Pacifier worries, no more. Cold turkey does work.

Corey - posted on 11/05/2008 ( 10 moms have responded )

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So, I have a son - Otis - born June 1, 2007. At his 15-month doctor's appointment, our pediatrician suggested we begin the process of removing his pacifier - first from daytime access and then from nighttime access. Stressing about it, I pushed it off for a month, promising I'd deal with it before his 18-month appointment.



I actually considered taking some vacation time from work to start an extended weekend weaning process, because I assumed the worst. I figured he would desperately cry for the paci, would never fall asleep without it, and/or would wake up frequently throughout the night searching for it, crying out when he couldn't find it. I'd heard horror stories - and extreme tactics, like calling on the "Paci-fairy" to redistribute all of the pacis to new babies while leaving my toddler a gift for his courage...



One random evening, just out of curiosity, my husband and I decided to try to put him to bed without the paci. We followed our normal nighttime routine, except when I laid him down, I didn't give him a paci. I turned off the lights, walked out, and waited. And waited. And waited - nothing. That was it. He went to sleep, and he slept solidly through the night. After 3 days of the same, we tossed the pacifiers. It was that simple.



While I'm not suggesting it will be that easy for all parents/toddlers, I did want to post this to let those facing this issue know that you shouldn't assume the worst. Kids are so resilient that they just move on to something else, some other source of security. I guess if my approach fails, you can call the paci-fairy...



Corey

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Corey - posted on 11/11/2008

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Way to go Deanna. You're doing great. If I could guess, she'll protest 2-3 more times at bedtime, but will have forgotten about it by next week. You're almost there! DON'T let the grandparents ruin your hard work by giving in - who will it benefit?

Deanna - posted on 11/11/2008

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We went cold turkey last night. Not a pleasent exp. but it went ok. Summer cried for about 30-40 minutes but after that she was resigned to the fact that she was not getting her paci and finally laid down and went to sleep. So far this morning she has not had her paci (they are hidden so I figure out of sight is out of mind) and she's a totally different little girl. I hear sounds coming out of her mouth that I didn't even know she could make cause she always had that stupid paci in her mouth. Now I just have to get her Grandmother on board with this concept cause she's a big softie and she'll give in. Hopefully Grandpa will be help out in that area and give Grandma some strength NOT to give in.

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Lauren - posted on 11/13/2008

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Yes! I believe that we as parents are often more attached to the pacifier use than the babies are. I was very worried about it with my first. We didn't get rid of his till he was about 2. We had a "binky burial". Tanner (in my pic...now 13 yrs.) helped me gather all the binkies in the house. We put them in a shoe box. He chose a place in the yard to bury them. My husband dug a DEEP hole. We told him that when he got rid of them, that meant he was a BIG boy so he was going to get a big boy toy. We buried them, went to the toy store and bought a race track. He had one night of some uneasy sleep and after that, he was just fine! Good luck. I will start weaning my daughter soon. She uses her binky at nap and bedtime.

Deanna - posted on 11/12/2008

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Thanks Corey for the encouragement!!!! I wasn't sure I was going to be able to do it but I held fast (even the grandparents are supporting me). Last night was a little better. She stood in her crib and protested just a little bit. She whined and cried a little but it was A LOT better than the night before when she screamed like she was being murdered. I figured it'd take a 2-3 days before she completely forgets about that paci. Thanks for the idea of going cold turkey though.

Lindy - posted on 11/11/2008

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We aren't going cold turkey, but we aren't using it during the day. We put them in his crib and say bye-bye when we leave his room for breakfast. Then I grab one for nap and bedtime. I know he's tired now when he heads into his room to find his binky. I agree that more words and sounds come out of their mouths without the binky.

Corey - posted on 11/10/2008

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Yeah - Otis' speech has really picked up since we nixed the pacifiers. It's not necessarily that he's adding new words, it's that he's working more on proper pronunciation.

Deanna - posted on 11/08/2008

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I think Summer and I are going to have to try this cold turkey concept. She has that paci stuck in her mouth 85% of the time. At her last doc appt. the pediatrician asked how often she used it and and I said that the paci was in her mouth a lot. She suggested removing it simply so Summer could form words and speak. Not because the paci was shaping the roof of her mouth funny or anything else. So now I am considering going cold turkey and seeing what happens.

User - posted on 11/06/2008

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This is good to know! I decided a couple months ago I just wasn't going to buy any more pacifiers, and that we would go cold turkey when the last one was either lost or too chewed-up to keep around. We're down to the last 2, so it'll be any day now...

Corey - posted on 11/06/2008

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I guess the roof of his mouth was forming the shape of his pacifier - she could tell that he used one just by looking at it. He wasn't a frequent paci user, though. I only gave him one in the car and at bedtime (not even for naps). And still, she could tell. She was concerned enough to recommend we take it away soon before damage was done.



I have a girlfriend whose son goes to the same pediatrician. He uses a paci at 16 months, and she has never recommended the parents take it away. So, it may be a case by case recommendation.

Lindy - posted on 11/06/2008

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What was your doctor's reasoning for having you get rid of it now? I know some kids who have them well past their second birthday and seem to do just fine. 

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