I have 3 year old twin girls. They go to day care during the Spring and Summer but stay at home November to March. Madison is biting, pinching, and hitting when she gets frustrated with her sister or a toy or even me. Madeline does too, however not as frequently. Any suggestions on how to get my daughters to show frustration in other ways then inflicting pain?


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NOEMI - posted on 12/16/2011




I know that this is probably not the best technique.. but when my little ones went through this stage.. I use to do the same things to them that they would do to others. Not too hard though. When they would bite, I would bite them back... and so on.
I told them, "Do you like how that feels?" They would answer "no"... then don't do it to others... because it hurts them too. After the first time, they would stop. And that happened with every bad habit they had.

Brittany - posted on 12/11/2011




you could try everytime they are angry have paper and crayons or markers handy sit them down with the paper and tell them to show their feelings by drawing a picture.may it be just scribbling all over the paper or actually atempting to draw it may take their mind off the matter of hitting the other sister. I dont no how you feel about this idea also if they bite you bite them back(no hard enough to leave a mark) just enough for them to feel it and ask them if they like it. I have to do that with boy my boys who are almost 4 and almost 3 they would bite and i bit them once and they never did it again. if they know you will do it back their minds will tell them not to do it because you dont like being bitten right? they dont either.

Melissa - posted on 12/05/2011




Thanks Lisa. I am at my wits end with it and will try anything. I know that they get frustrated with each other and that they get on each others nerves.

Lisa - posted on 12/05/2011




I gave my son a stuffed animal he could boss around, throw, bite, hit or kick to get his 'mad out.' I said "it's okay to be mad but not to hurt. This stuffed animal is not real and doesn't hurt so go for it". He tortured the poor stuffie for about a week and then started using his doctor's kit on it. He only bites about once a month now when extremely out of sorts and then only his mom (lucky me). He hardly hits or kicks anymore but will on extreme occasion. For a while it seemed like an epidemic. Hope this helps.

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