Can't take it anymore...need advice please

Charlotte - posted on 10/29/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son is 14 weeks old (3 months and 1 week) and is EBF and wakes up every hour at night, sometimes every 2 (which I can handle). He wakes up with bad gas pains. I feel so bad for him, he is not getting much sleep and to me seems like he is overtired. He isn't napping much during the day either. His naps last 30 to 40 minutes (approx.3 naps a day). This has been going on since he was about 3 weeks old. I thought it might be his immature digestive tract and it would get better as he got older, but it is still the same now at 3 months and I am worried if there is something seriously wrong with him. He seems fine during the actual bowel movements, it's just getting up to the point of the movement. I have cut out dairy in my diet and hardly eat any green vegetables as I am afraid it is giving him gas. Every time we go to the doctor they don't seem like it is a big deal and tell me to give him gas drops. I have given him gas drops in the past and they seemed like they never worked, he still was waking up with gas pain. I just don't know what to do anymore for him. When he wakes I sway him back to sleep and he is asleep in 5 minutes but back up again in an hour. Did anyone else have this problem or know someone that did or is there just something seriously wrong with my kid? Advice please.

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Samantha - posted on 11/13/2012

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I would think formula would give a baby more digestive problems as it is harder to digest than breastmilk. I would try holding his knees up to his chest, doing bicycle motions with his legs, and tummy time (laying down with him on your tummy works too, mine would always burp the minute I did that!) Also, try a tea made with fennel seeds and chamomile. Just put a little bit, less than a teaspoon, in with a little breast milk and give it to him with a spoon or whatever. Fennel is really great for their tummies and chamomile calms them. And those are the main ingredients in gripe water, so it's safe.

Kelsie - posted on 11/10/2012

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I would agree with Kathy....try formula and see how your son reacts. I know women who still had some issues with their babies having a reaction to their breast milk even after cutting out dairy and other foods that could potentially upset their babies tummies. This doesn't necessarily mean you will have to give up on BFing but if you are feeling helpless just try out the formula idea. I would start by giving it to him before bed and see how long he sleeps and see how he reacts once he does wake up or begins to have a bowel movement. Hopefully this will give you some extra much needed rest, sometimes just getting that extra hour means ALL the difference and you may have a more clear head to try and find a solution for your little one.

Amber - posted on 11/05/2012

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my first child had colic, which sound similar to what you are describing. we used gripe water, it seemed to help some. he was bf for 2 months and formula after that. my july baby is efb and gets really fussy when he has gas or needs to poop i usually lay him on his back and bring his knees up to his chest, this seems to help get the gas out (this helped with my older as well)

Kaska - posted on 10/31/2012

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I had very similar with my boy but main problem was the formula. Gas drops were making things worse though. Instead of helping passing gases it was turning them into burps and he was waking up crying all the time. I was Bing as well for over 2 months but had many problems and in the end gave up and started formula entirely. If that frustrates you a lot try to give him formula for a week and see if that changes anything. I know it sounds horrible, I was devastated when we had a problem with BF. I had a very strong reaction to midwife's and lactation consultant's suggestion to give myself a break for a few days. It done wonders though for my psyche and baby benefited from that. In the end of the day you have to look at what is best for the baby. He needs to get his sleep, be fed and happy. I would say express milk for a week and just freeze it and give him formula. Then you will know if it is his digestive system or your milk. If he still have gases you will know it is definitely his health and a change of doctor would be a good idea. With napping and sleeping - it changes all the time. My lil one used to wake up only 1-2 times during the night for feed - now he can do a few times. So I stopped feeding on demand and do 3-4 hrs apart. Started giving him cereal before sleep but it does not change anything at all with his sleeping time :) But at least he learned how to eat of the spoon. And it is not true that once you give them bottle they do not want to BF anymore. They will prefer BF as there is something happening in the brain giving them a pleasure, with bottle they just feed. Pleasure they get from physical contact. Is his BM soft? My son when entirely BF had a playdough kinda bit coming first before the softie and he was very grumpy a day before BM. Good luck and hopefully it will get better!

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