Thoughts about Circumcison...How did you decide and why???

Theresa - posted on 04/09/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My husband and i are expecting our first baby boy (after 4 beautiful girls) We have never had to debate this issue before..But how do you know which decision is right for your child? My Mother is very very dead set on me HAVING to get it done (she even offered to pay for it if our insurance doesn't cover it), But my husband feels it's not necessary (he is not done and has never had any problems) I do not know how i feel about it...I was always against it but i also have never had a boy before. i always felt it was unnecessary pain for a newborn. but now I'm not sure which would be better...which is easier to care for, or which my baby would prefer more when he gets older......lots of concerns and questions so i want to know, How did you make your decision for your son and why??

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Kaitlin - posted on 04/09/2012

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We're expecting our third boy in july as well. We circumcise our children. Just to warn you, people get crazy about topics like this, lol.

Basically, when it comes down to it, it's almost 50/50 of today's population that are or are not circumcised. There are no real benefits either way, though some people still think it's more 'clean' to get circumcised (though not true today). Some say women like it more if it is or isn't, but that's all hearsay too, and some people believe that a man has less feeling down there if he has been circ'd but, some just have less to being with. The pain for the newborn is just like any other prick they get- i've been there with them, and yes they cry, but nursing after made them completely happy and both did not react to touching/cleaning it even immediately after. 1 out of 10 circed babies/toddlers can have sticking issues- my first did but my second did not- this just means that you have to pull it back a little when you clean, but you have to do that if they aren't circ'd too, so it doesn't really matter there.

We had friends who had boys right before us, so I talked to them when making our decision with our first. They had no religious ties to it, and they decided that it would be easiest to 'look like' daddy- who was not circ'd. So they didn't.

For us, we are Christians but are very into our roots, so that was a small part of it, but we also ended up with a 'look like daddy' type decision- so we did.

Honestly, the only downer is that it DOES hurt more and have a longer recovery (versus nearly no recovery when an infant) if your son wants it done later in life. But really, that would be his own choice anyway. Don't worry about it- it's not a huge deal.

I hope this helps! Don't let anyone tell you that you're doing the wrong thing whatever decision you make- this is really not an end all-be all decision for your kiddo ;)

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Rachel - posted on 06/21/2012

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So far we have only had girls so I haven't really had to face this one yet, although my husband and I have debated it for sure. My family is not circumcised and I never planned to or wanted to have my sons done. However my husband is, and his family feels very strongly that is should be done. We essentially agreed that should we ever need to decide it will be up to him, he knows how I feel but it's his son too and I can understand him wanting his boy to be like him. So I told him you know how strongly I feel it inst necessary, but if you feel that strongly that it should be done then the conditions are he needs to be in the room with him for the procedure and he needs to make sure he can take the week or so off needed to do the diaper changes until its healed. I think ppl get a bit too worked up over this topic, if you do have it done it will probably hurt but its not something he'll ever remember... If you don't get it done the chances of needing it done later are very slim unless your family has a history of needing them so he'll have a foreskin. I don't get what the big deal is. Its definitively a personal choice, you should go with what you and your husband are most comfortable with!

Whitney - posted on 06/12/2012

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I've heard that circ is easier to care for and keep clean. My husband is circ'd, and we're having our son circ'd as well. It was never a question in my mind. My deciding factors were the amount of care (I think it heals within a few days, maybe a week), the cleaning thru out his life, and the fact that I don't want him made fun of as he grows up! You obviously don't mind uncirc'd, but I do lol. I think they look weird. It might be childish, but it's true. That said, I don't want my son made fun of by something I can control, you know?

As far as your mother, who cares. this is your child, and the decision is yours and your husbands. no one else's.

User - posted on 04/15/2012

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My fiance and I discussed this, although it turns out we are having a girl... I did a bit of research and found that a vast majority take on the "look like daddy" approach. I think that dads tend to feel more comfortable, and boys have a better understanding of their "plumbing" because of the similarity.

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