my daughter can't wipe!

Tiffany - posted on 07/11/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )




My daughter isn't able to wipe her own butt. She can wipe in the front if she wipes back to front. But her arms are too short for front to back. She was going to start school in September, but if she can't wipe herself front to back, they will not take her.
Any advice?!


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Bridgette - posted on 01/07/2012




My son doesn't wipe yet either. Sure he would give it his "best" if I left it up to him. But I, with my ocd tendencies, am not able to do that. I am a little disturbed by what would be left... I have to say though, in response to the comment about what teachers should and shouldn't do, while it would be NICE if we lived in a world where you can trust your child's teacher no matter what, AND the OTHER way around...the teacher could trust the parents of the child (seriously, people will accuse others of anything these days)..we simply don't. If I were a teacher, I have to say that while I wouldn't mind helping a child going to the bathroom...I would be extremely wary of his/her parents' reactions to my help. Can you imagine being in a situation where you simply helped a child wipe her butt because she couldn't, and suddenly you're being charged with molesting a child or something? The rules are there for reasons. Sad that it's necessary, but it is.
But I do agree w/the suggestion to find a school that is open to helping if the child needs it. Just make sure it's something that you're comfortable with. And that your child is comfortable with, too. I'm not sure how my son would feel about someone else wiping him.. ?

Janine - posted on 10/17/2011




We are talking about an almost 5 year old that is about to start school right... that means prep... the school isnt going to take the child if she can not wipe her bottom... Then simply do not go to that school. Not every child by this age can wipe nor wipes correctly. Oh sure they may try and can even wash their hands afterwards but that doesnt mean they have done it well. When children are in prep it is still as much as child care, a place where little children need a little guidance. It is in my view pitiful to think these people who are "teacher" cannot and will not guide your child in whatever that may entail. I will add that the poor dear will get the hang of it soon, your guidance is of the utmost importance here and she will learn by your comfortable and loving example first and foremost. You still have a little time on your hands so stick with it...

Courtney - posted on 10/12/2011




My daughter is getting the hang of it thank goodness! She still "forgets" to sometimes though. I make her use wipies and that seems to help. I just have to constantly remind her, front to back, front to back. Another thing that helps is when she is sitting on the toilet, she will practically lay down on her legs so she can reach her bottom better. Just be patient mom! She will get there! When she does it right, reward her!

Opal - posted on 10/06/2011




She will eventually get it! Practice makes perfect! Encourage! Encourage! I have a 4 year old and she just started preschool this this day she cant wipe it all the best but she sure tries! When she does..she uses half the roll of toilet paper, gets it all over her seat,her hands, her bum, and gosh where else so we just take a bath! Just keep at it and she will eventually get it! Maybe have her stand up instead of sitting! Keep your chin up! SHe will get it!

Tarika - posted on 09/07/2011




My daughter is the same way. I am trying to teach her the same thing. One thing I am finding out helpfully is that I told my daughter that when she ready to wipe to just stand up(get off the toilet) and than wipe. I let her use baby wipe still case it is easer for her to get between her butt. My daughter does fine wipeing when she pees I am just trying to get her to start doing it when she poops. I dont force her to I just tell her hey you got to wipe and when you get done I will go behind you and do the rest. It seems that made feel better at doing it.

Christy - posted on 07/30/2011




Are they going to watch her wipe her butt or what? Give me a break (not at you, the school). My son can't wipe his own butt to save his life, he ends up wiping, getting it all over his hands, and them wiping his hands on the wall! ARG! I would just keep at it and if she hasn't perfected it by school, don't say anything to them about her lack of wiping and see what happens.

Melissa - posted on 07/26/2011




My only advice is to keep at it! Keep encouraging her to do it herself, even if you have to do it for her in the end. But if she keeps trying to do it herself she will hopefully be able to get the hang of it soon!

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