my son wont talk i need help

Vanessa - posted on 03/21/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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hi my son jacob was born januay 23 2008 he is the smartest little boy i have ever seen we are in the middle of potty training him but my biggest problem is he wont talk hell say mama, ma, daddy and pa and vroom vroom but i cant get him to say anything else any suggestions should i ask my pediatrician. any advice would be nice

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Anita - posted on 03/22/2010

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I have the opposite with my son, but I did experience this with my daughter. she had excellent comprehension skills, understood everything you said and could do anything she put her hand to, but she had a limited vocabulary. We had some success by refusing to get things for her when she pointed, forcing her to try and ask for what she wanted.

To this date she has appointments with a speech therapist, but this in connection with her pronunciation of the words. to help her along she goes to a drama class to help her to over exaggerate the words so she understands it better. Also this website is fantastic, my little boy loves it and has probably learned the majority of his pronunciation from here, it's clear, concise and best of all free!

http://www.starfall.com/

I hope this helps xx

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Amber - posted on 04/20/2010

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Mine is doing the same...I had him evaluated because I was concerned. They told me that he was extremly developed in his motor skills so his energy is all going there. They said that he would come around when he is ready and to not worry. Just keep pointing out things and naming them throughout the day. Like naming "milk and cereal" when pouring it. Try to get him to say please or ask for what he wants even if it doesn't come out sounding right...just the effort with a reward will get them more interested. It has helped in the last couple months - he is actually trying.

Kasandra - posted on 04/15/2010

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Im going through the same thing with my son( hes January 22, 2008) He understands everything, but he still iwasnt really talking to much, he only said mom and daddy and sisi but not much more. I got him into speech therapy once a week and he is talking so much more. Not a whole lot but anything is better than nothing, hes only been doing the speech therapy for a month now. But it does work and alot of the time they offer free speech therapy. Good luck

Sandi - posted on 04/15/2010

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I am glad I am not alone! My youngest son, born Jan 16th, has the same problem. Even though he has a 4 year old brother who talks non-stop, he doesn't pronunciate his words very clearly at all. It has been a struggle to understand what he means even after he repeats himself. We have started him with a speech therpist once a week to work with him and evaluate and he seems to have improved little by little each week but he still is hard to understand. I thought my son was the only one out there. Like your son, he is bright and understands what you say and loves music and to be read to. He is improving, just keep working on it and I am sure he will talk sooner than you think!!

Pamela - posted on 04/09/2010

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my son had his speech assessment and I was told he is very far behind =( not just with speech but his overall communication. he wont ask for things. we had his first assessment on thursday and since then I have started talking to him differently and he seems to be picking up a few more things already. I was told he is extremely smart for his age ( puzzles and if he wants something he gets it himself) and should pick it up quickly.. alot of people told me to wait and he would get better and although the assessment was a shock Im so glad I got it done and we are working on it now ( its costing us a small fortune but) I would never forgive myself if he slipped behind and by the time he started school in a class of 33 he was not noticeable ( unless he is really naughty or really smart it seems the average student does not get a look in) . I am retraining and getting a career that I can continue to help him by being around a bit more and having a one on one day with him while his little brother is in daycare.. putting him on a level pegging with the other kids is the best thing I can do. .

Good luck and yes get it looked into now. it might be nothing in your sons case but if it is something get it started now don't wait.

Colleen - posted on 04/08/2010

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At 2 yrs my daughter understands any requests, included multiple step tasks. She's got a handle on potty train. However, use only a handful words and only one word at a time. Although she does communicate food and beverage desires with sign language I was still worried she might have a speech delay. Just remember kids develop @ different rates. But if u're still worried. Have Jacob's hearing checked just to rule that out (common factor with true speech delay) Also increase reading time and try to prompt him to say what he wants, rather than ask yes or no questions.

Jennifer - posted on 04/07/2010

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My daughter was born 2/24/08 & she's just starting to talk. She's not the best at annunciation, but we're getting there. I was REALLY worried a few months ago, but Daddy reminded me that she had a lot on her plate right now with potty training, so I gave it a while. She's starting to get the hang of it now, so don't worry & give it a little time. He'll start soon enough.

Laura - posted on 04/06/2010

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my 2 yr old is the same way, he says a few words, mama, dadda, out, bye, mine....but doesn't talk beyond the random words. The pediatirician says it's totally normal, especially since he has an older sister( to do the talking for him) She says that we shouldn't worry as long as he is saying SOME words. It's basically that we know what he wants and get it for him so he doesnt see the need to talk. He's very smart in all other aspects. I wouldn't worry too much at this point. just keep encouraging him to use his words.

Carrie - posted on 04/04/2010

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Hi Ginger,i found what you said very interesting and eye opening about the early intervention program your son is in. well, my twins are in the same kind of program here,my 2 year old son was diagnosed with savere autisam and my daughter was diagnosed with developmental delay,the threapist from this program; they have not been to my house once to see my son .They have came out to see my daughter twice and thats only for OT they havent goten any speach or behavrial therapy.I have called them and called them and left messages .I get nothing ,so when i finnally do get an anwser they tell me that my sons medicade has not been approved for therapys and my daughter was approved for twice a month. i dont know but i thought they were suppost to give my children thereays regardless of money ,but they are hiting me up hard for the medicade. This program ,ironically is called babys cant wait.go figure.

Tina - posted on 04/02/2010

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my son was born 1/10/08 we had the same issue he now does speech therapy with early intervention.good luck!!

K. - posted on 04/02/2010

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My youngest daughter was born exactly 4 days before your son. She doesn't say anything either. She listens when I tell her to do things, so I know she understands. She just doesn't have anything to say yet. My oldest who is four now was the same way at that age. I remember being very worried and even talked about taking her to a speech therapist. My mom told me not to worry about it at all. When the time comes for her to have something to say, she'll say it. And that's exactly how it was. She started talking in almost complete sentences and now she's a little girl with a pretty impressive vocabulary. So I wouldn't worry about it if I were you, he'll talk when he feels like it, and chances are when he finally does, he'll shock you with what he'll be able to say.

Jessica - posted on 04/01/2010

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My son was born Jan 20th and says very little also, he will repeat anything that you say, but when he really wants something he will grunt and tell me come come. I talked to the ped about it and he told me because he was my second child that they learn "child" language because they try and imitate how the older siblings talk. He is getting better, but no where near what my first was at this point. I wouldnt worry about it too much. If he isnt repeating anything you say or not understanding you different thing, but from what you say I think he is just fine!

Vanessa - posted on 04/01/2010

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yea i heard that about teaching a baby sign language i had a lady that goes to my grandmothers church offer to teach him sign language i told her i would think about it just never did it i might talk to her about it though

Brandi - posted on 03/31/2010

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sounds crazy, but teaching children how to communicate in sign language really helps them in verbal communication as well. i copied some info for ya......

Intellectual Benefits from Utilizing
Baby Sign Language
The intellectual benefits of using Baby Sign Language are numerous. Infants begin to learn on the day they are born. Babies are like little sponges soaking up the world around them. Anything that helps them learn quicker and more effectively is beneficial to their development. Baby Sign Language stimulates the intellect in a number of ways. This intellectual stimulation benefits the child way beyond infancy.


The intellectual benefits of baby signing include:

1. Baby Sign Language increases the speed of the development of
verbal language.


2. Baby signing increases vocabulary.


3. Baby signing reinforces the use of verbal language.


4. Baby Sign Language promotes language learning through concept.


5. Baby Signing reinforces a child’s communication attempts.


6. Baby Sign Language promotes early literacy.


7. Baby Sign Language increases interests in books.


8. Baby Signing promotes the early use of complex sentences.


Baby sign benefits extend to children over 3 years old also. Older children who used Baby Sign Language as infants and toddlers have better verbal and reading skills. Many parents use books along with teaching sign language. When you point to a picture and then show the sign for the word, both reading and communication skills are improved. Vocabulary is developed earlier and grows faster. The kinesthetic elements of signing reinforce verbal skills.


You can actually teach an infant Baby Sign Language, and it will promote the use of speech sooner rather than later. Language is conceptual. You have to be able to picture an item and relate a word to the picture in your mind. When a child learns how language works by using Baby Sign Language, it is only natural the baby will attempt to use the actual word as soon as possible. The fear that baby signing slows the development of speech is ungrounded. In fact, the opposite is true.


In addition, Baby Sign Language is empowering and improves learning skills. Baby signing gives infants control over conversation. They can actually initiate a conversation when they want something. But even better, a baby can tell you when something is interesting to him or her enabling you to expand on the topic. For example, a baby might see a truck. Through signing, the infant can indicate he or she likes the truck. From there you can respond by explain something about the truck (color, size, shape, Daddy’s truck, etc). The baby signed, communicated and then learned more new information!

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There are many intellectual benefits of using Baby Sign Language. An infant learning baby signing results in the early development of literacy and verbal skills. If you want to teach your infant how to communicate 1-2 years earlier, while developing intellectual abilities, Baby Sign Language is a key tool.

Candace - posted on 03/31/2010

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My Daughter born the same day, sayes very little too, I see the other kids younger than her holding conversations, and she just uses the first letter in a word to indicate what she wants. He obviously has the ability to talk, so I'd let him come out with it in his own time. See a doctor to put your mind at rest, but be careful not to force the issue, as you could delay it more

Ginger - posted on 03/27/2010

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My son was born Jan 6, 2008 and doesn't talk either. He use to say some words, but now its just a few. We did have his hearing tested and it's fine. We are now working with a speech therapist through a program call Early Steps. It is great because the therapist will come to your home for free if your child qualifies. The qualification is based on your child's need not your income. Doesn't matter if your income is high or low. It takes a while to get into the program, but it might be something to look into.

I hope everyone is right and they will just start talking one day, but my son's pediatrician wanted us to be proactive about it, mainly because he used to say more words than he is now. I would definitely talk to his doctor about your concerns.

Carrie - posted on 03/27/2010

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Yes,if i were you i would deffantly ask your pediatrican about his not talking. He could just be a late talker or somthing more could be going on.

Pamela - posted on 03/26/2010

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my son talks alot but doesn't say anything useful he also has problems interacting with other kids which we are not sure if that is due to his speech being a bit behind so we have booked him in with a speech therapist after his hearing test ( Im sure thats fine they just need to rule things out) and also his daycare are providing him with a speech assistant to work 1 on with him.

Heather - posted on 03/25/2010

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i have three kids an my daughter is the youngest she will be two april 23...when she first started trying to communicate she would grunt an i would try to guess what she wanted....when i would finally figure out that she wanted a drink i would say it to her...an before i would give it to her i would say...you want a drink...drink...an then give it to her...an i did that with anything that i could use one word to describe...eat is for any kind of meal...now she says...eat an gets in her chair...an she says drink...an mo...for more...an all gone...i just tried to use one word to help her figure out what she wanted so she could tell me...just be patient i know its hard but jacob can sense when you are gettin frustrated an that may deter him as well...make it fun for him an that may help to kids love to play an if he thinks its a game that may help as well...i hope this helps...good luck hun :)

Dara - posted on 03/25/2010

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Oh and another thing...if he's hooked on the binky it's definitely going to take him longer to talk since it's in his mouth blocking his clear speach all the time.

Dara - posted on 03/25/2010

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Definitely don't freak out. All kids learn in their own good time. The girl that played Punky Brewster (not sure if that is the correct spelling but you must know who I'm talking about) didn't talk till she was 3 and it was a complete sentence. Just keep talking to him about everything you do, asking him questions and most of all reading with him. Point out things. My oldest was born Jan 4, 2008 and I can't get her to stop talking, a good friend of mine that was due the same day whose son was born Jan 10, hardly talks at all, he actually grunts more than anything. If you have faith in your pediatrician, which you should, talk to him about it. I wouldn't think testing at this point would be necessary but see if he has some suggestions and check out what to expect the toddler years. I have found the what to expect books quite helpful. I don't go by them completely but they help you feel better and give you ideas. You can find them new or for less than ten bucks at your local used book store. And save some trees at the same time. Good luck! Stay positive, and know before you know it he isn't gonna be quiet for even a second. :)

Lea - posted on 03/25/2010

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I would talk to him in simple language, ask him questions all the time. I used to say, "see the..." whatever was outside while we were taking a walk or driving somewhere and he learned words that way. Also talk about what you are doing all the time. Its hard to get used to because its silly, but if he hears words all the time, he will want to talk to you.

Holly - posted on 03/25/2010

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My daughter was the same exact way. At 2 yrs 4 mos she answered a question of mine with I don't know and hasn't shut up since. His hearing isn't an issue if he has a few words he says. Don't let the doctors scare you. Give it time. Speech delays can be due to any number of things. Keep up talking to him constantly and asking him questions, continue pointing out colors etc. He is taking everything in! At 2.5 yrs I would allow testing to begin and some speech therapy to start but keep in mind if they can't find anything he'll talk when he's ready. I hope he's just being stubborn! Don't worry too much yet. Good Luck!

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