Sending my 4 year old to preschool

Iva - posted on 10/17/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )




I recently put my 4 year old in preschool and he was enjoying it so much. A few weeks ago he started having temper tantrums not wanting to go to school. It was over within a week. Is this likely to happen again or was it just a stage he went through? It was terribly hard on me and I hate to go throught it again...any tips on what I can do if it happens again?


Latisha - posted on 11/02/2009




My son is in his second year of preschool and he often says that he does not want to go back but when he is there he really likes it. I also found it helpful if you visit their class atleast 2-3 times a month maybe more if possible because that helps them transition better. I also enjoy it because I get to know the other children and also connect with his teachers. They will have days though you just have to reassure them and make the feel comfortable about attending school. Kindergarten is going to be very different so I am preparing my son for that also right now with reading and learning how to hold a pencil and trace words and letters. Workbooks are a dollar at like a dollar store and it helps them learn, also flash cards and start reading!


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Hesti - posted on 11/11/2009




My son did the same, started preschool at age three and a half at the start of the year, also went through these stages the whole year of not being able to wait to leave in the morning for weeks and then just one morning tears and screaming of not wanting mommy to leave... I think we must remember that they are still small and that attachment and seperation anxiety still plays a big role in their lives and especially with getting used to the different setup...

Dea - posted on 11/04/2009




Mine (now 7 and doing great in 2nd grade) was also apprehensive about going to school. He would complain and whine, but once he got there he was fine. For him it was simply the act of doing something different.

Samantha - posted on 11/01/2009




My son is in preschool and loves it. However I would ask questions constantly if he was acting out saying he didn't want to go. There is a reason for everything kids do. It could be minor like a kid isn't to nice to him or major like the staff not doing their jobs.

Christine - posted on 10/23/2009




Make sure he is ok. I had this problem with my 4 year old and it turns out he was having trouble making friends. So i spoke with the teacher and she gave him a little extra attention for a little while and now he is fine. He loves school. I would make sure he is ok though, maybe volunteer at the school and observe how he interacts with the other kids. My son would stand by himself all the time against the wall. Now he plays with everyone.

Shawna - posted on 10/21/2009




My 4 year old was attending a daycare and he didn't really like it or hate it but the time came when he really did not enjoy it at all. As soon as we woke up in the morning until i left him at the daycare he was crying. One night at bath time i was telling him that he was going to daycare in the morning when he wakes up and he would see all his friends and i started to name them and when i mentioned a boy named "cody" he said "Mom, cody is bad" I said why and he said "cody hits me" Right there and then i knew this must be why he doesn't like to go. Anyway now he attends a smaller daycare and he likes it there. I have not had any crying fits since he started there.
My son has special needs and the other daycare was a big more bilingual daycare and i think that had alot to do with it also.

Yesenia - posted on 10/21/2009




I too would like some tips. My 4 year old daughter hates preschool. Every morning that she goes she claims to have a tummy ache and heads straight to the bathroom in the morning. Tips are so welcomed

Adele - posted on 10/19/2009




this is normal i had the same experience , its all new to them but 9 times out of 10 there is a reason behind every behaviour i found that a child had said something aor done something comunication is the key keep asking questions everyday the minute they come out like Who was good and who was bold today and make if funny like if he tells you what someone bold say just say what a silly billy but explain too what was wrong kids can be so cruel . Its a big change and he is prob use to more attention and not haven to fight for it its a learning curve all we can do is reassure them .hope this helps

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