Still rocking to sleep?

Dawn - posted on 02/15/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter still needs to be rocked to sleep for naps & at bedtime. She refuses to just be tucked in and allow me to leave. She is getting so tall and it is becoming uncomfortable for both of us & it seems to be taking longer for her to fall asleep. She has 2 older brothers who are tucked in at night, so she see them as an example. I have also talked to her about going to bed "like a big girl," but she still refuses. If I try to leave, she cries & screams, gets out of bed and runs out of the room after me. I have tried letting her cry it out in the past, but I just can't take it. I always end up giving in before she does, and end up rocking her to sleep. Anyone have any advice that has worked for them?

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Carrie - posted on 02/19/2010

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Hi Dawn, my daughter is just 2 and i also rocked her to sleep until just a few months ago, eventually i decided for both my sanity and her independence it was important for this to stop. We now read a story and then i tuck her in with a teddy or dolly and ask her to help them get to sleep, we get some tears and i sometimes have to go in and pat her back and shhhh her but over time the length of time it takes for her to drop off and the upset is reducing. I suspect your daughter is your 1st and you made the rocking mistake a lot of 1st time Mum's make, like me, but when you know better you do better and in the long run it will be better for your daughter to get herself to sleep and gain some independence, hearing the crying can be haert breaking to begin with but just remember you;re not hurting her she is just frustrated she isn;t getting her way. I suppose it's about boundaries and routine. Good luck!! xx

Lisa - posted on 02/18/2010

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be brave mommy!! she will get up and out a thousand times, but just put her back and say i love you its time for bed. its about routine.. wanting to be rocked could also just be her way of wanting to have alone time with you. so let her.. sit in the rocking chair with her, rock her, but read her a story too. the story might tire her and give her something to think about as she falls to sleep. and then lay her in her bed.. dont give in to her request to get back up or for another story. she will figure out the routine, as will you.. she wants girl time with mommy is all

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Charmaine - posted on 02/25/2010

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Tresillian Tresillian and Tresillian.....get a referal from you GP and go and stay for 4 nights...its harder on you than it is them...you need to just put her down say goodnight walk out...after 5 mins go back in put her back to bed and again walk out (no eye contact) the 1st time we did this it took 45 mins but it does get easier....call Tresillian hotline and have a chat (02) 9787 0855 or
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Dawn - posted on 02/20/2010

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Just wanted to say a big thank you to Lisa & Carrie. I took your suggestions and changed the routine yesterday at nap time. I explained to her that she is too big to be rocked to sleep. I told her we would read a book, rock for a few minutes, and then she'd have to lay down and go to sleep on her own. When I put her into bed, of course she cried and got out about a million times. I stayed calm, tucked her back into bed, and told her to go to sleep. It took about an hour and a half, but she eventually went to sleep on her own. At bedtime last night, we followed the same routine. She didn't even cry when I tucked her in. She laid there for about 5 minutes, then got out of bed. I tucked her back in, and she put herself to sleep in about 10 minutes without crying!!! I can't believe it! I'm so thankful for your advice and so glad that I tried it! :)

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