baby boycotted nursing!

Heidi - posted on 03/03/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

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So my almost 8 month old son who has been breastfed almost exclusively decided on Saturday that he just absolutely will not breastfeed anymore. He got mad when I tried, he is just loving the bottle!

Anyways I'm having some issues adjusting to this change for one because the obvious lack of nursing and two I feel judged giving him a bottle in public.

Any advice would be fantastic!

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Michelle - posted on 03/04/2010

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My little man has also just stopped breastfeeding. I feel sad that he prefers the bottle, but the beautiful thing is, when i give him the bottle, he still looks up into my eyes and we still share that special moment. I'm wrapped that i was able to give him the best start in life for 7months. Who cares what anyone else thinks!!

Brandy - posted on 03/04/2010

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I am confused why you would feel judged about using a bottle...how would anyone know what is in the bottle? It could be breastmilk that you pumped...and I am pretty sure no one cares how you feed your baby but you...that is just you being self-conscience.I would not worry about everyone else. I have not breastfeed since I went back to work and really enjoy the freedom of the formula/bottle.

Amy - posted on 03/03/2010

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I always felt judged in public when I pulled out a bottle but since I physically cannot breastfeed I had to realize that I'm not less of a mother because I give my baby a bottle. People can judge me all they want but until they have to deal with my issues then they have no right. I still love my child, I still had the bonding that i beleive other moms go through and I loved the fact that at 6 months of age that I could leave my child overnight not go through withdrawls and not have to worry about my child. I also love the fact that I can give my baby a bottle and still get other things done because she can hold it herself. Maybe I'm a little too pro bottle but I've never been able to do anything else.

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Terise - posted on 03/18/2010

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I think to make it to 8 months is a great achievment! Like someone else mentioned above, I sometimes feel the opposite to you, when I'm out and breastfeeding my 8month old, people think I'm strange for still breastfeeding. So no matter what you do, you'll never win. Best to ignore any silly judgmental people and concentrate on enjoying these special times that will pass way too soon.

Nina - posted on 03/17/2010

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My daughter only made it a few weeks and then refused, but I know how you felt being judged giving him a bottle. With the rise in breastfeeding I felt awful and I felt like everyone was staring at me for being a terrible mom. What are you supposed to do though? Let them starve?

Tammy - posted on 03/12/2010

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my dd is 7 1/2 months she wtill nurses sometimes, but she now has 2 teeth & emjoys biting. Being judged in public by either bottle feeding or nursing your baby should really not effect u. I had someone tell me that nursing my baby in public (with a blanket covering both her & I) was disgusting. I replied with well, u eat in public & chewing with your mouth open is disgusting. She couldn't respond. It is whatever u feel most comfortable doing. Your baby needs to eat either way whether in public or not, dont fret over what others may thinks.. good Luck

Franchesca - posted on 03/12/2010

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My daughter was 2 month premature. She couldn't nurse. I pumped diligently day and night because I was only getting enough to feed her (plus I was tired!). So for 2 months I pumped exclusively. Then she just went ahead and latched on like a champ. It was great. So pump, pump pump! But I also find that she will sometimes refuse the breast now. Sometimes she will refuse the bottle (she is fed breast and formula depending on who's feeding her). When she refuses the breast I know it's because she doesn't like what I have at the moment. Too much food she doesn't like in my diet usually. Tends to go away pretty quickly.

Kelli - posted on 03/12/2010

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My 8 month old did the same one day but wanted to nurse to go down for her naps, which is something she never did. She literally gave me the milk sign then pulled my shirt down and attached herself. Now, however she figured out it was a great way to go to sleep and she is completely dependent on nursing or just sucking to go to sleep! I don't know how to break her of this. She use to go down with a bit of rocking and maybe a pacifier if need be. Now she won't even take the pacifier, she pushes it away and cries!! She is back to nursing fine on a regular basis, just at nap times.

Melissa - posted on 03/12/2010

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I had the same issue. dont feel bad. Here to find out my baby had reflux. The pediatrician told me that lying flat was upsetting his belly.

Cat - posted on 03/11/2010

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My boy did that at 4 and a half months. He would get a bottle of formula once a day and bottles of expressed milk sometimes, and he could hold his own bottle at that stage. I took him to the nurse and he said that sometimes (escpecially in boys) they have an independant streak and that is often the first thing they can control, he said it was more common around 8 months, but perhaps my boy was going to be a stubborn one. I was lucky a number of women in my mothers group were not breastfeeding and it made it easier on me and i didnt feel judged....it has also made going back to work easy and now that he is 7 and a half months he even shakes his own bottle now and will not accept help when drinking except if the bottle rolls too far away. He sometimes falls asleep and keeps holding it and drinking...so cute.

Heidi - posted on 03/08/2010

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hey ladies thanks for all your comments!

K he was the same way like angry when I tried...he is now totally on the bottle not even a night feeding here and there...

Amy it definately has its benefits I must agree, we have 2 kids from my mans first relationship half the time so with all their running around it does help to have a bottle with me.

Self weaning probably made it so much easier but I just totally was not expecting nor ready for him to be done!

Thanks for everything ladies!!

Kierre - posted on 03/07/2010

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Thank You to all that have posted here. I was feeling so bad and like it was just ME. everything I read was so encouraging to me, thank you for being out there and sharing.

Kierre - posted on 03/07/2010

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I am having the SAME issue!! My 4th baby was born July 24th 2009. I feel like he is someone else's baby because NONE of his siblings were like this. He fusses at the breast and actually gets MAD, this in turn makes me anxious and I feel like crying. I was given some formula to try and get some weight on him since he is hard to feed solids as well. HE LOVE's the bottle!!! I feel so dejected and like I am failing him. I too have the 'look' from others if I give him a bottle in public and am embarrassed to do so, but I have to remind myself that he is hungry and that we did breast feed for 7 months!!
My only saving grace is that in the wee hours of the morning I can breast feed him while he is in that half awake half sleeping space. I enjoy every minute of it!! I will continue to offer the breast first but not allow what others may think of me to withhold nourishment . Good lUck

Amy - posted on 03/07/2010

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My 7.5 month old just did the same thing! but we live a very active life style, so actually I find that bottle feeding him is a lot easier. My husband enjoys it too because now he feels like he has a more active role in feedings, and bonding. Also, at night it makes it a relief because my husband can feed him and let me get extra needed sleep! Don't let people judge you for feeding through a bottle, you did a great job breast feeding for 8 months.

Di - posted on 03/06/2010

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My 8 month old baby girl is the same. Just this weekend she is refusing the breast. I've had to give her formula for her milk feeds now. The only time I get to breastfeed her is early mornings now. She's just decided to self wean. Which I was planning to do and have been talking about it since she was 6 months old, but wasn't expecting her to take the lead. I'd say roll with it. You have a clever little boy on your hands. I think as long as they are getting the nutrients they need, it shouldn't matter how they get it.

Payal - posted on 03/06/2010

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both my babies have left at the 8th month so i guess its good for us and less stressful when they leave on their own rather than us putting in extra effort to leave when they turn 2 yrs old so dont get worried be happy and i guess life it too short to get these small things occupy you other than that concentrate on how to be more frndly with your kid. so just chill and enjoy each and every step as and when it comes.

Kirsty-Lee - posted on 03/06/2010

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I couldn't breast feed and it totally destroyed me. I ended up with post-natal depression becasue I was so obsessed with what other ppl thought. PLease don't do this to yourself. You've acheived 8 months I only made it 7days! I still hold my son close to me when he feeds so its like breastfeeding, gaze into his eyes and tell him i love him. It took me months to get over it, please don't do this to yourself!

All the best, Kirsty

Amy - posted on 03/06/2010

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you have given him the best start in life and i think now is a healthy time to stop breast feeding, he will get everything he needs from his food and formula. don't worry what other people think, it's you and your baby that matter. i do think it would be wierd to breastfeed a 2 year old though, and i think a lot of people would agree.

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Just pump! If you really are worried about what people think or say about how you feed him, than bring the milk in a stored breastmilk bag and pour it in the bottle when you are out. But don't worry if he has a bottle or not. To be honest, I totally find myself judging my friends and others when they say they didn't breastfeed, or didn't want to, or it hurt, or whatever.. i know I shouldn't but I do. I think some moms take the easy way out. I do know that some moms are just unable to. but I would just pump if you are worried about the bonding, or the health, or money you'll be spending on formula.

SHARON - posted on 03/05/2010

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Could it be something that you ate? Maybe it upset his tummy and that is why he didn't want to nurse. Get a pump and put breast milk in the bottle. who cares what people think....

Erinne - posted on 03/05/2010

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Kate, actually, the WHO says 2 years!
I would seriously consider giving up the bottle entirely. As long as he has the option, he might take it, so just offer the breast only. Eventually, he will take it. If you keep giving him the bottle, your supply will suffer, making only more difficult for him to nurse. If he won't nurse at the times he usually does, I'd pump just to keep the supply up.
Good luck and check out kellymom.com for good nursing advice. They have info on nursing strikes too, which is what sounds like is happening to you.

Kate - posted on 03/04/2010

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where do you live? in south africa, everyone seems to think breastfeeding an 8 month old is wierd. I feel embarrassed telling people that I still breastfeed which is so sad because the WHO says to breastfeed for at least a year if possible. I guess we all spend too much time worrying about what other people will think. Sounds like you have your sons best interests at heart and right now what he obviously needs from you is a bottle.

Mandy - posted on 03/04/2010

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I know how you feel--my guy is the same age, and he's decided that the only time he wants to nurse is at night. It is hard, but you'll adjust soon enough. Sometimes a warm shower helps with the tenderness.



As to feeling judged in public? As a parent, you will always be judged for what your kids do and how you are raising them. Just try to remember that the opinion of every random person you meet doesn't matter (which I know is easier said than done), and that your little boy will be just fine with the bottle! Good luck!

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