Help my son goes down my shirt...

Serene - posted on 10/26/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




i breastfed my son for 9 months, it took a while to wean him. I loved nursing my son; we have a wonderful bond together, and If i wouldn't have lost my milk supply I would of nursed longer. For the past month my son has been going down my shirt with his hands. I find it disturbing a little bit espicially when we are out in public when I am having a conversation with someone. (LOL) I was wondering if any of you ladies had the same problem if you nursed, with your LO or if it is normal behavior for a child to go down your shirt? What do you do about it? My friends joke around and tell me that he is going to be a breast man.


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Angela - posted on 12/01/2009




I soooo understand! the other day my son pointed to my breast and in a sad voice said "bite?" I dont know if it was just teething or if he remembered nursing (stopped at 12.5 months) I distracted him with something else to bite but it felt weird! I miss nursing but we are soooo done. I suggest distraction.. good luck and dont worry other moms understand.

Tisha - posted on 11/27/2009




My daughter does that the other moms said I think it's a comfort thing. I am still breastfeeding her and when she nurses she squeezes and pinches my chest a lot and whenever she reaches down my shirt while not nurses she does the same thing. So it's like the breastfeeding comfort without the milk involved lol. I usually just pull her hand away and distract her with something else. When she pinches me I ask her not to do that because it hurts mommy and she usually stops.

C. - posted on 11/27/2009




Ok, so I only breastfed my son for a couple weeks, due to complications.. He is 17 months old today and still occasionally puts his hand down my shirt, my mom's shirt, or tries to unbutton peoples shirts.. I think more than anything it is just curiosity. Just pull your son's hands away and tell him firmly (while looking into his eyes) "No!" And explain that it's not nice for him to do that. Be persistent with it. He needs to understand that it's not nice to try and put his hands down anyone's shirt or try to unbutton anyone's shirt. He should desist eventually. Good luck with everything!!!

Linda - posted on 11/27/2009




Hey. My son is 17 months and he wasn't breastfed either and he also does this. I agree with Mercedes about it maybe being a comfort thing.

Mercedes - posted on 11/18/2009




My 17 month old son does this quite often and he has never been breast fed a day in his life, he does it particularly when he is tired or needs comfort, i think it is just something to do with the comfort of skin to skin contact. i dont plan to discourage it just yet, will be better to wait until he can talk and understand a little bit better and i can then explain that its not very appropriate to do it in such a way, particularly in the middle of the supermarket!lol

Kelly - posted on 10/27/2009




my daughter does it but i havent brest fed her since she was 3 months old. To me it just seems like she's looking for something with her hands, she also does it to other women if they have a low cut top or buttoned shirt. (thats a little embarrassing) I personally arent worried about it, but ive learnt just to pull her hand out and ignore it otherwise she thinks its a game and gets silly with it and pull my top down and things like that.

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