I need help...

Kendra - posted on 02/08/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My son just turned 2 in January. I can count on one hand how many nights he has slept thru the entire night. I am so tired, between him and my 8 month old, I am up every hour....



Please help with any suggestions, I am a very tired mom that works full time and has 3 children...

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Shawna - posted on 02/18/2010

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My daughter didn't sleep well until I put her into a big girl bed. Now when she wakes in the middle of the night it is because she needs to go potty. I take her potty using a soft nightlight and put her in a fresh diaper then lay her back down. The only thing I say is good night so she knows it isn't play time. She cries for no more than 15 minutes. Since she is a light sleeper I have music playing while she sleeps, if I don't she wakes every time she hears a noise.

Melinda - posted on 02/16/2010

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What does your 2 year old do during the day? Does he nap? How many times and for how long? I know my 2 year olds have stopped doing the morning nap thing (unfortunately), but still have to have an afternoon nap. They fight the afternoon nap, but I've found that they at least need some quiet time then or will NOT sleep well at night.

The only other suggestion I have is to get into a routine. Book, bath, song, whatever works for you.I've had a routine for my twins for awhile now and am getting my 6 month old into one now. My twins can be bouncing and as soon as they get the bedtime song or book they start settling in. Some nights it takes a little longer, but they usually do settle in. Some nights they still won't like last night...but that's because one of my little guys was sick.

Donna - posted on 02/13/2010

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I dont know where you are from, I am from Vcitoria in Australia, my son who is now 2 is and always has been a bad sleeper, I have taken him to a sleep clinic where we stayed there for a week and nurses helped with ways to get him to sleep it helped alot now he only wakes up about once a night so maybe see if you can get similar help in your area coz it worked wonders here.

Heather - posted on 02/10/2010

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my little still doesnt either.she has nights where she will and nights where she won't I tell ya what helped the most is having someone else put her back to bed.at first she wasnt happy but now shes use to my bf putting her back to sleep and coming in bed in the mornings.most the times now he just has to say emma go night night and she crys a bit and lays back down and sleeps.i think some babies just need to know someones there.I have anxity issues so why couldnt a toddler?

Shannon - posted on 02/09/2010

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My son did the same thing...that is why we have only just taken the side of his crib to make it a daybed. For a while i wasnt sure what was going on...he would talk and laugh as if there was someone there with him even. But truthfully...there was nothing i could do. We just left him in bed and he fell back asleep. There were nights he would be up for three hours. But they do say warm milk helps and they have all that calming baby wash and lotion. That would be my first try. And hes a little man now...try to talk to him...tell him he has to sleep at night so you can and that is just what big boys do. I sure home that something works for you though. Hang in there...just remember hell grow out of it soon. Take care and good luck.

Leanne - posted on 02/09/2010

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My 2yr oldson didn't really "sleep through" till about 18mths and even then was really inconsistent. One night we wouldn't hear from him, the next we could be up 2 or 3 times. Since he's our third child we knew all the things you were supposed to do, but I think every child is different and they will do what they want.

Consistency is the key and perseverence,patience etc..all the things that we don't have much of by the end of the day. Having said that though, now they are at the age where they understand so much, you can talk firmly and communicate both verbally and physically that they need to lay down and go to sleep!



Just know that you are not alone and I hope you and yours finally get some sleeep.....

Bethany - posted on 02/09/2010

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My little boy never slept through till he was 18months and even then it only lasted a short while, we had to just learn to put him back into bed and leave him to cry, some nights it works and some nights it doesn't. i no it's hard but if you do no the try not to cuddle him when he wakes up just pick him up at arms length and put him back to bed he should soon learn that he isn't going to get his own way x

Evie - posted on 02/08/2010

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Wow - that sounds tough!



I don't have any easy answers, but I can tell you what we did and it worked. When our daughter was about 4-5 months old, we just stopped getting up with her. I did a lot of research and discovered that at about that age, the only reason babies wake up is because they are used to it...they aren't actually hungry and don't need to be fed. One article I read put it this way: we all wake up at night, but we put ourselves back to sleep. Your baby needs to learn to do this as well.



We decided that we were the grownups and needed to do what was best for her - no matter how difficult it was for us. And let me tell you, it was difficult. There is not much worse than listening to your baby cry and not comforting her. The good news, is that it only took about 2-4 nights and she completely stopped waking up at night. She is now two years old, lays right down for both her nap and at night time, and doesn't wake up expecting us to come to her. The best thing about all of this, is it is really easy now to tell if she really needs us for something...like if she fell, or had a nightmare, etc. She simply doesn't cry for us unless she really needs us.



We did the same thing when laying her down. If she woke up when I laid her down (she always went to sleep while nursing), we just let her cry herself to sleep. That took a little longer for her to get the hang of, but eventually she figured it out, and now at nap and bed time she might play for a little while or talk/sing to herself, but she rarely throws a fit or cries for us. She will just lay down and go to sleep. The trick was staying strong and not compromising on our decision for her to not control us with her crying. WE are the parents - not her.



Now, all that said, I don't know how that would work with a now-two-year-old. I'm sure you would eventually get the same result, but it may take a bit longer. If you do decide to go with this method, just remember to stay strong, and you aren't *not* loving your child by letting him cry. You are actually loving him like crazy and teaching him the tools he'll need later on in life to be a very well-rounded child and eventual adult (for instance: you don't always get what you want just because you want it).



Now, all that said, there may be more to it than what I've laid out here. Obviously, I don't know what your or your child's personal information or situation is. There may be an underlying issue with your son that is causing him to not sleep...if you try this and after several weeks things don't improve at all, you may want to talk to his pediatrician.



Well, I hope this helped a little bit at least...best of luck to you! Get some rest and stay strong! :)

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