Feeling Guilty

Rachel - posted on 09/03/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Before giving birth to my son, I had only intended to breastfeed him for the 6-8 weeks I was on maternity leave. However, after he was born, my husband and I decided it was easy enough for me to pump when I went back to work and that I would continue to do so until the baby was 6 months old. Well, a few days ago I went to pump, and after 15 minutes, produced a whopping 1.5 oz (vs. 6)! I have now completely dried up, and am feeling so guilty that I am no longer able to produce milk for my son!! It's funny, because like I said, it was never something I had intended to do longterm, but now that I'm not able to, I feel horrible! Is anyone else experiencing this?

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Tracy - posted on 09/03/2009

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I'm currently breastfeed too and have to start pumping ASAP to get some saved up for when I go back to work. I agree that it is really hard because you are suppose to pump usually right after the baby eats (because you milk drops on both sides at the same time), but it takes me awhile to get him to go to sleep after feeding or he is up and needs to be watched. It had passed my mind just to go to formula when I go back to work because it would be so much easier, but then I saw how much formula costs... now I'm just going to have to put my foot down and make some time to do it. Regarding the amount you get each time, don't worry sometimes you will only get 1 oz and the next time 4oz! Try later at night or even when you feed him in the middle of night that is when you are producing the most amount. Also, if you feel like you have "dried up" then just pump (5min) every time you feed him with the bottle and/or breast and your body will start producing more milk. Now it isn't instant so it might 3-4 days before you produce the amount you would like. If that doesn't work then I would contact you Dr. and I know there are some supplements that can help you produce more. I wouldn't feel guilty at all because I don't think anybody prepares a new mom for how demanding breastfeeding is going to be, but don't give up!

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Stacy - posted on 09/05/2009

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I am pumping now (my son is 5weeks) and intend to continue when I return to work. How old is your little one? Do you have a hospital-grade double pump? There are so many factors that affect your pumping production. If you are still breastfeeding, you haven't dried up. Babies are way more efficient than the pump, so your baby is always getting more than the pump can. Best time to pump is in the morning, you tend to have more milk in the AM. Also, you could try pumping while you are nursing. Pump the side that the baby isn't nursing at...this "tricks" your body into thinking you are nursing twins and you will get a better let down on the other side when your baby nurses. 1 1/2 oz. isn't too shabby if you are pumping after the baby nurses. Sometimes I only get 1 oz. It takes time...be patient and don't give up! Good luck

Rachel - posted on 09/04/2009

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I can't thank you ladies enough for your input! After reading all of your advice, I'm definitely feeling better about my situation...I was just starting to feel guilty because it seems I'm surrounded by lots of pro-breastfeeding friends who were able to do so for a long time (one did it for 22 months...not my goal by any means!!) And I guess it's not such a bad thing to be done breastfeeding...I still have some stored in the freezer so he can still have some each day, plus I developed fibroids when I was pregnant that they needed me to be done breastfeeding to start treatment of those. THANK YOU!!!

Iysha - posted on 09/03/2009

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I actually stopped breastfeeding and pumping by the 5th week after my daughter was born. It was just way too time consuming, challenging(she was in the NICU for 17 days and was having issues with breastfeeding) and just inconvenient. Sometimes I feel guilty because I know I could have worked on it but just got tired of it. Everyone sees giving formula as a bad thing. I actually think it's great. I don't have to worry about my baby getting the proper nutrition because formula has everything she needs to grow healthy. I don't have to whip my breast out in public, just carry a bottle of sterile water at room temp in the diaper bag with a container with a serving of formula. I personally don't think it matters as long as your baby is being fed.

Tamara - posted on 09/03/2009

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i was unable to breastfeed because of pain. when i got home from the hospital i had no way of recreating the nice anglr the bed made and the effort of leaning forward while supporting my baby was both painful and exaughting and he refused to latch, I made it through the first day, but i refused to see my ittle one be hungry because of my bodies inabliity to cope

Jessica - posted on 09/03/2009

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I planned on breastfeeding for at least 6 weeks to 6 months. She never latched on. So I pumped for about 5 weeks. After about 5 weeks we decided to stop. We decided that because she would have these bouts of crying for hours on end starting at about midnight and sometimes it went until about 5 in the morning. I was afraid that it was something I did. It made me feel like a bad mom. When I was pumping though it seemed like I was getting less and less each time I pumped compared to when she was first born. I was able to get 12 to 20 oz. total each time I pumped. Then I was lucky if I was able to pump 5 oz total.

Danielle - posted on 09/03/2009

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Don't feel bad about not being able to do it. I tried to breastfeed in the hospital and was lucky enough to get my son to latch on for 20mins, but other than that 1 time, he just wouldn't take it, so i resorted to bottle feeding. Somethings are just not meant to be, and it's not as if bottle milk doesn't work, becasue my little one has gained nearly 3lbs in 6 weeks! Don't blame yourself, it's not your fault! xx

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