When did your child first get their own room

Brennis - posted on 04/26/2010 ( 68 moms have responded )

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When did your child first get their own room and how far away from yours was it (ex: 10ft).

My little one is 15.5 months and it seems like she is controlling my world. I know she is supposed to be going through separation anxiety, but lately it seems that she just wants momma. She sleeps in our room, and wakes up around 12-1 am, and cries. She gets feed, and changed, teething meds and pain meds. However, if I am not in the bed she seems to wake up again and won’t go to sleep until I AM IN THE BED. Sometimes just papa will do, but this is the time I try to have for myself and it gets ruined when she wakes up crying, which means I stay up later trying to get that feeling of this is me time back.

I don’t know what else to do but to give her, her own room but that feels like I am kicking her out. So when did your children get their own rooms, and what problems did it solve for you or cause.

Thanks for listening, and the advice.

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Bess - posted on 04/28/2010

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None of my kids left my bed until they were somewhere between 18 months and 2 years. My oldest was able to happily transition straight to a crib, my daughter went to a toddler bed in our room first (we have a very large room -- plenty of room for it) and eventually into the bedroom with her brother, and my 15 month old is still in our bed (though he starts out the night in the crib -- we bring him in with us the first time he wakes up.) This is deliberate -- we like cosleeping, and until they are no longer nursing at night, I get much more sleep this way. I haven't had much problem transitioning them out. It's a gradual process, and takes patience, but it works well for us.

Karen - posted on 04/26/2010

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1st baby got her own room at 2.5 nights--I couldn't handle hearing every little whimper and cry in her sleep--so the 2nd born got her own room from day 1. (She didn't sleep 8+hrs until 6months old though). It worked for us and they both learned to sleep on their own. I hope this isn't discouraging for you, it's just that every baby and family have their own way of doing things. My friend's 1 yr old is still waking up once in the middle of the night too and they have to do the whole mid-night routine too... The transition for you will be hard, but she will need her own room at some point, right? so will it be easier at a certain age or would putting it off just procrastinate the emotional separation? Try not to feel like you are kicking her out, just teaching her to be an independent person from you. Besides, wouldn't mommy & daddy like some "mommy & daddy alone time"? Maybe you can start the transition with naptimes first, and ease into it so her room is not a strange foreign place you are sending her too. 1-3 nights of difficulty would be expected, so if you can be strong and get through the first few nights, you'll be well on your way to better sleeping in the long-run. Good luck!

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Rachel - posted on 05/15/2010

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Our daughter has had her own room since she was 6 months old. It can take some time for them to get used to it... our daughter had to learn to "cry it out" because she would only take her naps with me. Now she is a wonderful sleeper and LOVES her bed :-D

Hope this helps!

Katie - posted on 05/09/2010

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My son slept with me until he was about 6 months and then put him in his crib he would wake up and then bring him back in bed with me. We did that until he was 11 months and in between 6 months and 11 months i would slowly move him crib a little farther away from my bed. Then one day when he was 11.5 months i moved him into his own room and since that day he sleeps through the night, and i sleep a lot better since hes not in there with me anymore.

Dee - posted on 05/09/2010

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Max got his own room across the hall from day one. We had a twin bed in there for a couple of months so one of us could sleep through the night when needed. He was sleeping 8 hrs at night from 10 weeks old. BLISS!!! He continues to be a great sleeper at almost 16 months old and sleeping 12 hrs at night. I hope the next one is just as easy as Max!

Kimberly - posted on 05/09/2010

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My little Girl got her own room around 14months. she would just wake up to make sure i was in the room to settle her.. i put her in her own room about 15feet away, and just let her settle herself back to sleep, it took 2 days for her to learn to settle herself back to sleep.

Melissa - posted on 05/09/2010

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We had our daughter (now almost 16 mo) in our room until she was 5.5 months old. We always played white noise (a CD of rain) all night, so it wasn't too bad as far of fear of waking her up. We went on a vacation when she was 5.5 months old, and she did NOT do well in her pack-n-play, although she was right in our bedroom. She was also transitioning from being swaddled to using a sleep sack. It was a rough vacation, and we had to try the CIO method - which led to a lot of MY crying! Once home from vacation, we moved her into her crib in her room. She had been used to napping in her room before that. Let's just say that it was a rough few months, as she was very stubborn! We did the CIO off and on . . . we wanted her to learn to go to sleep on her own, but we also wanted her to get enough sleep! This all began in June, and it probably wasn't until Oct/Nov that she was finally consistently sleeping through the night. She would sleep through the night here and there, but not always. Although she seemed to have constant ear infections from Sept. on, so that probably was a factor as well. She is now almost 16 months and does SO WELL!!! We know when it's bed time! Even a few months ago, she began pushing off of us when we would hold her as we were getting her ready for bed and would point to her crib - she was telling us that she was ready! Now we lay her down as she's tired and she goes to sleep on her own. She's such a big girl now!!! I think when we have a second child, we will probably not wait until they are over 5 months to put them into their own room, as we saw how difficult it was this time. We still use white noise in her bedroom, and she sleeps though the night fine (except when she was sick). Her room is across the house from ours, and I cried the first night she slept in there as I felt like she was a million miles away! A video monitor has been a savior, as I can see her in her crib and make sure she is fine! As much as I sometimes wish that she'd cuddle and sleep with us, I am glad that we aren't stuck with a toddler in our bed! She knows her routine and where she sleeps and I am glad for that!

Thereza - posted on 05/09/2010

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My daughter went to her own room at 10months, some nights are still dificult but you just have to stick to it

Hayley - posted on 05/08/2010

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What you "should" do is take whatever advice has been given here that happens to resonate with your own intuition, and let the rest be. There are enough different (and often conflicting) parenting ideas out there to drive a mom crazy with the "should"s. All we can do is offer what works for us, and what doesn't. After that, the shoulds and shouldn'ts are up to your own gut, not what anyone else will think of you.

Christina - posted on 05/08/2010

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Your baby should've been in her own room from the get go. My son has been in his own room since he was 11 months old, only because my brother lived with me for a while and let him use the room that was for my son. It's going to be rough for a time while you get her used to being in her own room, start with naps in her own room and then work towards bedtime in her own room. She's a "big girl" now, when she cries let her know you're still there but also let her soothe herself so she can learn that just because you're not *right* there in her sight doesn't mean you're not in the area. She'll be ok, this should take a week or two, if you have doubts talk to your pediatrician, he/she will give you advice on how to ease her into sleeping in her own room, in the end you'll both be happier.

Karmen - posted on 05/08/2010

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they need there own room if u leave her in there with a bottle and a blanky and a cuddly toy.....she will get used to her own room.

Trisha - posted on 05/08/2010

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wel i put my fela n2 his own room wen he was bout 6 months.. he loved it cos it was quiet n he didnt hav us wakin him wen we went 2 bed... i no how u feel bout d jst wantn mammy ting cos my 1s d same.. if he wakes up n d nyt daddy wont do.. but most of d tym wen he cries we jst wait 2 c if hel go bk 2 sleep on his own.. we never had him sleep in our bed wit us atal so if he does come out of his room we bring him strate bk 2 bed,, i ly wit him 4 a few mins n wen he jst noddin bk off i go out agn... i hope dis helps

Hayley - posted on 05/07/2010

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Brennis and Ashley, you might read _The Baby Sleep Book_ by Dr. William Sears. It helped us immensely. Gradual change is your friend. Anything done too quickly will only create problems.

Judy - posted on 05/07/2010

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My kids all were in their own rooms before 3 months, so no issue with anxiety etc. Just made sure we have a good monitor and still go and check on all of them regularly.

Ashley - posted on 05/07/2010

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You know you and me have the same situation. I noticed most people posted on here that their kids were sleeping alone in their own room from the beginning or early. My son is 15 months now but since he was born he never wanted to sleep alone. You know how some people say leave for a bit and let the baby cry and he'll eventually fall asleep, well I tested it and it didn't work for my son. I let him cry an hour and a half and my son was crying and even making himself throw up because he was crying so much. My son cannot sleep without his pacifier and sleeping right next to me in my bed holding my hand. If one of those things are missing then he will not go to bed he needs the pacifier, my hand, and right next to me in order to go to bed. And well my hubby he'll sleep with him but only if im still holding his hand, in our bed, and right next to me too. So when we sleep he's in the middle or on my side. I honetly don't know what to do either my son is too attached to me. And on top of that he still has no teeth so i think he's still hooked on the pacifier because he uses it for comfort.

Tullina - posted on 05/07/2010

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My son had his own room from birth. He did sleep in the bassinet in our room for the first week, then we took a trip to FL to show him off for a week which he slept in the pack and play in our room, so for the first 2 weeks he was with us but NOT in bed with us. But when we got back home he slept in his bassinet in HIS room for a couple weeks to get used to his own room, then we transferred him to his crib at one month old. I'm a firm believer in NOT having the kids sleep in bed with the parents. I also believe in subtle transitions which make it easier on parents and kids. My son is an independent but loving little man and he LOVES to go to bed. I never have any problems out of him come nap or bed time.

Chrissy - posted on 05/07/2010

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My son was in his own room at about 9 months, this is only because I'd gone through a split when he was three months old and had to move back in with my mum until my old house was ready for a baby, then when i moved i let him be with me for a month (so he could get used to the huose) then he had his own room. i do have a monitor on just because i'm on my own but he's settled really well. I can put him to bed at 7pm wide awake and he'll have a little play and then get himself off to sleep which i think is really important. i leave a small amount of water available to him in case he is thirsty but more often than not he doesn't drink it. when he was in with me i found that the smallest amount of noise would wake him up but its all fine now :)

Sarah - posted on 05/07/2010

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my kids all had there own room at 4-5 months and once they were in their own room they slept through the night. Put her in her own room and let her cry and if she wakes up try to let her fall back to sleep on her own it wont take very long maybe a week at most.At 15 months she does not need to eat in the middle of the night.

Aubree - posted on 05/07/2010

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I think my daughter was about 2 months, maybe 3. I have a really small bedroom, and I was constantly checking her when she was in my room. Although I would get up to check on her in her room it wasn't as often as when she was in our room. Her room is only about 8 feet from our room. Even though there were some nights when I know she probably would have done better sleeping with me in my bed I never have put her in our bed. I think she just knows that that's Mommy and Daddy's bed and Clara has her own bed. Good luck, I hope you work it out!

Chantale - posted on 05/07/2010

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We moved our son to his room when he was just under 3 months old, around the same time he started sleeping around 8hrs a night.
I found while I was breastfeeding during the night it was easier to keep his bassinet near me, but as soon as he was sleeping most nights he went into his crib :-)

Sheryn - posted on 05/07/2010

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Hi,I introduced my son to his own room when he was about 6 weeks old,at that stage he was starting to out grow his bassinette as well,I know you maybe feeling like your kicking her out but to be honest I found it was the best decision.It gives you and your partner your own space again.We still use a baby monitor to make sure we hear him at all times.
Most nights he sleeps through which is a bonus.....

Chloe - posted on 05/06/2010

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My Daughter was in her own cot and own room from the day we got home from the hospital, so that was 4 days old.. everyone kept telling me i needed a basinette to have her in for the first few weeks and to have it in our bedroom, but i stuck to my guns and did it my way and best decision i ever made.. We had no problems with her in own room, which was seperated from ours by a spare room in between.. At 15 monthsold, Lily has slept in our room/bed twice, and that was two nights in a row due to illness, and had no trouble getting her back to her own room.. and she has slept right through the night from 2 n half monthsold, and before that it was once a night waking up. My friend has a 4 children, three boys aged 20, 16, 15 and a daughter 4 yrs old and daughter has been spoilt and no at 4 yrs old they can not get her to sleep in her own room.. if they kick her out of there bed she will go upstairs and try to get into her brothers toom.. this is a problem because they never said no to her now she runs that household.

i would say just be firm and do not give in

Heidy - posted on 05/06/2010

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My son got his own room the minute we got back from the hospital... My husband was scared we'd kill the baby in the night. I was scared of rolling on him or somthing! So he was in his own room and now.. he wont cuddle with us at all.. lol! he's 15 months old and everytime we have to go out and stay in a hotel he needs his own play pen.. he wont share a bed with us!

Joanna - posted on 05/06/2010

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My son was 6 mths old when I put him in his own room and he reacted very well to it, waking up and playing in the cot. The baby monitor is always on for the midnight crisis. He only sleeps with us if in pain or uncomfortable as I still breast feed and it acts as a pacifier.

Jessica - posted on 05/05/2010

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i put my daughter in her own room when she was 11 months and it has been the best thing yet.. at about 9 or 930 i will put her in her room and to go to bed, she may fuss a little but she eventually goes to sleep..

Tracy - posted on 05/05/2010

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My daughter had her own room at 6mths and it was the best thing to do. She slept so much better and so did us all. My daughter is also 15mths. It may be a bit harder now but I feel it is something you have to do.
Tracy

Shelley - posted on 05/05/2010

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All three of my children had there own rooms right away, they have never slept in my room. once you start it wont stop until there older.....i have a friend that started bringing her child in there room when she was an infant and now shes 7 and still sleeps between her mother and father. your room is a privite place for you and your husband not for children....thats my two cents worth.

Sara - posted on 05/05/2010

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I was a very clingy hands on all the time mommy....Noah got his own room right after his first birthday. It worked out quite nicely once we got him used to his schedule[[He's also sleeping in a twin bed with a safety guard rail]] He goes to bed at 8pm and gets up once during the night to get changed and to get some water, then he sleeps some mornings until almost nine others until about 8ish.I think it gave him a greater sense of independence which is really helping us introduce the big boy potty.and to put the icing on the cake, I got my sex life back.... =] It was rough not having Noah is the crib right next to me everynight but he's only about 7-8 feet away and i can hear everything so that helped ease my mind as well.
i hope things work out and you get some you time!

Tiffani - posted on 05/05/2010

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My first had her own room right away and it was maybe 10 feet away at the most. My second shared a room with his sister when he was 16 months, we had moved, so it was only a few feet from my door. My third had intestinal surgery when he was born, so he needed alot of care as a baby, he stayed in our room until he was 17-18 months old and we had moved again so he was about 20-30 feet away, maybe more (across the whole house). Now with our last one, we are trying to finish the basement so my 11 year old can move on down and I can get my youngest out of our room. She is 16 months old today and we are about 20-30 feet from her room.
Your not kicking your daughter out, but believe me, you will both sleep better once you have your own rooms. If your worried about hearing her, use a baby monitor. Good Luck!!

Cheryl - posted on 05/04/2010

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My daughter has been in her own room since our first night home from the hospital. We just use a monitor and keep her door slight open. She's never slept in the bed with my husband and I because we had agreed before we had her that our bedroom was OUR bedroom, not a family bedroom. It was just our own personal decision for the sake of our sanity.

Cassandra - posted on 05/03/2010

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Ive noticed this happening w.my daughter the last few nights. She has been teething like crazy and caught a double ear infection so I was putting her whining towards that, but now that it is clearing up she is STILL whining and needing to be w.me. She has her own room and has been there for almost 2 months. I moved into a bigger apartment so she could HAVE her own room. I think I am going to have to let her cry herself to sleep soon because thats the only option left!

Amy - posted on 05/02/2010

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Everyone does things differently, but i put my son in his own room at 3 months so i didnt have to go through the problems your having and also didnt want to disturb his sleep, we always have a monitor on but you we hear him anyway the moniter plays nursurie rhymes thats what he has slept to since he was born , i suggest putting your baby in her own room asap, she will get use to it but persist with it maybe a night light or some music that turns of on a timer, just check on her if shes crying then leave the room, but i wouldnt keep running in all the time. hope it helps.

Kylie - posted on 05/02/2010

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2 1/2 months I waited and it was more me than her that it took that long - her bedroom is right next door and if I listen hard enough I can hear her breathing

Shawna - posted on 05/02/2010

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I am probably not the best on what I am about to tell you but after we moved and my husband is working in Fairmont W.V. while my son 16 months are staying with my Mom. He has been in our room since he was born. Everyone has their own opinions when he baby gets their own room but I want him staying with me until my hhusband bans him from our room.

Lyndal - posted on 05/02/2010

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My daughter is still in our room at almost 16months. She slept with us for about 6 months and then we moved. She is such a wriggler so I had her in a bassinet right next to the bed and most mornings from around 2am she would sleep with us so we all woke together. She then went into her crib/playyard at about 10 months when she was too big for the bassinet and was standing in it, which wasn't safe. She had a difficult time with me going to work and was waking 5-6 times a night so I needed her near me cause I always feed her lying down at night. It's so much easier and more relaxing for me. When she has a very active day she sleeps through now or only wakes once - that's due to teething also.
I love all of us waking up together. She is not a grumpy bum at all and is smiling within 2 seconds of being awake, talking and laughing. It provides us with precious morning memories and conversations and I wouldn't miss it for the world. I can not see her having her own room for a long time. It's not something I have ever really thought about seriously.

Renee - posted on 05/02/2010

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all three of ours were in their own bassinet from birth to about 1 month. after that they were in their own rooms in their own beds. i am a FIRM non co-sleeper. for exactly the reason you are describing. my son (16 months) has been sleeping through the night for at least 6 months. (the girls were the same way). we always just put them in bed and they fall asleep and we dont hear from them for 10-12 hrs. and that's been with all three of them, so it's not just a fluke lol. you really need to be firm about it though and don't give in. otherwise he will just continue to play you like a fiddle, like he has been. right now, he knows you will come to his rescue and he knows that he is allowed to be attatched to you LITERALLY every minute of the day and night. good luck.

Rabia - posted on 05/01/2010

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my little man went into his own room at 6 months, and i have had no problems at all.. I put him in bed give him a bottle, he feeds throws the bottle over n sleeps.. If he does very rarely wake in the middle of the night, I do not go in there..I let him play himself to sleep. He knows he is NOT allowed to sleep in our room so he doesnt even bother crying..

Kristy - posted on 05/01/2010

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My oldest and youngest went into their own rooms at about a month old. We would all sleep better when in separate rooms. I wake up to every little noise so I was not getting any sleep with them in the room. Then when my husband would get up for work his morning routine would wake up the boys.
My middle son didn't get his own room till about 6 months old cause we are military and we moved right after he was born and we were in a one bedroom apt. for awhile till our house was done being built and so my husband, son and I slept in the living room. Not the greatest situation but we got through it.

From reading everyone's posts it is clear that the experts are right when they say that every baby is different. Some babies will sleep through the night very early and some will not. My 3 boys all didn't sleep through the night till they were about a year old. And they still wake up occasionally, due to nightmares, wetting the bed, teething and other things. (I have a 4, 3 and 15 month old) I just go into their rooms (my 4 and 3 year old share a room) and either lay down with them (the older ones that are in regular beds) and rub their back and tell them that I love them and that they are safe and mommy will never let anything bad happen. Or the 15 month old I will rock and give teething tablets to when needed! (He has started to wake up again once a night just because he is cutting 2 molars at once)

I know that many people don't agree with letting the baby cry it out but I did it with my boys and it took a night or two but they were ok after that. Also a cheap way to make white noise in the baby's room is to get a radio and tune it to static! I have done it with all 3 boys and it works like a charm!

Good Luck!

Rachelle - posted on 05/01/2010

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Hi my name is Rachelle. My daughter is also 15months. She got her own room when she was 5 months old just so she wouldn't get used to sleeping in our room. She normally sleeps through the night as she has since the beginning. I think it gives her more independence and that way she is used to not having to have mommy or daddy around at those times.

Shannon - posted on 05/01/2010

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I can't give you much help, after the first week, I had my son in his own room in his own crib on the other side of the house. I kept the monitor on high, but he was sleeping thru the night by about 2-3 months. Not that it lasted too long, but I got him in the habit early of being by himself in his room. I had heard too many horror stories from my friends about their kids still sleeping with them or needing them to be in their room even at 2-3 years. WASN'T going to happen! :) I think you'll probably just have to go tough and stand firm. Don't wait too much longer, it's only going to get harder! Good luck and sorry I'm not much help!!!

Kylie - posted on 05/01/2010

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Both my sons were in their own room when they were 6weeks old. This has taught them both to self soothe and gives me a good 12 hours to do my chores and have a bit of adult time too. Im so glad I put them in there so soon, as i know of people who had their children in their beds until they were at least 10 years old! The only time the youngest, who is 12weeks old gets to come in our room, is around 6:30am when he wakes for a feed and nappy change, then it's straight back in his own bed to sleep for another 2-3 hours until the eldest wakes him up for the day. Don't get me wrong, when my eldest got to about 4months, and he was aware of what bedtime was, he did act up and start winging to get out of his bed, but he soon settled down after 5mins or so. He's so good now though, come 7pm no questions asked he's in bed and sleeping. Hope this has helped.

Jennifer - posted on 05/01/2010

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My daughter has had her own room since she was 2 weeks old it would have been earlier but it was so hot in her room and our room had an aircon. She has been sleeping through since she was 12 weeks old. Her room at the moment is at least 10 metres away from our room. If I have another child I will do it all the same.... no ways will my next child sleep long in our room 6 weeks MAX if he/she has too, but definitely no longer!!!

Give your daughter her own room immediately - it is going to be difficult for you and her but after a week she should be into the routine, Good Luck!!!

Jennifer - posted on 05/01/2010

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Hi there, my daughter has been in her own room since she was 2 weeks old. She has been sleeping through since she was 12 weeks old. Your daughter is definitely controlling you - at that age she doesnt need to get fed during the night - I think it is time for some sleep technique, worked for me. If I have another child then I will do it all the same.... no ways will they sleep in my room no later than 6 weeks - I dont feel there is a need for that. They need to know where "their" room is and where bedtime is ... My daughters room at the moment, is a good 10 metres away from our room. Hope it comes right for you.

Stephanie - posted on 04/29/2010

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jasmine slept in our room until about 6 weeks, then she moved in to her room in her crib. her room is about 10 feet from ours. she doesn't like to cuddle to fall asleep and has only slept in our bed 2x and that was in the morning when i put her in bed with daddy while i showered

Christine - posted on 04/29/2010

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Both my boys had their own room since they were 4 mos old. (that is when they slept through the night. They never want to be in my bed....They like their own space....Their rooms are like 5 feet away from mine....

Amy - posted on 04/29/2010

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Our daughter went to her own room after a week! I read that babies (and parents) sleep better apart because parents won't hear and react to every little noise. She won't hear and react to every noise you make either. They (like us) often have periods of wakefulness in the night and need to learn to self soothe and go back to sleep on their own.

Also, the longer you wait to put her in her own room, the harder it will be. It's hard enough to get a good night's sleep without her wanting you to cuddle all night! She may (and you may) be upset for a few nights but that will pass and it will be healthier for everyone!

I didn't want to admit that my daughter needed to "cry it out" but once I caved in to the idea, I committed. After a few days she began to either sleep through the night or self sooth and put herself back to sleep. Now she sleeps most nights a full 11 hours.

Good luck and save yourself the guilt--it is a good change!

Callie - posted on 04/29/2010

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My son was in his own room from day one. However, he nursed several times a night for the first few months. We always had white noise playing in his room while he slept. Try the website www.simplynoise.com for free white noise. It wasn't until he was 10 months old that he slept through the night, and we had to use the CIO method to achieve a full night's sleep. He woke up several times the first night, and the second night he slept a full 12 hours. Good luck.

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I would have moved our daughter to her own room at about 4 months, but we moved in with my in-laws while we renovated our house, so it was about 8 months when she got her own room, which is right beside ours. The first night in her own room she slept all night, so we realized she has to have her own room to sleep all night. She is such a light sleeper that the slightest noise wakes her up.
I have heard a lot of people who did what the first responder mentioned, letting baby cry and going in after a couple minutes, each time lengthening the amount of time between going back in. You could also let her cry it out, I know there is a lot of conflicting views on that method, but you just have to decide what works for you. She will learn as long as you don't give in to her and let her sleep with you, because she'll learn very quickly that she can get her way by crying nonstop.
You can also try some soft music in her room, or one of those light things that reflects colors and patterns on the wall, those might soothe her. Also, if you can get into a good bedtime routine that might help her as well. Good luck, it will be hard but eventually she'll get used to it-as will you. :)

Hayley - posted on 04/29/2010

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First off, we love cosleeping! This magical thing happens when you bring baby to bed with you and nurse there and sleep: You actually get sleep!! :D :D :D Of course there are rules to follow for safety, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with this practice. Read Dr. Sears for support in this.



My first was 2-1/2 when she moved to her own room. She slept in our bed till about 15 months, when she started to move around in her sleep so much she'd wake us both up, and she also slept better when I was not beside her at that point. We solved that particular problem by putting a twin bed beside our queen, about a foot away. She would go to sleep in our bed, then we'd move her to the twin, and she'd come back in the early morning to nurse in our bed with me. Then after a while, she'd start out in the twin, and stay there till her morning nursing. This worked well, and we just kept in a gradual pattern of night weaning until it happened. When I was about 7 months along expecting the second DD, we began transitioning to her own room. We'd been talking about it for months with her, how exciting it would be, look at that bookcase there by the windows and the toybins and the nightlight, etc. So when she actually moved in, it wasn't really hard. There were (and still are, and she's nearly 4!) nights when she comes in because she's scared or lonely, but for the most part, it hasn't been a big drama. We love cosleeping with our now 15mo, but it is about time to put a twin in for her, because she is starting to be more fitful with me there than without me.

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