Crying Baby

Dominique - posted on 12/28/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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Hello. My name is dominique. My daughter is 6months now and she was born premature. My problem is that she won't stop crying. No matter what we do she just doesn't stop. I've changed her milk three times, I give her mylicon for gas, change her, feed her, hold her, everything that you could think of I do and nothing works. Does anyone have any suggestions.

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Christina - posted on 01/08/2010

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my son was like that when i brought him home....totally driving me bananas!! i was trying to recover from an er c-section, breastfeed and take care of him...he cried ALL the time! the doctor suggested maybe acid reflux so he gave me some rx pepcid ($295!!!! for a one month supply!!!) well that diditn work, so i tried this stuff called "colic calm" i bought it from their website and worked miracles!! its all natural herbs and while it comes out like black runny charcoal, i didnt care it worked!
if you become to frustraed just the baby in his crib turn on his mobile close the door and walk away...baby will probably cry for awile, but it gives him time too have time to himself and he will learn to enteratin himself...this will also give you time to cool down and regroup! DONT feel guilty for giving baby a little time to himself!! Good luck! :)

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Beth - posted on 01/11/2010

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Have you tried swaddling her? My son went through a major cry fest at 4 months, which is developmentally where your baby is if she was 2 months premature. We swaddled him for an additional 2 months and it totally solved the crying problem. Literally just started letting him sleep unswaddled about 3 weeks ago. Good luck!

CHERYL - posted on 01/11/2010

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hi im feeling for u my babies were prem as well and they cry-alot too it can be quite hard somedays people always say to me that they are teething which i dont think they are!i dont now if it was something to do with the birth or being in seperate incubators for a few wks!mine both had colic which someone told me prem babies are over fed to get them to put weight on and cause they had colic i held thm alot which now they are 6month old are hard to settle! i keep telling my self this is just a phase and it will pass soon!sorry couldnt be of more help,just wanted to let u no u r not on your own!

Heather - posted on 01/11/2010

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I have 2 grown boys and now a six month old daughter, and I've learned from experience that if you let the baby get anxious and worked up, they will learn that that's how to get your attention. If you can learn to foresee when the crying fits are coming, you can try to distract baby and get them focused on something pleasant and fun. I don't wait for baby to fuss to feed her, I just know when it's time. I change her diaper frequently so she doesn't feel uncomfortable. She has learned that she doesn't need to cry or fuss, that I will be there for her when she needs me, so she hardly ever cries. Only time she does is if she has hurt herself, then I am there immediately to comfort her, and she calms down quickly. I read somewhere that if you let babies cry for long periods that they will throw more tantrums when they are older, because they feel like that's the only way to get your attention. I know some babies are more needy and there are so many reasons why they get upset, but if you show them that you are always there with a smile and hugs and kisses, eventually they learn to trust you will be there to help when they need you. I've been doing this since she was born and like I said, she hardly ever cries, she will play happily by herself with her toys when I'm busy doing housework, doesn't fuss at all when it's time to nap, and eagerly eats her meals when I feed her. But your "mom instinct" will guide you to the best solution for your little one, I can only offer you this little bit of advice, and hopefully some of it will help you. Good luck!

Rachael - posted on 01/10/2010

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Definitely sound like my little guy! he's been teething vigorously for a few months, and has one tooth. We've tried everything, but to be honest, none of the teething tabs or medicine works. The best thing we did was buy a vibrating teething ring (at Walmart for super cheap), and learn to give him space. Also, when they are teething, they tend to need more sleep than usual, so try laying her down (and it does help to walk away). I let him cry it out for about 10 or 15 minutes, but no longer than that because I don't want him to get to riled up and choke or anything. It also helps him if I take a breath and come back when I'm feeling good. Hope this helps!

Melissa - posted on 01/10/2010

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is she teething? Try using Camilla, its all natural. I bought it in the vile format and its great

Nimisha - posted on 01/10/2010

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I agree, sometimes babies just need their space.
Another thing you could try is to take your baby to an osteopath, it sounds a bit strange but it really worked for us and we only needed to go a couple of times (although thinking about going again for a maintenance visit!). Our osteopath uses cranial osteopathy to relax any tense muscles and make our daughter more comfortable ... after 2 appointments she was much better and less sick from crying. Anything is worth a try, right?

Alicia - posted on 01/09/2010

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Christina, Thank you for the reminder that when baby is inconsolable and Mom is frustrated, it's time to walk away. I have had times when I worked myself into a tizzy trying to calm baby, only to have to walk away. Sometimes she falls asleep after I'm gone. Maybe I was over-stimulating her and making it worse. Maybe she was picking up my frustration and getting more upset because I was. So feel free to walk away if you need to, because it may be what baby needs too.

Alicia - posted on 01/07/2010

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"if nothing is wrong with her then it maybe emotional, that's why she needs calming."

This is a good point. My daughter was waking at night and crying. I thought my daughter was teething and I was giving her Tylenol and frozen wash clothes to chew on. Then I brought her in for her 6 month appointment and the doctor suggested that it might be emotional. Apparently this is about the age babies start to get more clingy and more afraid of being alone. I have found that extra cuddles and a warm bath before bed have actually really helped.

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@Katie DeLeon: I'm glad you pointed that out! My son was diagnosed with acid reflux at 7 wks. old and the only time he screams is if I'm late giving him his Zantac. (There are multiple liquid acid reflux medicines out there, but Zantac has been the most effective with my son.)

Also, my son was a preemie and born lactose/milk intolerant. It took FIVE different formulas to finally get it right. He is currently on Similac Alimentum, and although it is expensive, it is the only formula he can digest properly- he has intense stomach cramps and inconsistent dirty diapers if he is fed a formula other than the Alimentum. You may honestly want to get a 2nd opinion about lactose intolerance; the doctor at the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit my son was at informed me that "babies are NOT born lactose intolerant!" I beg to differ because he is the fifth generation to be born with that intolerancy. Also, despite what people think, if your baby is allergic to milk, most soy formulas STILL have a milk BASE in them, so they can still have an intolerance to soy formulas.

Sinsoea - posted on 01/03/2010

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I first baby was a premie, she did not like to be touched by other people, only me. I would sing to her vrey low and calm.Your baby feeds off your emotions, if your upset she can since that and she will be upset too. Try batheing her in night time baby bath, and cuddle with her and be as calm with her as you can, if nothing is wrong with her then it maybe emotional, that's why she needs calming.

Jillian - posted on 01/03/2010

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Dominique, My name is Jillian. I have definitely been through the crying stage a couple times. The teething tablets work sometimes and then I double up with teething tablets and tylenol. There is also a teething gel. It is said to be better than the tablets but the tablets work better for my daughter. But all in all the best thing is to pray. Every night when I put my daughter to bed I pray. First I thank God for a day with my daughter that we got to be together and that I am so grateful for her. Then I pray that she will fall asleep easily and effortlessly and that she will sleep peacefully all through the night until 8 o'clock in the morning and wake up rested and happy, full of laughs and smiles. I pray that she is healthy, happy and terrific all day with no pain and developing perfectly. I pray for her to know God as her savior at an early age and to love him boldly and sweetly that she may be influencial in a positive way. I pray for her to be pure and true to her convictions. I pray for her to have good friends and boy friends. I pray for her to be intelligent, a hard worker, and persevering. I pray for her to be shielded from harm and to shine with goodness, kindness and honor.

Dominique - posted on 01/02/2010

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Hey Mandy. I have tried everything you have said and nothing is working. She is even crying with the food in her mouth. I don't know what else to do. I am out of ideas and it's driving me crazy. Thnks for your suggestions and thnk you everyone else you gave suggestions also. There is nothing else I can do. She has been to the doctor also and they are saying nothing is medically wrong with her. Thnk you all for your help.

Mandy - posted on 12/30/2009

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My son (6 mo) is not gaining like they want him to. The dietitian told me to try 2 oz of formula, mixed with some cereal and then if I wanted to add a number 1 foods. I've only been doing fruits and veggies, but that might help too... let me know how it works.

Dominique - posted on 12/29/2009

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I have tried tylenol, and she isn't teething yet. I checked more than one time to see if she is and nothing. To mandy, I will try the solid foods, I have only been given cereal but I will try more and see what happens and keep you posted. Thanks all for your suggestions.

Amanda - posted on 12/28/2009

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I feel your pain. Maybe she's is teething. Mine got her first tooth the day she turned 4 months and she was inconsolable for a few days. I'd hold her and she's scream so bad it had me in tears. Tylenol does help.

Vicie - posted on 12/28/2009

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Have you tried Hyland's Teething tablets?

My little one gets really fussy when he's over tired, and the only thing that gets him to settle when he's like that is to put him in a sling and walk the house with him. He will fuss for a few minutes then settle down and fall asleep in the sling. Maybe that would help your daughter.

Good luck. I know it's so frustrating to listen to them cry.

Mandy - posted on 12/28/2009

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Tylenol? Have you tried a little tylenol, she could be teething... that and if it is teething a refrigerated teether helps some babies (none of mine) but mine liked a cool (not cold) wet wash cloth to chew on... or maybe are you feeding her any solids? if not maybe she's hungry, my 6 mo old was ready for solids and some cereal.he's eating two meals a day now...if none of these work, pray and call the doc?! let me know though I'll see if there's anything else I can think of. Good luck!

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