My daughter talks TOO much!

Christa - posted on 04/12/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter has very advanced verbal skills. She's been talking above average since she was 1. She is now talking in complete sentences and practically paragraphs. Since she's turned 2 it's starting to be a problem because she is also getting a little bratty. Her favorite phrases are "go away", "leave me alone", "stop talking to me", etc. I also just had my second child 8 wks ago and that may be part of this new attitude. Anyway she is sweet and polite when it's just me and my husband, but the second anyone else comes over (people she sees all the time) she immediately starts shouting these phrases and pointing angrily at them. Yesterday we were in the grocery store and a sweet little old lady told her how cute she was and she responded with a point and "leave me alone". I was mortified! She speaks so clearly I KNOW they understand her when she does this. My family and friends are ok and know she's going through a phase and doesn't mean it meanly, but how do I get her to stop doing this to strangers in public?? I know she's exercising her independence and I was to encourage that, but how do you teach her "if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all"? Any suggestions?? Anyone else dealing with a similar problem??

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Kirsty - posted on 04/18/2010

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I had the same problem with my son when he was about the same age and now, unfortunately, his sister has picked up the same habit. I promise they do grow out of the embarrassing "get off me" or "I want one NOW!" in the middle of the supermarket stage. All I can suggest is doing what many people do when they see a toddler do something like that in the middle of town, just smile and call them a cheeky little monster and laugh it up. Once they realise that they're not getting a shocked reaction from you, they'll soon give up.

Sharon - posted on 04/19/2010

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Been here, too many times:) And while it is funny later, in the moment we try to teach the boys how to learn to respect others and be kind, even at such a young age. We usually apologize to the offended, but don't make excuses like "it's a phase, or he's tired" We just own up to what it is, sassy pants and we are working on it:)

Penny - posted on 04/18/2010

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You could have been writing about my daughter, right down to her favourite phrases. :-) The only difference is that as we are living in Japan she can tell people to leave her alone in two languages. It sounds like it is a very common problem at this age. I just apologise to the little old ladies that she insults and tell her she shouldn't talk to people like that. Every time. I think making too much of a fuss either by getting angry or laughing will just make it worse. At some stage they are just going to realise it is something they shouldn't do and stop. I hope so anyway. :-)

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Connie - posted on 04/19/2010

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i don't think two yr olds are meant to be polite. and hopefully most people understand that. she's expressing herself and her feelings. she not yet socialized into thinking about others' feelings or how her words will make others feel. she will learn.

Riham - posted on 04/17/2010

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i have the same problem ,, but add shouting and screeming with cry ,, i need help too he also refuse to do any thing thai asked him to do or not to do ,, he makes me mad indeed we both need help i think

S. - posted on 04/16/2010

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awwwww bless you both i can see how you would be mortified but it is something you will laugh about when she's older.

my daughter is very much like your's she actually called her grandma a looser today i could have died (she picked it up from her 11 year old sister) she all so say's "no way" ALOT and she shout's "get off me" as if i was killing her. I just tell her you dont say that but i really can not advice you but i wont you to know your not on your own.

one more thing maybe she's shouting at these people cos they are showing the new baby attention? or maybe the visiter's are taking your attention off her and she dont wont to share? or maybe she's just finding her voice like my cheaky little monkey :)

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