8 month old not holding bottle by himself. And What about the melt away snacks?

Cindy - posted on 03/20/2010 ( 27 moms have responded )

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My son is 8 months old and I've tried to get him to hold the bottle and he just doesn't seem to want to do it. Yes I've used the sippy cup bottles with the handles but he just doesnt get it! My sister-inlaw keeps saying he should be holding the bottle all by himself by 6 or 7 months, she even wants to give me the old sippy cups her kids used when they were babies, and they are now 3 and 5 years old (ewww old chewed up sippy cups) I mean of course I appreciate the help LOL. But what I figure is that every baby starts different things at different times, not all babies are the exact same.

I mean, he will eventually do it right? So am I worrying too much?
What about those melt away snacks for babies 6 months and older, when did u start giving your baby those melt away snacks, and do you think they would be a choking hazard for an 8 month old?

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Soni - posted on 03/21/2010

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HI Cindy,

I guess we both are sailing on the same boat. My son is 8 months old too and he is not holding the bottle by himself too. I have tried a lot with him but he does not seem to like holding it. I am just giving some time to him, and i think eventually he will start holding it.

Vicki - posted on 03/20/2010

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I think the baby holding bottle themselves is a bizarre milestone, I don't understand why people worry about it? Like you've said in the OP, they start things at different times, you are worrying too much.

Melt away snacks sound creepy to me. There's no real food I can think of that just 'melts away', so there would have had to be some scary processing going on. We just feed our baby real food and keep a close eye on him. Remember gagging (coughing and spluttering then spitting up something) is NOT the same thing as choking (going blue, unable to breath). Gagging is a normal reaction in babies as they are getting used to chewing and swallowing food.

Amy - posted on 03/20/2010

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my little girl is almost 8.5 months and she was holding her bottle for a little while, but has now decided she wants mommy and daddy to do it for her :-) she does ok with the sippy cup, but again it's a sometimes thing with her. you are exactly right, every baby gets the hang of things at their own pace and at their own time. its nice to see what other babies are doing that are around the same age as yours, but at the end of the day all that really matters is how your little one is doing...our daughter has just started getting the hang of crawling, but doesnt want to sit up on her own...she just flops over on the floor so she can move around (now that she's mobile she doenst like to sit)...as far as the snack puffs go i have just started giving my daughter those (i was worried about the same thing with the choking) but so far so good. she puts them in her hands, sucks on it then plays with it then eats it. they do melt, but not as quick as i would like ( i actually eat them too cause i like them)

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Michelle - posted on 03/26/2010

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don't stress about it. Mine is nearly 9 months and can not hold it by himself. They all develop at different levels and he will when he is ready. As long as he is progressing in other stages (ie crawling, siting up, etc) I also worry about choking hazards and mine still has pureed food (he only has 2 breastfeeds in a 24 hour period now). Whenever I try mash he gags on every mouthful regardless how small it is. I give him rusks which he naws down (has 2 bottom teeth) but am a bit hesitant on the melt away rusks. Is yours okay with mash food - if so, should be fine as would know that if it is a "big" piece that it needs to be chewed. Don't listen to much to your sister in law in this case - he will get there. Spend this time enjoying him, not what he can't do. Before we know it they won't be wanting cuddles or kisses but the keys to the car. :-)

Danielle - posted on 03/26/2010

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my sons 8.5 months, he did start holding the bottle and sippy cups at around 6 months, then just decided not to do it by himself at 7 months. he will now occasionally hold it himself when he feels like it. i wouldnt worry about them holding it themselves all babies develop at different stages. babies gagging with food is a natural response as they just need to get used to it. my son loves quavers and banannas. i just gave my son little bits of finger foods and watched him closley, he eventually got used to it.

Maridee - posted on 03/26/2010

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same here... i thought my son's too lazy to hold his bottle @ 8months, then i realized that i should give him more time to cope since he's used to breastfeeding. I only introduced him the bottle (with water) when i started feeding him mashed veggies...

Karrie - posted on 03/24/2010

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I wouldnt worry that baby isnt holding the bottle/sippy cup. My son (8mths) can hold them, but unless he is in his car seat, he cant actually drink from it, as he doesnt get the idea that he needs to tip them up, he would suck on it, and wonder why he couldnt get his water. I bought him a drinking cup with a straw, even though it says 12mths+, and he mastered it straight away.

Rachel - posted on 03/23/2010

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My son is also 8 months old and not holding the bottle but he is doing a lot of things that other babies in my mothers group are not doing. Im not worried he will do it when he is ready.I still dont believe that as new mums people are still trying to tell us what and when OUR babies should or should not be doing.Dont they remember what it was like as a new mum?????

Peta - posted on 03/23/2010

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My daughter is almost 9mths old and wont hold her own bottle. I think she enjoys the cuddles while I'm feeding her :) She has been very forward in everything else - crawling at 6.5mths and furniture walking 8.5mths, but still wont hold bottle. ALthough she will grab onto it to chew on the teat but not drink :(
Every child is different and i am not worried about it.

Kianna - posted on 03/23/2010

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My son just turned 8 months 3 days ago and has been holding his own bottles fluently since he as about 5 months old. He does pretty well with his sippy cup as well. Each child is different...your son will eventually do it on his own when he is ready. Just continue to show him how he is suppose to hold his bottle and sippy cup.

Kristen - posted on 03/23/2010

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I have 7 1/2 month old twins. My son has been holding his bottle for about 2 weeks now and my daughter wants no part of it. Don't worry, each child develops at his/her own pace.

With those melt away things, as long as they are sitting up, I don't think they'll choke. Just don't give it to them when they are laying down.

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My almost 8 month old son will occasionally hold his bottle... but mostly would like mom and dad to do it. :-) He will hold a sippy cup with the big handles but really likes to chew on it more than drink from it. As far as meltaway snacks, he hasn't choked but they seem harder for him to eat than a rice cracker or the puff snacks. I also gave him a biter bisquit and he really seemed to like that- but I always have him in the high chair because I think he'd choke if he were not sitting completely upright. I think kids just do things on their own time schedule... and each schedule is different. I try not to worry too much about the little things- I think all kids reach the big milestones eventually and then all of these days of worry are wasted days. Hope you're enjoying mommyhood- this is my first baby and although the days ( & nights!!!) can sometimes be LONG, I'm loving it.

Rachel - posted on 03/23/2010

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I started my daughter on the melt aways when she just turned 7 months....i bought them and tried them first to see how fast they would melt, she loves them! they melt really fast. they also have a yogert melt aways. and there are those cheedo style chips for babys, they are not melt aways but the do go mushy really fast and she loves them, i would break them up in halfs but now shes eatting them whole and shes 8.5 months. i test all her solid foods first to see if they melt fast enough to give her.....i dont chew them just hold in the mouth and move alittle with my tounge, even though shes has her two bottom teeth, i just want to make sure its safe!

as to the bottle, she wont hold hers to drink but will to chew on the nipple.....she hasnt figured out how to tillt it to get her juice!

Jessie - posted on 03/23/2010

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my child is 8 months. as far as I know he does not hold a bottle by himself. however he is strictly breastfed 90+% of the time. he only gets a bottle when I am at work part time, never from me. He is really starting to get the hang of his sippy cup but it did take awhile. I just put him in his high chair a little while each day to watch me while I do dishes and cook etc and give him a little bit of watered down juice to practice with. mostly he threw it around and got the wrong end in his mouth at first but know is doing well. I plan to ditch the bottle altogether in a month or so :) practice makes perfect with everything and they will figure it out when they are ready with practice!

Rinel - posted on 03/23/2010

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My eldest son (now 3 and a half) didn't hold a bottle himself until almost 2 years of age. And there's nothing wrong with him, he is highly intelligent, he just likes to involve the people he loves in whatever he is doing. My 8 month old has started holding the sippy cup by himself at 7 months. Babies is just different, not one is the same.

Shalaina - posted on 03/22/2010

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I agree that all babies are different. My son was holding his bottle for a long time, we were actually surprised but I'm sure your son is doing something mine isn't. They all grow so differently, it is interesting really! He will get it! Maybe he likes being pampered =) Definitely don't worry about it.
I have tried the Gerber puffs and he acted like he was choking on them. He didn't like the texture or anything about them. He doesn't have teeth to chew so we thought they would be good for him....but we are not trying that again for awhile!

Lesley - posted on 03/22/2010

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My son will not hold a bottle at home, but will do it at daycare...go figure. I think that all babies do things at their own time, so don't worry...just keep trying. As for the melt away snacks they are wonderful! My son likes the puffs and the cheese crunchies...just give 1 at a time and keep an eye out.

Agnes - posted on 03/22/2010

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my baby can hold a bottle and sippy cup but she cannot lift it up all the way and sometimes she's so lazy to hold the bottle it seems like she knows I'm there to hold it for her. :) I started giving her melted snacks on her 7 months. She likes eating rice too w/ soup and cooked vegetable (chopped or mashed) or chicken (broken into little tiny tiny pieces in soup).

Vicky - posted on 03/22/2010

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My girl is 8 months born 7/10/09. She just started holding her bottle last month (mid February), but still prefers for us to hold it for her. What I do is wait till she complains because shes hungry, put a 1/2 filled bottle (so it's not so heavy) between her legs when I sit her on the floor/couch and she stops crying when she sees the bottle in front of her. She then picks it up and puts it to her mouth. She still doesnt get the whole gravity thing yet, but she does put it to her mouth, when she has it to her mouth I'll put my hand behind her back and slowly lay her down flat on the floor and she'll usually drink it like that from there.



And a friend of mine gave me some disolving cherry flavored mini crackers just 2 weeks ago, I didnt know these things even existed. She didnt like them much at first but shes getting the hang of it now. She likes to taste it and spit it out once its deflated/desolved hehe. I think it's good to give her different textures though.

Devin - posted on 03/22/2010

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My son just turned 8 months on friday and he started holding his bottle by himself at 4 months. I also started him on those melt away snacks and puffs early i want to say about 5 or 6 months..But he also had 3 or 4 teeth at that age to so we thought he was ready for them. He will hold the bottle when he is ready i wouldnt worry to much. For sippy cups my son is starting to get used to it now..A good melt aways snakc is yogurt melts my son LOVES them. And yes babies start things at there own time. When they are ready they will do what they want. My son hasnt started crawling yet he could if he wanted. But he is already trying to pull him self up and when standing by himself next to our table he tries to walk, So i think he will skip crawling and try walking.

Kaylynn - posted on 03/22/2010

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i was giving my son puffs and the yogurt melt aways at four months and all i did to make sure he didnt choke was to make him smile while he had them in his mouth so they melted more in his mouth and then he would squish it with his gums, my son will be 8 months on thursday and he eats toddler meals...just try stuff it'll tell you where you baby is as far as eating snacks and things. and as far as the sippy cups, my son doesnt hold his bottle either and the only way i got him to try the sippy cup was to set him on the floor w his toys and a sippy cup and he started slowly picking it up and chewing on it. oh and my son also refused the hard plastic sippy cups and i just recently found an amazing sippy cup...its made by pampers and it has a soft tip like a bottle but with the handles and he loves it...hope that helps!!

Gabriella - posted on 03/22/2010

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I'm so happy I'm not the only one whose baby isn't holding a cup by herself. I'd like her to do this, but she also doesn't get the concept. I'm wondering when she will finally do this as I'd like to her drink from a sippy cup by the time she's 10 months. We'll be going on holiday then and if she can do things more independently it would make things easier on my husband and I.

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maybe he just wants mommys help (: every baby is different.. my daughter loves playing with her sippy.. and the puff snacks are GREAT. i like them too.. and they do desolve fast, i've been giving them to her for months now. of course at first i broke them in half, but finally shes able to chew the whole thing.. shes now starting to pick them up and put in mouth.. but im always there to watch her (:

Amy - posted on 03/21/2010

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My daughter is 8 months old and she is not holding the bottle herself at this time either. She has recently started holding it to check it out, but she doesn't even come close to putting it in her mouth...

As far as the "melting" snacks, I bought some but I am holding off on giving them to her for a little bit longer. I don't want them to become a regular food item for her because I don't really see how they could be "good" for her. My intention is to use them more for convenience food when traveling if necessary.

Jacey - posted on 03/21/2010

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my son knows how to hold it but doesnt want to, i figure he will eventually when he wants to, im working on it with him but dont worry too much, he'll do it in his own time. and i just started the melt aways a couple weeks ago, at first i would suck on them first to make them softer and give them to him he got used to them and now he loves them!

Lexi - posted on 03/21/2010

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I agree, ewww to the ancient sippy cups! You are right, every baby does things at different times. He will get there eventually. If it really worries you, you could ask your doctor, just to be reassured. My son loves holding on to the handled tippy cups but he wont really hold a regular bottle (we use the heavy glass ones so the tippy cup weighs a lot less). He took his sweet time being ready for solid foods though. He didn't figure out how to keep those in his mouth and swallow until about 6.5 months. Now at 8 months he is chowing down on the stage one and cereals but still not ready for a lot of the thicker, chunkier foods. He loves the melt away snacks tho, we started them at about 7.5 months. He only eats them supervised tho just in case but he gets such a kick out of being able to eat them all by himself!

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