My daughter doesn't like me any more

Jennifer - posted on 01/10/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter will be 2 on January 29th and i have an 11 week old baby. Ever since the baby came she doesn't seem to like me much anymore, and she doesn't listen to me. She is good for everyone else when i'm not around but when i come home she starts being naughty. I try to do things with just me and her so she knows that even tho the baby needs my attention a lot sometimes that i still love her to but She doesn't want to do anything with me and she just wants daddy. I kno she's probably not trying to hurt my feelings on purpose but it really does hurt me. She used to be my little girl and she loved me so much and wanted me all the time. Does anyone else have this problem or have any advise to help me out?

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Jennifer - posted on 01/14/2010

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Thanks ladies. I will try what you said and hopefully she comes around soon!! She does love her brother but she is mean sometimes to!!

Tanya - posted on 01/13/2010

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I have a two year old and a one month old. My two year old has been a little testy but not anything to crazy. I think that two year olds will just gravitate towards different people at different times. My little one loves her aunt right now but when she is hurt she comes running looking for me, I am sure that it is just a faze. I know how tough it can be sometimes it really hurts. She does love you and will start showing it again soon. Hang in there!!!!

Amanda - posted on 01/11/2010

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I would suggest the same thing, get her involved.I had the same problem with my dd when my son was born and she had just turned 4. Let her do little things like get mommy the diapers or even hold the baby on the bed with assistance of course. We started early working on this with our daughter as we knew it would eventually be an issue as she had been the only baby in our home for so long. On suggestion from another mommy I went out and bought her a few of her favorite toys and candys and put them in an extra special gift bag and we told her it was from her baby brother when he was born. This helped out allot since baby seemed to be getting gifts and attention. Our son was in the hospital allot when he was really young for differant reasons and at 4 years old she didnt understand that the special attention he was getting from mommy and daddy and the drs and nurses was a bad thing and she become very jeleous over all of this so Daddy after talking to a good friend of his whom Jessica was close to age with his daughter planned a daddy daughter day out one weekend just the two of them and her friend and her dad. They took the girls to build a bear and chuckey cheese, toys r us and made a whole day of it all about the 2 girls.....they loved it and after that weekend she seemed allot better on the jeleousy thing. He kept telling her it was a special big girl day and explained to her there were things that were just for big girls just like some of the things baby brother had been going through were just for him. I think it put things into perspective a little bit for her (as much as a perspective a 4 yr old can have) so I would just suggest doing a few special things with her, even if its just getting daddy to watch the baby for a few hours so you can take just her to a mcdonalds indoor playground or once it get warm if its cold where you are a regular playground, It may take a few trips but im sure she will come around! Good luck to you momma!

-Amanda (Mommy to Jessica Nicole 6yrs and Elzie Joe III-2 yrs

Susan - posted on 01/11/2010

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Hi have you tryed to get her to help with the baby so she feels involved, as she probably feels she is being left out and that she is not mummys little girl now.

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