My 20 mth old son wont sleep all night.

Jody - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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Hi, my son wakes on and off all night, then wont go back to sleep in his bed has to get in with me & my partner. How do I get him to sleep all night? Im so tired & warn out, any suggestions?

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Lacey - posted on 10/30/2009

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my son wakes up sometimes too he usually ends up at my door and just cries. he hasnt dont it too bad i put him back to his bed and i havent had any problem him getting out of his bed again.

Kari - posted on 10/30/2009

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My son Nolan has done the same off and on. he does the night terrors but thats not always it. I dont bring him to bed with me unless he is sick for fear of vomiting and choking. what I have noticed is when dad is home when he goes to bed he sleeps better. And when the household volume stays the same through the night.

Ruth - posted on 10/27/2009

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Hi Jody... I know exactly how you feel - my little boy Ryan is the same and is quite difficult to get to bed at all - not sure if it's because the cold weather is setting in now... I'm at a loss what to do also... Very often have to bring Ryan into bed with us too which is exhausting when you're up at 5.30am to get ready for work!!

Stephanie - posted on 10/18/2009

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I am a firm believer in the book Babywise. Get Babywise II (for kids older than 5 months). Sleep is a learned behavior. Parents' whose kids are good sleepers are not simply lucky. They have trained them to do so. Please get the book!!! It talks a lot about routines. I have 20 month old twins and a 3 year old. I breast fed all of them for a year and they were ALL sleeping "through the night" by week 8. Occasionally someone wakes up for a few minutes, but I NEVER put them in bed with me. That's a quick fix.

Jane - posted on 10/18/2009

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Does he sleep a lot in the day? If yes then try limiting his nap times to one or two. My last daughter and I went through the same thing and I tried to keep her active and busy so by the time its night time she's knocked out. I would not happen suddenly so dont get frustrated. Also try warm drinks (warm milk, hot choc) in their sippy cups before they go to bed...that soothes to sleep

Darcie - posted on 10/15/2009

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My son is the same way, i was thinking that it is about time he gets a toddler bed because he will not sleep in his own bed. He only likes to sleep with my hubby and I.

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im glad that it is not just me out there, seems to be alot of 20/21mth olds not sleeping... My son is getting better, he was waking up to 8 times a night, we are now down to 2. I found reducing the day sleep to only 1 hr and making sure he diditn sleep past 2pm is working for us... Good Luck

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There are different programs out there to help get your child to sleep. My daughter who in 21mo today was doing the same thing. First they are getting molars anytime and that may be part o fit so we use natural teethers tables (helps a lot) when she is really irritable or if we see her rubbing her gums or other indicators of teething. Secondly, as far as her waking in the middle of the night: we went in and checked on her and laid her back down. IF she was still crying in 10min then we would go back in NOT talk or stimulate her and just lay her back down and cover her then double the time until she stopped. It took about 4 or 5 days but now its been almost 3 mo and she rarely wakes in the middle of the night. Good luck

Johanna - posted on 10/08/2009

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My almost 20 month son was very bad through out the night then i stopped his afternoon nap will only let him sleep in morning nothing passed 2 pm in afternoon . Since he is very good sleeps from 6.30 till morning for me it was his day napps that interfieared with his night sleeps he is very tired by bedtime and sleeps

Aleid - posted on 10/08/2009

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I had the same problem for ages, and two weeks ago I got some advice and it worked! (well, with us!) Had two more bad nights and ever since SLEEP! Maybe he wakes up for a tiny bit - but back to sleep in no time! Give it a try: My son is 21 months as of today - just to give you an indication of his age.

First thing, tell your baby during the day several times that the day is for playing and the night is for sleeping. When putting him to bed tell him again. It is night time now, so we are all going to sleep. And when you wake up - mummy or daddy will come by to see if everything is alright and if you are alright we'll go back to bed and do not come back. And we told him and id just so. First night, he woke at about 1.30, we went in and left and he cried for about 45 minutes and fell asleep again. At 4 he woke up once more and we did the same thing again. Second night, same routine all over, but he cried once 30 minutes an donce 10 minutes. Third night, waking up once, cried for 10 minutes, after that SLEEP!!!! Delicious sleep! Every mroning we compliemnet him saying that he was so sweet to sleep all night and he must be feeling well rested and tell him during the day, daytime is playing, sleep time is at night and before bed time we keep saying about when he wakes up we're only popping in to check. And it seems to work! Hope it works, I can remember how hopeless I felt and how tired!

Ivona - posted on 10/07/2009

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I agree with Marinda,we also put my son's bed next to my side,so he thinks he sleep with me....try it,it really helped me and when he wakes up in the middle of a night,just hug him or say shhh mummy is here or something like that..

Marinda - posted on 10/07/2009

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I wish I could help.. I have the same problem. My daughter still wakes up about 3 times a night and asks for a bottle , or her binky, or just to say " Hi Mommy" she has never slept through the night. Sometimes she'll go to bed good and wake up in the middle of the night for about 3 hours before she'll settle down again. She used to be in bed with me and her father also but what we did is put a toddler bed next to our bed. she stays in it if Iay on my bed next to her. that aleviated the situation slightly.

Jill - posted on 10/07/2009

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I am going through the same thing. I thought it was just my 20month old? I need help also

Susan - posted on 10/07/2009

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My son slept all night from 2 months old...until 3 months ago that is. For the last 3 months he gets up every single from 2-4 hours! I'm at my wits end, what happened? I do not put him in my bed (it wouldn't do any good), I do not go in his room (it makes things worse) I just suffer every night. Also being pregnant, I feel exhausted! I too wish I could hear something other than: he's teething, growing pains, night terrors, etc etc.... I can't see how it can be any of those with it being so routine.

Ivona - posted on 10/07/2009

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Try to get him tired ,go for a long walk,in a playground....let him play all day and than in a dinner time give him some soft food...Try to explain him that he needs to sleep to become a big and strong man...that helped me...

Fawn - posted on 10/06/2009

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Darn, I was hoping to see someone tell you how to get him to sleep through the night... My son doesnt either. Im not even sure why he wakes up. He doesnt want anything and he will go back to sleep... But it doesnt change anything if I put him in bed with me he still wakes up. He still wakes up 2-6 times a night, my niece on the other hand.. 18months and will sleep 12-14hours stright at night since she was just shy of 3months old.

Jody - posted on 10/06/2009

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Quoting katie:

snapp!!!!! my son does the exact same its so exausting.... hes never slept a full nite he ends up in my bed every singal nite!!!!


 

Katie - posted on 10/06/2009

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snapp!!!!! my son does the exact same its so exausting.... hes never slept a full nite he ends up in my bed every singal nite!!!!

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