how can i get my baby to sleep longer?

Ashley - posted on 12/03/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )

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my baby girl is 4 months old and is still only falling asleep around 12am-1am and only sleep til 8 or 9 am. i really want to get her to sleep from 8 or9 pm to 8 am and i cant seem to do it. does anyone have any advice im desperate.

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Victoria - posted on 12/05/2009

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Unfortunately, every baby is different, so what works for one, may not work for another. I am a great believer in routine and a schedule. It doesn't work when they're barely a few weeks old, but it's completely expected at this age (our boy is 5 months on Dec 9th). Our Alexander goes to be bed after a lavender bath and feed at around 9/9.30pm every night. He will sometimes wake once at night, more because of his teething than being hungry, but will always wake up for the day between 6.15 - 7.15am every day. He has usually 3 naps, we put him down for up to an hour between 9.00 - 10.00am, then his long nap (up to 2 hours) is around 1.00 - 1.30pm, then a last nap of up to an hour around 6pm. It's sometime a little difficult to keep to this schedule, because we're out, so you need to have some flexibility sometimes. We write down how much sleep he gets, and never let him nap for more than a total of 4.15 hours a day. This means we often have to wake him from his naps, but I can tell you, it works great for us, and he seems to thrive on a schedule. You may want to try reading up on sleep for babies, a good book is "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth.

Alicia - posted on 12/05/2009

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My baby girl is now 21 weeks and from the time she was 5 weeks old I have given her a lavender bath and then a massage with lavender lotion every night and is in bed no later then 8pm every night and she has been sleeping through from 5 weeks.....Give it a try it might work...

Jennifer - posted on 12/05/2009

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how many naps is she taking through out the day? Is she sleeping in her own room and crib? My little girl is almost 5 months (on the 16th) and she usually is in bed by 9or 9:30pm sometimes earlier and sometimes abit later...she does wake up still through out the night (maybe 2 or 3 times), but usually falls right back to sleep with some cuddling. She wakes up anywhere between 6am or 7am and then falls asleep about in hour and half later. She takes about 3 or 4 20-40 minute naps during the day. I don't know what to tell ya really....besides every baby is different and just make sure her sleeping envirnoment is to her liking.

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Natalie - posted on 12/14/2009

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Hi,

My son goes to bed at 7:30pm but wont sleep any longer than 5 hours straight. He wakes at around 12am and then every 2-3 hours after that.

I would love him to sleep 8 hours straight! Lol.

He use to go to bed quite late also but ive slowly brought his bed time forward and its worked quite well. Although if you daughter goes to bed earlier she will probably not sleep through til 8-9am anymore but wake up earlier.

I started a bedtime routine, which is the same each night with bath, feed, play etc. and put him to be at 7:30pm or so. It would take a fair bit of effort to get him to sleep but each night gets easier. I started using a dummy and would stay with him and pat his bottom until he drifted off to sleep. Or sometimes i put him to bed, turn on his mobile, stick his dummy in and walk out. I keep repeating until he drifts off.

Goodluck!

Joanne - posted on 12/13/2009

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Well my Daughter is 5.5 months and has been on solids since she was 3.5 months in the hopes she would sleep all night but it has not worked. Every baby is different so one thing wont work for everybody. She has approx 100g of solids 3-4 times a day. I load her up before bed but still looks for about 100ml of bottle about 3 times a night. Sometimes I think I will never have a full night's sleep again! I've forgotten what it feels like!



silentnights.org My baby's sleep doctor's website might be helpful.

Bernadene - posted on 12/13/2009

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bath baby at about 19h00, message her body and feed her. She'll be asleep at probably 21h00 (latest) until maybe about 03h00 (feeding time) or not at all and then will sleep until about 9ish the next morning. At least this is my routine. Hope it works 4 u.

Vicki - posted on 12/13/2009

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Forget expectations and routines. Your baby is a primitive creature who reacts to needs not clocks. Take her to bed with you, let her feed from the all night milk bar whenever she wants and no one has to get out of bed. No crying, happy baby and mama.

Meredith - posted on 12/13/2009

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our daughter has slept thru the night since she was about 2-3 months.. i started a routine at one month of when i wanted her down.. she is always asleep by 8 everynight, without fail.. she gets a bath ((every 2-3 days)) and then a bottle ((in her room with the lights out)) then we turn on her mobile and close the door.. we start her routine at 7 ((she's a slow eater.. LOL)).. she naps twice a day.. once at about noon for about 2 hours and then again at 5 for about 2 hours.. if she cries when we put her down we allow her to do so for about 30 mins.. if she hasn't soothed herself by then we go in to see what's wrong.. but that doesn't happen anymore.. my sister told me the secret to a sleeping baby is a WARM baby.. this works for us! I'd give it a try and see if it does for you! stick with it.. you're the parent, not her.. you tell her when it's bedtime.. she'll catch on! :) good luck!

Ryen - posted on 12/13/2009

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My son is now 5 months old, and he has been sleeping from 6pm til about 7 or 8 am since he was in his late 3rd month. My son however is a big time belly sleeper, I was nervous at first letting him sleep that way but it has been no problem. Good luck!

Lindsay - posted on 12/13/2009

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Every child is different. I breast feed and my 4 1/2 month old is still up every 3-4 hours. She just started rice cereal this week but so far no real change in her sleep. She seems to sleep the best between 2 am till the morning for some reason. Which would be great if I dint have to get up at 5:30!! ANyway, good luck!!!

Amber - posted on 12/13/2009

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Well my little girl is 5 months and she sleeps through the night every night !!! Here is some advice for you !!! :) Give her or him a bottle get them full !!! Then give her or him a bath in warm water !!! I sit in the bath with my little girl and fill it up until the water isnt warm anymore and just pour the water over her or his body over and over. Then get them out and put a diaper on them and they should sleep all night mine does !!! but i also feed her around 8 and then she is in bed by 9 sound asleep until 7 in the morning !!! it has worked on her since she came home from the hospital minus the bath until she was able to :) !!!! HOPE THIS HELPS

Heather - posted on 12/13/2009

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Hi Ashley. I had a lovely friend give me a book 'save our sleep' by Tizzie Hall and it was a godsend. It gives you general ideas for self settling and getting bubs to sleep more at night. My Claire still isn't sleeping all the way through the night but sleeps most night from 6.30pm - 4am.

Angela - posted on 12/11/2009

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my son is 5 months he sleep threw the whole night no matter what he goes to bed at like 7pm and wakes up at like 7am or 8 and i have to older kids too in the house but he does sleep no matter what u give him a bath with that shampoo and lotion too thats works and give him cereal with is milk before he goes too bed that might work too

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my baby is 4 months also and I read somewhere that newborns up to 6 months can sleep at least up to 6 hrs and be up 2 hrs at a time at the most so I usually count the time she's awake, anticipating the 2 hr period where I can go back 2 sleep. Now the awake periods are shorter thanks 2 baby cereal which is recommended at 4 mths.Also tiring out children works for newborns 2. Create a routine that also includes a rotation of a fun bouncer, a mat for tummy and back time, a swing, and a vibrating bouncer, and peek-a-boo and some loving arms in between, a good bath, a full tummy, clean bed linens and watch them sleep like you've never seen, That works for almost every child. Sounds like alot but routines that involves lots movement and busy ness makes infants and toddlers exhausted!

Lakiasha - posted on 12/09/2009

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My 4 mon old son is going to sleep around 11:30p and won't awake until 7am and I think that is wonderful. I don't think they will sleep longer than that. In my opinion I wouldnt want my baby to sleep longer cause he may not take a nap during the afternoon when I am trying to clean or cook.

Ashley - posted on 12/08/2009

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Gerber apple juice mixed with cereal has truly been our salvation. My son is 5 months old and since we started giving him that before bedtime he has slept from 9pm-8am without waking up. He might awake once during the night for a moment but goes right back to sleep.

Rebecca - posted on 12/06/2009

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I agree with routine...and self settling. I didn't before but was getting stressed because Dante was waking more and more through the night. 5 days ago I started to put my baby to bed around 7pm. He still wakes 3 times for a feed but goes straight back to sleep. He was waking up to 5 or 6 times!! He has 2 sleeps and one nap per day( 4 hrs all up). All this seems to help him sleep better and he is less grizzly too. I couldnt stomach "Babywise" because the authors seem to be against any other method but "Save Our Sleep" by Tizzie Hall is making sense to me and my baby.
All the best

Alison - posted on 12/05/2009

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have the baby sleep with loud noises all around and a light blanket over their head i know it sounds weird, but it really works

Kristina - posted on 12/05/2009

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Read the book "on Becoming Baby Wise" by Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam. My little girl started sleeping from 11 pm to 6 am by 7 weeks. by the time she was 3 months, she slept from 8:30 to 8:00!!! Everyone I have talked to who has used the methods in this book swear by it

Stacey - posted on 12/04/2009

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My daughter is 4.5 months and barely sleeps that long so I'd say you're lucky. Mine is also breastfed which most say they will not sleep as long..I'm lucky if I get 5-6 hours but even that's rare. My 1st 2 were great sleepers so hopefully this one will be soon too.

Chelsea - posted on 12/04/2009

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Mine is 4 1/2 months and wakes up 3 times a night still, so 7 hours sounds good! my ped. told us when they start eating solid foods they usually can sleep longer, hasnt worked for us yet but were hoping

Kristen - posted on 12/04/2009

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lol mine does the same thing.sorry i have no advice for you but your not alone :)

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