Throwing things

Leonna - posted on 04/26/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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My daughter has been throwing things. Just yesterday she threw a crayon at a lady in a restaurant. Does anybody have tips on discipline and how to stop this behavior?

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Stacey - posted on 04/29/2010

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yes! you all should really read '1,2,3 magic' - it's amazing and works! my son was having all of these problems and my sister-in-law recommended it. it's pretty amazing and explains why kids don't learn through a detailed explanation of 'what they did wrong and why it's not right' - the key is to basically have as little a reaction as possible because they respond to 'our temper tantrums' - anyway, there's a simple method, involving counting 1, 2, and 3 (with the third time being the time out)..good luck!

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Joanie - posted on 05/12/2010

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Yes, Gaby my 22 month does the same thing in public and at home. When we're home, I usually anticipate if she is going to throw something, look her in the eye, point, and say sternlr, "don't even try it. I make sure I keep my gaze on her until she reconsiders. Then I try to distract her with some other activity. In public I am having a problem.

Sheralyn - posted on 05/11/2010

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My wee boy is doing all of the above. He seems to think its a bit of a game, and the stern No no no is followed by a laugh... cheeky little rat! Often it is out of boredom, or the fact he is holding something he knows he shouldn't so he tries to be quick with disposal before we get to him. Will definitely try the non-reaction and maybe the timeouts as we haven't found a solution that works yet either... Maybe time & age will help? Glad to hear we aren't alone in this... and is it me or are most of these posts about wee boys?! Good luck to all!

Valorie - posted on 05/10/2010

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Has anyone tried and strong sounding No No...No throwing and a spat on the hand and then have them pick it up? Works wonders for my 7th child as well as the rest on them.

Leanne - posted on 05/08/2010

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i think it happening to all of us must be just there ages we will get there ladys hang in there

Brie - posted on 05/02/2010

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Try as you might, you will not stop the almighty throwing impulse. When our kiddos get older they will have impulse control. Make sure they are not too bored, hungry, tired, hot, cold, or have to visit the potty...(or need a diaper change). It too shall pass, and time outs and the like just train a child to be self-centered and bitter. Best of luck!

Leonna - posted on 05/01/2010

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My daughter doesn't understand "time out", but making her pick up what she threw seems to be working alright.

Leanne - posted on 05/01/2010

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hey my son does same thing he throws every hes 21 months other nite we wher havn tea and he throw a bit of chicken a his unlcle

Alicia - posted on 05/01/2010

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I have the same problem. My son isn't throwing crayons just eating the tips of them. He throws shoes at me remotes toys metal ones like the cars, Phones basically anything he can get his hands on. I did the ignoring stage but now i just put him in the corner. Sadly still doesn't work. Between throwing things and hitting people i don't no how to handle it all

Ann - posted on 05/01/2010

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Yep, I will definately thry the 1,2,3 idea too! Anything at this point is worth it because my 22mth old boy does all the above hitting throwing and even head butting, we are trying the time out chari(he really ahtes it) but I dod not the swat on the but or stern discipline voice does not help as well, so worht a try, thanks! And good luck to the rest of us that feel hopeless! I can really empathise!

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Oooo I like Stacey's 1,2,3 method. My daughter just started this phase too. Last night TWO meals went onto the floor! She is enjoying mommy and daddy's reactions/attention. I have no other advice, just know that it's a phase and it'll go away eventually! : )

Billie-jo - posted on 04/29/2010

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unfortunately my so is doing all of the above and i have tried all of the above and nothing is working any other suggestions,

Janet - posted on 04/28/2010

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Yep same thing here! He sees big brother do it, and thinks its funny. He also statred hitting when he gets mad or flustrated! I pick him up and hold him still, while telling him not to hit and its not okay to throw. I am sure I have a long way to go! LOL Good Luck Ladies

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We are having the same problem here! My son is 21 months and he is mostly just throwing food & utensils. We try to catch him as soon as he's done eating & take the "projectiles" away from him, but, if there's a piece of food on the tray, I'm bound to be hit with it! Or the fork/spoon too. We've tried to ignore it, but that hasn't helped. We've tried the stern "We don't throw our food (fork/spoon, whatever)".

Honestly, my hope is that this phase, like so many others with these little ones, will pass...sigh...

Leonna - posted on 04/28/2010

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Thank you ladies, this is good advice I have not tried before. I,m going to give both suggestions a try.

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I think it's important to catch this behavior early on, and correct it. With my son, we've adopted the approach of drawing him away from his toys and holding him still, and gently explaining what he did wrong, and why he should not do it. Then we warn him - if you do it again, you will get a timeout. Usually he does not repeat it. When he does, he gets two more warnings, then a timeout (one minute inside his playpen without any toys). The explaining part is more important, but also important if you warn with a timeout, follow through and give a timeout if the behavior continues. One more thing: if he does not repeat it, we praise him and tell him what a good boy he's being. So far it has worked (he's 21 months) but no telling what the terrible twos will bring for us.

Erin - posted on 04/27/2010

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I make my daughter get down and immediately pick it up. If she refuses I tell her she will go in time out. If she still refuses then I sit her in the chair (if we are home) or if we are out eatting she has to sit on the floor next to me. (If its clean enough lol) I've found that the floor is better for her to sit then the highchair if we are in a restaurant bc she leans back and almost throws herself out! Anyway... usually it only takes less then a minute usually only like 30 seconds and shes ready to get up and go pick it up. Before we started time outs we would swat her on the butt or yell NO! But that had no affect on her at all... it actually would make things worse! When we first started time outs it took a little longer and she would try to get out of the chair... I would just kneel down in front of her and keep putting her back in the chair until she said she was ready to pick the thing up! Hope this helps! :)

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