How do you get a two year old to listen to their parents?

Cari - posted on 01/11/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter loves to run down the hall in our apartment building-even when we tell her not too- and never listens to us when we tell her to come back. I don't want to yell at her and when I start to get a little stern I am afraid of what the other residents think of my disciplinary actions. I don't spank but sometimes she just really pushes my buttons! Anyone have any suggestions? I read this book that said you can't reason with them- that they are too young to understand. What else am I supposed to do? Help!!

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Barbara - posted on 01/13/2010

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I'm a mother of 4 and still figuring it all out. I watched alot of super nanny and on my older kids who are ages 9,8, and 6 time out works for them. For the soon to be 2 yr old not so much because he can't fully understand why he can't do what he just did. He's loving the freedom he has to learn and explore. For him I tell him no and try to find something else for him to do. Also I have lived in apartments with all of my children and understand your concern for what the neighbors are thinking but you have to get past that. They're not the ones raising your daughter. If she is running down the halls I think that as long as she is not knocking on their doors or about to fall down some stairs they probably don't really mind. They probably just see a happy little girl having fun. A suggestion for when she does not want to come back would be to put a baby gate in your doorway and put her on the inside everytime she doesn't come back. Wait a couple of min. let her back into the hall and if she does it again put her back in the apartment again and eventually she will realize that when she doesn't come back when you want her to that freedom gets taken away. Hope I helped a little.

-Barbara

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Belinda - posted on 01/15/2010

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first of all the child is telling you she has lots of energy.. take her outside and let her run. you can bundle her and you up.. don't be lazy..find her a toddler gym to play with in her room..

Danielle - posted on 01/14/2010

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I put my just turned 2yr old in time outs....he gets up and I put him right back but he sees his 3yr old sister do it and he knows! Sometimes we say "do you need a timeout?" and he goes right to the chair, he knows! and sometimes he just stops what he is doing wrong and I avert his attention elsewhere. We use timeouts every day unfortunately but I've notice when I spank, they get violent in return and usually on each other so I am done with that. Good luck!

Letticia - posted on 01/14/2010

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My daughter is two n I know exactly what that feels like........its like they have selective hearing.......I'm actually pretty stern with my daughter when she gets out of hand......while my husband on the other hand laughs. and I'm the one that gets results......what my neighbors think thats their problem........they're not going to be the one dealingwith her as she gets older I am.......so i think its best to establish from early what i won't tolerate......

Mary - posted on 01/13/2010

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hey have u ever tryed to put her in timeout? it does usually work with my olderst one she really hates it. should try if u haven't u never know what would really happens

Amanda - posted on 01/11/2010

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Wow, endless suggestions but none of them work....All children are differant and though young, I beleive a child of 2 years of age understands emotions and what we mean. The problem comes with the fact that every child is differant and reacts differantly to every situation.My daughter who is 6 does not listen well but mostly because of my parenting tactics.....the worst thing you can do is threaten and never follow through. It hurts her worse to loose a toy for a day she loves to play with or get no cartoons for the evening than to get a time out, yelled at or a spanking. My 2 yr old son on the other hand, hes a mommas boy.....he unlike her is quiet and reserved, afraid of strangers (shes a social butterfly) and all I have to do to him is give him a mean look and say "no no bad boy" or "ouch you hurt mommy" and he melts like butter, he turns on the puppy dog face and the crying and runs to me, not because it hurts him physically, but because he knows he was wrong and mommy is upset and it hurts his feelings. You just have to try an array of things until you find something that works but just remember always always always stay true to your word and follow through on your threats be it a time out or prized item taken away or leaving the store, they find power over you when they know they can get away with things because your words are simply empty threats. Good luck momma and I hope you find something that works!



-Amanda (mommy to Jessica Nicole 6 yrs and Elzie Joe III-2 yrs)

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