When to have the next baby...

Sarah - posted on 03/06/2009 ( 26 moms have responded )

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Hi all,
I am wondering what other moms are thinking. How long do you plan on waiting before your next baby. Owen is my first and I am thinking about having another soon. I am wondering what you did or plan to do and why.
thanks in advance for the advice.
Sarah

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hey i want my children close together so we strated for another baby when my daughter was 6 months old, i am currently 3 months preg htey will be 15 months apart, i think when ever you are ready and when you want another is a good time!

Nichola - posted on 03/16/2009

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my son is my first and i know i want more....sometimes i feel like i want to try for another one now just because i loved being pregnant but prolly it will be 2 or 3 years before finacially i am ready and hopefully am married to haydens dad and will be ready to have another

Hannah - posted on 03/16/2009

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I am planning to have another baby within the next four years, my baby is 8 months right now. I had a younger sister who was four years younger than me and we were best friends and comrads, and at the same time i was able to mommy her a little we played all the time. I would like the same for my babies.

Mary - posted on 03/16/2009

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I have little miss Annabelle Claire who will be 4 tomorrow (March 17). Then I have Miley Mackenzey who will be 8 months tomorrow (July 17). I think they are the perfect age difference. We saw no jelousy with Anna when Miley was born and we still don't. I actually think it helped her, cause now she isn't so snoty!

I really don't want anymore, but my husband does. He wants to try for that boy! And it would make my father pround to have a grandson (beings he has 5 granddaughters in 3 years and no grandsons!) . I told my husband to not even mention another child until Miley is at least 2 years old. But the other day, I was feeling that I wanted another one, but 2 minutes later when Anna came running around the corner and Miley started crying, I rethought that moment! I had a rough pregnacey with Miley to. I was on bedrest for 18 weeks and on meds for contractions for 17 weeks. Also had very very bad reflux which I was on meds for from the beginning! So I think baby number 3 can wait awhile, I am in no hurry. I want to enjoy my time with my kids now.

Deborah - posted on 03/12/2009

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I have a three year old, and then I had Layla in July so their 27mths apart. Pretty nice, because I was really able to enjoy him. Yet not have to wait too long, we want one more and well probably start when she is 3yrs old. That way by the time I have the next one, she will be going to school. That is the plan!

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I want one more but not too sure yet what the boyfriend feels about it right now? I told him I wanted at least 2 kids when we met. He already has 2 teenage boys from his ex-wife soon to be I hope so we'll see. Don't get me wrong he loves our little girl so much, he is so happy to finally have a girl, but we will see how things turn out. If we do have one more I would like to try when she is about 18 months to 2 1/2 years.

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Quoting Lainie:



I want another child (not just yet), but my hubbie doesn't. Of course, he was barely ready for this one and couldn't be more in love with her.





We're the opposite! My hubby would love to have at least one more child, but I don't want anymore. My hubby says he'll be ok with whatever since I'm the one who has to do all the work (pregnancy & after).

Ldoo - posted on 03/10/2009

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I want another child (not just yet), but my hubbie doesn't. Of course, he was barely ready for this one and couldn't be more in love with her.

Sarah - posted on 03/10/2009

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Thanks to everyone for their advice.  I think I am going to try next month for baby #2.  I just feel ready and am excited about being pregnant again.  My two brothers and I are all 2-3 years apart and have great relationships.  It seems to be that 2-3 years is the general response and if I try next month they would be 18 months apart and 2 school years which I think will be ideal.  So as long as nothing changes financialy we will go ahead for #2 in April.  So thanks again...all responses really helped me make my decision.

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PS, I was and still too over weight right now to have another, for I also had a tough pregancy and she was very small. 4 lbs 12 ozs at her born and needed to be by specialist, so I had her in the next town from here to make that happen.

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My daughter is my first and I do plan to have another one in the next year or two. My sister and I are almost 5 yrs apart and missed a lot of things we could have done together if closer in age. I think that a 2-3 yrs apart is a good time frame, it also depends on your age too. I am now 34 and want to have my next one by 40. I wanted to have my kids before I was 30 but that didn't happen for I never met my boyfriend now till I was 31. 2 kids are a good number for they have each other to play with and learn from. This is my way of thinking.

Rachel - posted on 03/09/2009

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I fell pregnant when my daughter was just 3months old it was a very big shock, but sadly it was an eptopic pregnancy. i know dont plan on having another baby for at least 3yrs so hopefull i will still be able too. fingers crossed.

Jennifer - posted on 03/09/2009

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I plan on my baby girl being my only child. I had a really hard pregnancy, and I can't imagine going through that again. Also, I want to be able to provide my daughter with many opportunities in life that I didn't get to experience due to my parents having 3 kids.



And I can't imagine loving another baby as much as I love her! It is so nice focusing all my attention on her. Although I wouldn't be sad if we had a *surprise* baby. But having one is just so much easier!

Amy - posted on 03/08/2009

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Although I would like a 2 year age gap between children I just dont think I could do it, it would mean that I would be pregnant this time next year and running after a 1 1/2 year old I just dont think I could handle it.  I think if I wait to try for a 3 year gap my little girl will be completly potty trained so I dont have to worry about having to do that in my last trimester of pregnancy.



Having said that there is no way to know how she will react to having a new baby in the house.

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I have two boys and I don't  plan on having anymore children....but I keep going back and forth on that depending on how my day is going.  I think 2.5 years gap is perfect.  Mine are 25 months apart and it is very close.  Take the time to enjoy your baby and toddler.  Toddlers are a lot of work, especially when they are throwing tantrums every day....ie, my toddler.  It is very exhausting and time consuming  disciplining him.  Just take your time and don't rush it.  ENjoy every  minute of your baby being a baby.  You will know when the time is right.  Follow your gut.  Also, if you have the same sex baby the second time around it will be easier financially and if you don't wait too long most of the clothing and baby gear will not go out of style and you can reuse almost everything a second time.  That'll save you a bundle.

Karen - posted on 03/07/2009

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We are probably going to have another one, as well.  I want to have one pretty quickly due to my age, which is 37.  I just want my first son to be walking first.  I had a really rough pregnancy, so I can't imagine having to carry him around everywhere!  Good luck!

Karen - posted on 03/07/2009

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We are probably going to have another one, as well.  I want to have one pretty quickly due to my age, which is 37.  I just want my first son to be walking first.  I had a really rough pregnancy, so I can't imagine having to carry him around everywhere!  Good luck!

Caty - posted on 03/07/2009

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my 7 month old is #2 and she is just over 2 years younger than her big brother, we were planing on waiting about the same for baby #3 but got a big surprise and baby #3 is due in october

Caty - posted on 03/07/2009

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my 7 month old is #2 and she is just over 2 years younger than her big brother, we were planing on waiting about the same for baby #3 but got a big surprise and baby #3 is due in october

Jaime - posted on 03/06/2009

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my wee man was born in July when hes about one i want to try for one more but i may need up with twins as my mum is a twin and i have twin sisters

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I have 4 younger siblings, all 2 years apart and always felt 2 years was a really good spacing.  We are all really close and get along very well!   My husband and I only want 2 children and I'd like them to grow up feeling close and being able to participate in much of the same things, but we also have to think of when we will be financially ready for the next, so I'd say between 2-3 years difference.

Sandra - posted on 03/06/2009

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My daughter is also my first baby. I do not want her to be the only child, and i think the best time is about 2 to 2.5 years. My sister and I were always together and we are less than two years apart. Plus the good thing about having them together is not having "forgotten" the diaper changes, and the not sleeping part and have it all out of the way...

Bethany - posted on 03/06/2009

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I like a three year age gap...I'm sort of like Alycia- I'd like my first to be potty trained and walking and talking and did I mention potty trained?!? haha! Although I've heard from some "expert" source that two years is ideal because the first is too young to really have the jealousy that can happen older---but I'm not sure that's accurate at all!

Alycia- I also really like your reason of enjoying the infant/toddler stage as much as possible- I hadn't really thought of it like that but I agree! :~)

PS- I was at a meeting once and a girl was talking about how she was "planning" on having a baby...these two old ladies behind me thought it was so funny that "the girls these days" plan their children! That was over 10 years ago and it still makes me smile to think of those sweet old biddies! :~D They would certainly be laughing at us- except they probably wouldn't have internet! haha!

Denise - posted on 03/06/2009

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Ava is my first baby also. I'm 36 years old so we plan on trying after Ava's first birthday (just a couple of months away!) and hopefully I'll get preggers right away!

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My July guy is our first. I plan on never physically having another one for a number of reasons, but mainly because I want my son to have as many opportunities as possible as well as I want to get back to my goals in life. If we do have another child, it won't be for years until we can afford to adopt. For us, it mainly comes down to finances. In order to give our son the best opportunities, it will probably be the least financial strain to just have one.

Alycia - posted on 03/06/2009

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My son Gabriel is my first...if I can control the circumstances I "plan" on another one in four to five years. I have many reasons why but in particular two reasons that stand out for me; 1)I want to enjoy him being a baby and toddler it's the most fun stage and then have him old enough to be more self sufficient so I can also enjoy the next one being a baby and toddler in relatively the same way, 2) My younger sister and I are seven years apart and although growing up we didn't have lots in common we learned so much from one another and now that we are older she is my best friend in the world so I feel like the age gap was good for us but that's just me :D!

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