her head or anything. They last shorter amounts of time if I just ignore her than if I tried to calm her down. Usually after 5 mins she calms down and tells me what the problem is or what she wants me to do.

Kimberly - posted on 04/23/2010




Ignore, ignore, ignore. And if this isn't possible then put them in time out when you get home.

Laura - posted on 03/29/2010




I think all children are different so it is hard to find what will work for your child. naughty step etc does not work for my child or putting her on her own. she puts herself on the step and plays happily alone. The only thing I have found to work with her is if I tell her she will go to bed there and then no matter what time of day it is she will have no dinner and she will not get up till tomorrow morning, the worst part is that I tell her she will have to wear a nappy as she is going to bed (she is not totally dry yet). The threat of not wearing big girls knickers and having to go to bed works, I have not had to carry out my threat yet. Nursery have been very helpful and when I explained the bed threat had worked they said to bear in mind that I may have to actually carry it out at some stage but will probably only have to do it the once. I never threaten to smack her as I do not want to smack her it promotes the message that smacking is okay and potentially then she will start to smack other people/children. I never give empty threats you have to be prepared to go through with what you threaten. Good luck x

Sabrina - posted on 03/17/2010




what if the child/children are 2 years old how do you handle that, I am proud to say my older children were not really bad tempered babies but then I'm making up for that with my 5yr old an my 2yr old twins, how do I handle it? help!

Renee - posted on 03/17/2010




Do not ignore them, they just get louder. I use the counting method. I tell her she has until I get to one to stop or she will get in trouble (I start at 5). Usually it is on the couch for time out (do not put in bed because I do not want to think of her bed as a bad thing, plus I can still see her and make sure she is ok). If this does not work I tell her she will get a spanking if she doesn't calm down in one minute ( i count down the last 5 seconds, about). If she continues she gets a spanking. Then I give her a minute and start the process again. Usually she stops after the second 5 countdown. It took awhile to get it that way, but it works now. If in public have someone that is with you take them to the car with them. If you are by yourself. Take her to a bathroom, or just leave.

Lea - posted on 03/13/2010




Yes. This is what you do: 1) Attempt to distract your child with something else 2) Explain the consequences of their behavior 3) Ignore them if you can, if not, put them in time out (like their bed).

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